Dating Thread 156 - It is hot hot hot

[midcenturylegs]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

Pm sent notcool. Was about to post in public but was too outing.

notcool thanks I'll do it later when I get home from work.
marlboro order some more in the right size. I bought a load of new clothes (and pants) and aftershaves (stbxw bought what I already had) when I decided to start dating again. I reasoned that whatever happened on the dates I'd feel good about myself as I walked out the door ;)

@lilyrose88 thanks for sharing your experience-it is an initial social meet with options

@putastraewunderbaby Let's hope ours work better! The chat has been good.so far with mine. What are you planning for the meeting?

Off to catch up on the rest of the thread!

@Notcoolmum I think you're best just enjoying it for what it is for now. If he's serious about a proper future with you then hopefully it will naturally reach a point where he wants to introduce you into his children's lives, that's when these conversations need to happen.
I didn't tell my ex about my bf until I wanted to introduce him to our DC's but that was after about 6/7 months
I ended our marriage and for a long while he was the man scorned but he's over it now thank goodness! They've met, shook hands and we even all attended the kids swimming lessons together last weekend!
Obviously everyone's circumstances are different but it doesn't have to be all drama, hopefully when the time is right it won't be for you!

I’m pleased to see how busy it is on the smitten bench these days. 😁

Hopefully the rest of you will get off the unsuitable (wo)men bench quickly.

I’m really sorry about Mr Plumber @JeSuisPrest. I agree that his text wasn’t really fair on you. I had a bf in my early 20s that broke up with me kind of similarly. He was an arsehole. It took another year or so for me to appreciate that though.

I had a really lovely time in Paris with MrSG. He is most definitely a keeper. I’m not sure what we’re doing even counts as ‘dating’ anymore. The way things have been going with us, we might get a thread wedding at some point! 😆

Good to hear it is now cordial with your ex and your new man wishywashy. Yes my philosophy is to enjoy it for now. I just expect to be nudging for a space on the Pinot Grigio bench at some point 😂

@Notcoolmum that's completely how I felt for the first few months, even though it was me holding back on the introductions
Fingers crossed it all works out for you

Oh wow crust wedding bells!!

Ooh a thread wedding crustaceans how exciting!!
DO we have cohabitees/weddings/babies?!

There must be some thread cohabitees/marriages/babies. It’s been running a while now.

We aren’t actually engaged but have talked about where this is going. And it’s definitely going there.

@Crustaceans omg how exciting! I might have to shift off the Pick A Dick bench to go hat shopping 😁

Loo update: he's cute but socially awkward. Will deffo give him a second date.

My DD(9) constantly asks Mr24 to propose to me!
We're not officially cohabiting although it feels like we are sometimes, we have talked about it and it's definitely on the cards at some point but for now our set up works well.
Maybe we could have a double wedding @Crustaceans! 😂😂

Maybe we could @wishywashy6. 😊

MrSG keeps talking about babies. I’m not convinced he’s actually serious though. 😂

And the rest of you can be bridesmaids. Even the men. 😂

@LooUpdate who’s this? And how on earth do you manage a date at five o clock lol.

@Crustaceans Haha Mr24 has said my 2 are quite enough for him 😂 he may change his mind and we'll cross that bridge if and when we come to it, but he's fantastic with them and treats them as though they were his own so for now it's all working well!

@sidge pick a dick bench 😂

Update from me. 3ish months iron. Just got through a tricky patch. There really should be an online dating game right? We've talked and talked and I've got all my reservations out from the other weekend and....im feeling ok. I was previously smitten as all hell. Now I'm smitten with a little wariness. I can't seem to ignore how well we get on as people 95% of the time. Whatever pissed me off...thats still there. Along with ridiculous sexual chemistry. So I'm kinda on the bench.

crust - How lovely it's going so well! Am available for bridesmaid duties.

notcoolmum and wishwashy - That's part of the reason MrWow and I split up. His ex constantly threatening to stop him seeing his kids, even tho she was the one who did the dirty causing the split and had a new b/f on the go last yr. He's already told her he's seeing me again now and all seems well, they are getting on amicably atm, thank goodness.
I did go 'no contact' with MrWow for a while but we'd occasionally say Hi on OLD sites, then we'd get chatting back on WhatsApp. We never got nasty or bitter with each other. I think it needed him to have a few more dates under his belt and for me to realise how good he was for me. It wasn't just the sex, which is by far the best ever, I think we've grown up a little which sounds mad given our ages, 46 and 51 but that's the gist of it.

Even as I write this tho, I'm waiting for something to go wrong curse of OLD. After all this time he finally said 'I love you'. Yes I believe him, can't remember the last time anyone else said it to me. Ahh, please just tell me to shut up and give my head a wobble as I go off to buy a bottle of Prosecco and dance around the kitchen. Lol.

Oh NotCool I hope when he tells his ex she is cool with it. Maybe she'll have met someone by then .... would live it if my ex would meet someone (not one of the lovely women on this thread though, as my ex is an arse 😂) as hopefully he'd get on with realising I divorced him so he doesn't have control over me anymore!

Mr BC is speaking to his late wife's DC about me tonight ....

Crust oooh I love a wedding 😃

TooOld that's so nice!

Very full over on this smitten bench!

Hello peeps, was meant to have a first date last week after week of texting but got sick so had to postpone. I provisionally said this weekend coming. Guy is now busy. He texts me every day to check in and have quick chat, but no massive long conversations. He hasnt suggested a new date but says wants to meet and says sure we can sort something out. Is he even interested?

@Eesha personally, if he wasn't interested at all I suspect he'd just stop keeping in touch. If you cancelled then it's kind of on you to offer an alternative date imho if you are still interested.

I'd suggest a specific date and if its a vague no without any negotiating take it as a polite he CBA.

@WarIsPeace that's the thing, I said can we do this weekend instead and he said he might be able to. Now busy. Was really keen before but I'm thinking he might have thought I was taking illness but I genuinely wasn't well. But still continues to message me.....I think maybe just a penpal

eesha I’d suggest another date and see what he comes back with. I hate not having the next date arranged.

Some serious relationships developing on this thread. Hope for us all 🤞hope the chat goes well with Mr BC’s children batshit