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To think he's just a dickhead?

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GirlOnIt · 30/05/2019 21:57

Recently I feel like I've woken up and I'm seeing the real Dp. I don't like it and I'm planning on leaving, he doesn't know that though.

I've got a good friend who's going through a crappy time and she's in our home town this week. I'd arranged to meet up tonight. Dp was definitely going to be home by 7, then 8!

Well where the fuck is he? He's making excuses that it's work, but it's bullshit and I know it. He's doing it because he can and so I don't go out, probably just sat in the pub all by his lonesome miserable little self. Dickhead and then he'll come home apologising and hoping to get it on.

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RandomMess · 30/05/2019 22:07

Guess you have DC?

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GirlOnIt · 30/05/2019 22:15

Oh yes @RandomMess. I missed that off, sorry.

We've got a baby and he's not all that well so I didn't want to leave him with anyone else. Dp promised it was no problem and he'd be home. I got dressed and ready, then got a text at 7 saying he was running a bit late! But ducking late it's after 10 now.

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RandomMess · 30/05/2019 22:18

It's really out of order of him Angry I would still go out just to make a point tbh...

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GirlOnIt · 30/05/2019 22:20

I just don't get him! Does he think I believe he's working and couldn't avoid it? Does he just think I'll put up with it? And why? To embarrass me of upset me?

I just don't know what's happened to him so he must have always just been a dickhead and he just hid it well before Ds was born.

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RandomMess · 30/05/2019 22:21

It's a way of controlling you...

RandomMess · 30/05/2019 22:22

He thinks you're trapped now...

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GirlOnIt · 30/05/2019 22:22

I'm sat in my clothes and when he gets in I'm going out. No matter what time. I'll go walk round the 24hr Tesco if I have to, but I'll go out.

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RandomMess · 30/05/2019 22:23

Good! Is your friend around the next few days?

I would meet up again and not tell him! Say you're popping out to the shop or whatever and inform him by text you'll be late back!

CostanzaG · 30/05/2019 22:24

This is outrageous. Absolutely go out. Then you need to have a serious conversation tomorrow.

SheChoseDown · 30/05/2019 22:24

I'm so sorry ☹️ that's a proper shitty thing for him to do. Yes definitely still go out whatever time he rolls in. Fuck him. Chin up girl ❤️

SheChoseDown · 30/05/2019 22:25

Random has it spot on hip hip hooray

hereiam19 · 30/05/2019 22:27

Aw that’s so shitty I’d have been tempted to invite my friend over so she can also see him coming home from “his work” then the two of you going on out

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GirlOnIt · 30/05/2019 22:29

No she goes home tomorrow @RandomMess. That's the worst thing, I don't want to tell her he's being a dick, because I don't want to put my problems on her right now. So I've had to say he was genuinely late with work.

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Rachelle11 · 30/05/2019 22:39

Can you have her over to your place?

Motherof3feminists · 30/05/2019 22:42

Selfish controlling prick. I'm
Glad you're going to leave him Thanks

MrsTommyBanks · 30/05/2019 22:45

Don't fucking cover for him.
He will get physical next time.

janetforpresident · 30/05/2019 22:51

Is he still not there?

overnightangel · 30/05/2019 22:54

@MrsTommyBanks
“He will get physical next time”

what you basing this on??

RandomMess · 30/05/2019 22:57

Came you meet her for brunch?

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GirlOnIt · 30/05/2019 23:03

He came home and I walked out. Told him he needs to check on Ds and there's milk in the fridge if he wakes up. Now I'm sat in my car, wondering what the fuck I've done with my life.

I'm going to see her tomorrow before she goes home.

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GirlOnIt · 30/05/2019 23:06

I did say she could come here, but she wanted to get out and out other friend was meeting her too. So she at least hasn't been alone tonight.

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Charlieandthechocolatecake · 30/05/2019 23:10

Whereabouts are you? I'll be more than happy to go for a drink with you if your in Ashford, Kent x

Charlieandthechocolatecake · 30/05/2019 23:11

Very unlikely I know but I've just waxed my legs!

twitterbird · 30/05/2019 23:13

What a fucking prick Thanksfor you OP

MyKingdomForBrie · 30/05/2019 23:14

If you're not happy you don't have to settle for this. You can leave him and still co parent. You deserve to be happy.