Dating Thread 158 - Don't wait until the iron is hot to strike

[Greenland55]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Ha. Forgot to change my username back.

Anyhow moral of the thread title is you don't have to wait for the iron to ask you out, you can ask them

Yayyyy been waiting for a new one. Thank you

Good title! 👍 No irons anyway, two left that I'm not interested in, and one who now happens to live too far away... But the film this afternoon was actually really good! Avengers Endgame. Think I needed to get out of the house. Thank you all for bearing with me and my moans. Now have 🍷

First date in weeks lined up for Monday.... Just discovered his Facebook profile (we have a mutual friend, yes I know it's a bit stslkerish) and he's married!!! Relationship status displayed as married, loads of recent pictures of him and his wife.
Yet he's on bumble saying he's looking for a relationship and is arranging dates!?!

I'll see what he replies when I question it. He'll probably not reply I'm sure and just block me but here goes.

Ugh what a creep @ceebeegee

Delete and block after you’ve told him you know he’s married. No doubt he’ll come out with some sort of “reason”.

He's getting divorced apparently

I don't believe a word of it. Just unmatched him. Is anyone faithful these days!?!?

Bet he'd forgotten to tell his wife he was getting divorced

I would message her with the screenshots and Bumble profile. She deserves to be know.

Do not get me started on this @Ceebeegee

This has happened to me more than I can even believe. Knocks me sick.

@Mel6l72 @Ceebeegee agree.. just msg the wife. All of us deserve the truth fgs.

Thanks for the new thread @Greenland55 :-)

I agree, with telling the wife. When I asked my ex's wife if they were separated (was for my own reasons) when she told me they weren't. I hated him, but I was so pleased o told her the truth and that I didn't know he was still happily married.

She's still with him but my mind is clear @Ceebeegee

Completely off-topic. I need to find a thread that will be as positive as this one - but one for helping with DD with OCD. There are so many conversations about this going on. I'd just like a really supportive one and MN is a minefield. Any help gratefully accepted!

Sorry midcentury cannot help but sure someone will.

ceebee I would just delete and block as I wouldn’t want to get involved in the drama.

I am doing the fade out with Mr Big. Gonna find myself someone AMAZING

Ceebedgee what a git!
So I’m back and resisted a whole week going on line! Lol. It is so addictive. Signed on last night and Un hid and got a message in amongst the chaff from someone I liked the look of last time I looked but felt he was too far - about 25 miles. Anyway after like 2 messages he suggested we meet today and so I thought you know what what have I got to lose?! Meeting for drinks at 4 and when I said I didn’t know the bar he said he’d meet me at station and walk with me 😊Bit worried about travel arrangements to get home as wondering if taxis will be hard to come by on a Sunday?!? Anyway, he can be Mr races

Ceebeegee I would tell the wife. As the one who was cheated on I would always rather know!

ccgirr Mr Tall is 31 miles away! Which I would've said was too far but we're meeting halfway tonight for drinks. I'm planning to get the last train home so as to not have to worry about a taxi?

My 'date' with MrFox at mine last night was... AMAZING. I told him how I have been feeling a little insecure with things and he admitted he is rubbish at communicating by text/phone but that he will try harder. He definitely reassured me.
The best bit? After a bit of an awkward lead up from him, it's established that we have gone past the dating stage and are now 'together'.
So if there is room on the smitten bench....

@Ceebeegee I've been the wife in this situation- tell her. She will thank you one day.

Itsamiracle it’s others on the thread that made me think worth trying the distance. I’m going to get train part of way but then will need taxi. He said he’d message this morning to confirm so we shall see.

Yeahhhh @30somethingandsingle so pleased it went well

I always do distance @ccgirr it's a good balance for me.

So Mr Filth is a novice player I've decided. I'm still going to meet him. But all he does is talk about himself and sex. I've tried to engage a few times in better conversation but it just leads back to sex. I say he's a novice player because he tries to say all the right things... looking for someone, really likes me (we've not met 🙄). I'm going to meet him I've told him there will be no sex on date 1 and probably date 2. But he's driving to see me. So see how things go.

Super pleased for you 30

When are you meeting Mr Filth lifegoes?

Life goes- yeah you might be right and he’s just by a big shopping center 😂
When are you due to meet mr filth?

Wow shitwith 10 miles in 45 mins I’m in the sticks so would be 30 mins but yeah I know what you mean. After work I wouldn’t want to do that. Though with kids I can’t anyway so he’d have to if he wants to see me in week 😂🤦🏻‍♀️