Why do men cheat?

[birling]

If they're "happy"? First loves, intensive relationship, two children

Why cheat?

Because they’re not “happy”.

If they're not happy, why not say or elaborate what they want?

I think anyone has the capacity to cheat, given the right/wrong circumstances.

Boredom.

There’s something not right if someone cheats. The relationship isn’t working but they’re too cowardly to get out before they move on. That applies to both males and females!

“ why not say or elaborate”

Because they want to sleep with another person/people but not lose their family I guess.

The same reason women do.

What if they relish having partner and children but also want the thrill of a new women and the excitement of dating? So in theory, "the best of both worlds"
Would that be feasible? How can it be dealt with if this is the case?

The Edmund Hilary answer.... “Because it was there....”
They had the opportunity and they took it.
Arseholes.

The answers will be varied and to a large extent dependant on the person and the relationship.

Which would be exactly the same if you asked 'Why do women cheat?'

Again, no generic definitive answer.

That was George Mallory :)

I agree with old... I think the ability to cheat is in all of us, and I'm not convinced monogamy is something a lot of people are suited for.

But no one in our society is forced to marry (ignoring certain awful religious cases). So if you aren't prepared to honour your vows, it is not honest to enter into marriage IMO.

What if they relish having partner and children but also want the thrill of a new women and the excitement of dating?

Yes, that is often how it is. My ex loved being a family man, loved being married to me "because I was like his mother". But he was very attracted to anyone new / sexy/ exciting / available. He loved the thrill of the chase, illicit sex, all that thrilling stuff.

How to deal with it ? I don't know - you normally find out about it after the event so you can't really "deal with it" because it's already happened. I dealt with it by getting a divorce .

Because there are women to cheat with.

My ex slept with my best friend who was living with us and my child, I put it down to drunkenness and being incredibly selfish and that he thought that they could get away with it. The cheekiest bit was after they sleep together they both came and stayed at my mums house with me for my daughters birthday and drinking and slagging off where my mum lived......still raging 5 months after the break up.

Tbh I knew something was up, the atmosphere was odd for months after It made me a bit crazy and damaged my mental health.

Are you okay?

Mostly opportunity.

I think they treat it like porn thinking it's just sex. No big deal.
compartmentalising it.

Immaturity in the thrill of sneaking around.

Because women usually don't think of sex that way, men underestimate how much pain and damage it does to the woman.

My ex never wanted to leave me and loved me as much as he's capable of, that was the headfuck of it all. But he also wanted to shag around. So there you go. I deserved better than that.

With a lot of people, the natural attraction is how someone looks, so I think sex is the key driver. I think someone who is sexually fulfilled and happy with the relationship in general, would never cheat.

Because there are women to cheat with.

Give me a break - poor men unable to say no ?

It's NOT about sex , its about feeling wanted and desired and the rush of an affair .

You can't be what he wants now. And you'll never have the answers.

He cheated because he can and he wanted to and you just don't mean enough to him.

Scrape up what's left of your self respect and walk away. You can do better.

A whole number of reasons (and i'm guessing the same for women)

They're unhappy in their relationship for whatever reason
Their relationship has become platonic but they are comfy in it
They've actively sought an affair because they love the thrill
They're a repeat cheater, never respect their partners and don't enjoy being faithful
They want an ego boost
They blur the boundaries of friendship and it turns into an emotional affair.
An emotional affair turns physical over time
Escapism from the boring bits of day to day life but want the comforts of being at home
Opportunism

Though I would guess the motivations would differ between sexual affairs and emotional affairs.

OP who is this person you are referring to? Is this the same man who you've posted two threads about being a Tommy Robinson supporter (despite the fact you, yourself, are - in your own words - a foreigner? And who had another woman at work? Did you not finish with him when you found out about the other woman? I'm assuming not, because you're clearing still living with him hence the Tommy Robinson threads.