Why do men cheat?

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If they're "happy"? First loves, intensive relationship, two children

Why cheat?

I would like to ask why do women cheat?

Cheating is not just exclusive to one sex. Both males and females are guilty and their reasons would all be individual to them. I don't think there is a straight answer that fits all.

@SpecterLitt - honestly? We can't have kids, and I don't think I like myself very much at the moment, and I am not making good decisions. Nothing to do with my partner specifically, though I am struggling to get him to open up to me about what we're going through. The other person was an escape from that difficult reality. It's a shit, cliched reason, but it is what it is.

Speaking from my experience his ego got bigger as he worked his way up the ladder and he wanted his ego fed. Also I genuinely believe that there are many cheaters, both men and women, who love the thrill and excitement of a lie. My husband was a pathological liar and lied about everything. Even since we have split he still lies! Oh how glad I am to see the back of him.

www.itscheating.com/cheating/emotionally-retarded-men-and-spider-women-a-psychiatrist-identifies-seven-forms-of-cheaters/

Icedpurple I don't think it is always easy to remove yourself from a situation. People work together, sometimes on projects that requires them to spend inordinate time together, often late into the night. Working together on something can be very bonding. Feelings can develop and You can't just walk away from your job. Or most people can't. Just putting out there that I haven't ever had an affair but I can do easily see how people do.

People work together, sometimes on projects that requires them to spend inordinate time together, often late into the night. Working together on something can be very bonding.

Come on. What proportion of affairs result from people working "on projects that requires them to spend inordinate time together, often late into the night"? Let alone on projects which are 'bonding', whatever that is?

And even for the tiny number who do, they can still walk away from temptation. That's if if they love and respect their partner of course.

IcedPurple

“That's if if they love and respect their partner of course.”

Agree, that’s the very simple crux of it. People who cheat don’t. You don’t lie to someone you love and respect (whatever people may like to tell themselves, “I still love them but”. No, you don’t).

How I wish spammers would learn to punctuate nicely.

They are selfish and love the ego boost.

The ow shouldn’t really feel that special though because he’s probably cheating with more than just one woman. He can’t be faithful to his dw so why be faithful to a mistress?

Like a cheating man I knew in the past, his favourite saying was “Any hole’s a goal”.

@Sarah134 you need to spend a bit less time spamming and scamming and a bit more time working on your SPAG. Here’s a top tip for free - sentences start with capital letters, a bit like this:

See?

Tactfulish- it really doesn't take long to send a message. It's also not always that many in one day. But ultimately I guess it's easy to make time for something that you really want to do. My husband isn't around a lot to see what I'm doing and I could be texting anyone.

Because the cheater (male or female) is weak, selfish and entitled.

I'm cheating.

My reasosn are a marriage with sex that has left my needs unfulfilled and my self esteem in tatters.

Thought I would do it once, currently considering a third affair.

My experience is that men are seeking intimacy and sex that their marriages lack - as am I.

My reasosn are a marriage with sex that has left my needs unfulfilled and my self esteem in tatters.

That sounds like a reason to leave your marriage, not to deceive your partner.

Re phone habits - always have a lock on the phone

Let the children and other people use it, and hide everything in secure folders.

I chat to a few people, friends etc, to hide other activity.

Try not to act moody.

Yes leaving should be my next move, but small children make it hard.

@ItsMeAnnie
@VirtuallyConfused

There is never no excuse, grow up, gain some respect for yourselves and your partners and either leave or sort your relationships out.

It's despicable, low, hugely selfish , and shows a huge lack of morality.

"small children make it hard to leave" - maybe you should have actually think of them as well when you shagged someone else.

"Why do men cheat"? Because the ones that do are selfish, self centered wankers, much like the women that do.

Tactfulish- my phone has a passcode and thumbprint ID on it. And it never, ever leaves my side. I don't delete anything- all on WhatsApp so there's not chance of it syncing to other devices etc.

Looks like my ds will end up marrying the girl he met at 16. Worries me as would it not be normal say at age 30 not to wonder what it’s like with another woman?