I’m also in no way shocked by @Sunshineandflipflops’s weekend update. I don’t think even asda’s Unicorn pants would have stopped you there. 😂
@Splendidsun I’d find out what he was doing last night. He might have been out with work or friends or something. That said, messaging habits can tell you a lot. I’m often really useless with messaging, although (interestingly) not with MrSG. I always reply to him reasonably quickly (not even consciously). It might take me days to respond to my mother (for example) but I always want to communicate with him.
On dumping... I guess it depends on how long it’s been etc. After one date, a message is totally fine. But you wouldn’t end a 15 year relationship that way (unless you’re spectacularly horrible). There’s obviously a lot of space in between those two options, however. 😆
I know you have decided what to do about your MrMuchMoreMarriedThanHeClaims, @Savoretti. But they aren’t always lying when they say they’re separated but still stuck in the same house. I was in that situation when I met MrSG and so was he. We were both definitely not being loose with the truth. I was in the process of conveyancing on my old house sale (and despairing of having to put up with my horrible ex) while MrSG’s ex was continuing her affair and spending most nights sleeping at her boyfriend’s (parents’) house. Yes, readers, they actually conducted an extramarital affair in his parents house.
I think the difference is that neither of us were lying to anyone about anything. That is the thing that’s make you think: ‘does your wife know you’re separated?’
Glad the date was better than expected @MyOldBrainStoppedWorking. It sounds like he needs a hobby though. I can totally understand why you’d want someone who isn’t in some winding down to retirement limbo.
What made you think there may be some homophobia, @MrDrummer?
Glad it’s going so well @Ant330. Introducing her to some friends is definitely something. You’ll probably be wanting one of the super comfy smitten bench cushions.
I’m also glad you had a great time on holiday, @Marlboroandmalbec34. It sounds like the situation with MrBig has improved. Friends indeed.
9 weeks @JeSuisPrest. And 😍😍😍. How lovely. I think blurting it out during a muddy coalie back through a field sounds way more romantic than anything candlelit. Imagine if your life were a movie: that would make a way better scene. And obviously would be much more you.
I’m so happy that @shitwithsugaron is still all loved up too. Lovely, lovely stuff.
MrSG and I managed to have our first proper argument at the weekend. He was a dick on Saturday night (he was drunk, but it’s no excuse). We’ve sorted it out and he’s very apologetic. He definitely will not be doing that again.
On the positive side, I met several of his old friends and realised that we’ve started to indicate the length of the relationship as ‘about a year now’. I think I may have to stop taking up space on the smitten bench and invent a chintz sofa of well established relationships (rather than dating adventures) in the corner. Obviously you are all welcome to join me here (should you want to). It’s less exciting than any of the dating adventures benches but we have nice biscuits.