Dating Thread 156 - It is hot hot hot

[midcenturylegs]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

Oh everyone. ☹️ I've only caught up with a tiny bit of this morning's thread. I am terrified of this. It was nothing but a relief when my marriage ended. The thought of grieving over the end of a relationship and all those hopes and plans. Hugs to all of you. It's a reminder of why I am with mr Unsuitable. We know it will end. It's wonderful, amazing etc but I'm not committed. When it ends I will be very sad but not broken. Makes me feel like a bit of a coward really compared to all you lot who have given your all to a relationship.

@stealthninjamum Woooaah, you have him on whatsapp? So jeal.

I know notcool as I say I am sure your Mr S and most guys are not shitheads! I also feel sorry for his gf and have considered telling her but tbh she wouldn’t believe me and all hell would break loose

@TooOldForThis67 stab a potato 🤣🤣🤣 think that should become thread jargon.

Sorry I'm catching up slowly so may post about stuff from pages ago

What’s happened with hairyarsed have i missed gossip?

peanut how are you today?

@MrDrummer I sent you a pm about ten minutes ago but you ignored me!

@marlboroandmalbec34 no gossip from me. I wondered what it would look like on Match if an iron blocked me so I messaged HairyArsedMan and he blocked me!

Glad the date went well @Neverexpected2.

But it appears that mrdrummer and hairyarsedman have been communicating via Strava (that's not a dating site I've heard of) so I guess there might be some gossip!

@stealthninjamum

I sent you a pm about ten minutes ago but you ignored me!
Maybe I blocked you on MN??

Well 2019 has been the year of men rejecting me and blocking me so I am used to it!

@stealthninjamum Strava is a stalker-friendly app for recording exercise like running, cycling, shows routes, etc. You can comment on each other's exercises but I don't know of a private chat per-se.

So have you disclosed the identity of the mystery creepy poster@stealthninjamum and @MrDrummer? I'm still curious about that.

I'm ok whoever asked. Have a bad head from my swollen nose and it hurts when I move. Mr u and I gave up on DTD this morning as I kept yelping and he didn't like hurting me.

Actually I'm good. I'm quite content. I think I'm doing absolutely the right thing for me. It was kind of what I wanted. A BF who wouldn't make too many demands on me or get involved with my children. We're both happy with the level of involvement. It's good. One day I will be ready for a LTR and I suspect it will be after this one ends. But hopefully this one won't end for a good while. He's like my last hoorah as he would have been perfect for me 20 years ago.

@peanuthedz I'm sure even the mystery, creepy poster has blocked me!

I hope you get better soon peanuthedz and I'm glad things are going well with Mr U.

I did have a potential iron tell me I resemble a tiger today. that would be a tiger with a mumtum then

@MrDrummer I read somewhere that some adulterers use MyFitnessPal to communicate as it seems very harmless.

I just double-checked on Strava and I am not seeing that for Hairyarsed. It did put up a side-by-side comparison of our stats. Thanks for reminding me how rubbish I am, Strava :'''(

I use FB messenger for convenience with friends/family, unless I need end-to-end encryption (e.g. exchaning bank details) or chatting with people that aren't on my fb friends list. I hadn't heard of kik until here, but I don't like the sound of it tbh, although it might be an easier sell than swapping numbers on OLD. I have had the same mobile number for 24 years so I don't really want it getting abused.

Oh crikey re my fitness pal and strava! Who'd a thunk it?

Might start using them again.

I have a very specific hobby/obsession/sport and one day I will meet a man who does it. With a beard, possibly gingery, definitely hirsute. He will be The One. He's out there. I might be on my 60s by the time we meet but hey ho...

So I took the bull by the horns and texted MrTeacher first for once plus got an actual date in the diary to meet. Granted it's in a few weeks but he did suggest midweek too so wasn't delaying things purposefully on his behalf. I'm pleased as didn't want a penpal plus felt like he was potentially a tad shy so thought to get in there and sort something out rather than overinvesting for nothing.

Eesha good for you - this is (was?) my fourth 'round' of OLD and I got fed up with messaging for ages waiting for them to ask for a date that I just used to ask. Sorts the wheat from the chaff as those in it for a penpal/ego boost back away 😂

All good with Mr BC 😊 here. Saw him last night. Seeing him and staying overnight on Saturday. He wants me to meet his friends at some point .... this has literally never happened to me before so I'm a bit 😳

Good going eesha

You will find him peanut

Aw yay batshit you’re kind of the reason I havnt closed my fab account 😁

Well done eesha 👍
Aw glad to hear things are going well with Mr Bc batshit i registered on fab and I never went back. I was a bit scared!!

Hello...ive been lurking on these threads only popping In every so often . Last time was Feb (Valentines) when I was unsure whether things with the guy I was seeing were "normal" periods of 2/3 days of no communication etc.

Anyway it ended end of Feb and literally 3 days later I go out with friends, get a bit drunk and end up meeting someone. HOWEVER he is younger than me -15years. I look extremely young for my age, he looks older. We both thought each other was late 20s. We spent the night together, he asked for my number as i had to leave for work. I gave it thinking I'd hear nothing from him. He messages me a few hours later and meets me for coffee. He asks me for a date I cautiously agree due to age difference. Two weeks later we had our first date as he'd been away during that time with his mates but kept constant contact. Fast forward to now we've been meeting up once a week, or he will meet me for coffee when I'm at work. He is in contact all day, although he takes hours to reply, that hasn't really changed since we met.
Neither of us wants an in your pockets relationship, I work full time and have 2 kids for starters, he has a busy job and active social life.
When we're together we laugh and have so much fun I don't think about the age difference. Hes so attentive and makes me feel fantastic. But theres a part of me that is telling me this won't work/he's using you/seeing other people.
Hes said he's only talking to me, he's open with tagging me in posts on social media, just random stuff. However I do stupid CHILDISH things, like I've seen he's been on social media, but hasn't read my WhatsApp or replied. So I know he's been on his phone but hasn't read or replied to me. It's his day off he's entitled to do what he wants but why can't I relax and just enjoy this for whatever it is?? 😫😫😫

@Lydiathetattooedlady It's not childish, it's not stupid, but there are lots of reasons for not reply to you... perhaps he wants wait until he has time to give you a nice considered response, rather than an on the fly response. I mostly post inane crap on social media that takes zero thought. A personal message to someone I care about would warrant a better time. Certainly, I compartmentalise (which i think might be a guy thing)... e.g. I have personal messages to reply to and yet I can post on here. I will be in personal message mode later, and I will get to them.