Dating Thread 156 - It is hot hot hot

[midcenturylegs]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

@Eesha I did like said date, I certainly wouldn't mind seeing her again, but I am having a great deal of difficulty separating out the person from the experience.

Oddly enough it was not as terrifying, or as transformative an experience as I thought, it all felt weirdly "normal" and maybe even easy. The fact that I didn't hide under a table chewing my own socks and bawling my eyes out, has me wondering maybe I am really not that bothered about all of this after all?

@ant330 the overwhelmedness comes from confronting a lifetime of avoidant behaviour,.

Cassettes thank you for your comment.
I don't really know what I hoped to gain by posting about myself here, but the empathy and moral support I have found has been most welcome.

He's a twat and you can do so much better lifegoes

Thinks are very cool between me and MrFox. He did ask if I was free to meet up, we arranged Thursday and then he text to say something had come up and he can't make it. Then suggested the following Saturday... which will be 15 days between dates but I can't make that day anyway so will be much longer. I feel like this is the beginning of the end.

30somethingandsingle are there any other signs? Frequency/tone of messages changed?

@JeSuisPrest yes he's messaging a lot less now. No goodnight or good morning message today, which he has done pretty much every day. Just get the feeling he is backing off

30somethingandsingle I hate it when your spidey senses start telling you something is off, but you'll sound like a loon if you raise it with them.

Jesuis- 💐
30’something- hoping he’s going through some stuff and it’s not what you think 💐
Old- wow for mr wow. Fab news

30something hopefully he’s just genuinely got a full on couple of weeks and not much head space for texting.

starry it sounds then like your 1st 1st date was a pretty massive step and one accomplished successfully.
Have you done any follow up messaging since the date?

For those on the misery bench looking for some comfort, can I recommend Oppo cheesecakes which taste amazing and are approximately half the calories of regular cheesecakes.

I've took my self off the misery bench @MrDrummer and I've got myself chatting to some new irons to pass the time

I'll teach Mr BottleJob a lesson. I can't wait for him to realise he's been blocked

Hi everyone. I hope there's room for another on the cooling off bench. I'm fairly new to OLD and was supposed to have a date on Thursday. Mr Fridge (sorry it was the first cold thing I thought of has noticeably changed.

Fortunately where he lives is on my way home so even we don't meet, it won't change my Thursday plans too much. I may just be back on here with a ready meal like on that cooking and dating show...

Good for you @lifegoes :)

Is it that time of the month for guys cooling off?? I think @Lolajane44 is the 4th one including my Mr bottlejob who has done this.

I think my date for Friday has cooled off too,not heard a peep since yesterday.

@lifegoes Can I ask you how long and how regularly you had been chatting with this guy for? Just interested how much he had invested time-wise.

@kerkyra just seen you on pof. Much better photo :)

MrCornish is definitely not cooling off- seeing him tomorrow night for date 3.

MrPlumber has messaged me tonight - just checking I'm OK and reminding me how important I am to him. I'll reply tomorrow.

@MrDrummer about 5 weeks. We tried to meet up a few times and he couldn't then I couldn't. I called it off once and he asked for another chance. He would message all the time, not sexual all about our lives.

We arranged to make a weekend of it and to be fair I thought he would back out of it. But he didn't. He had gone quite distant at the end of last week

So much more, I could say about the date. But worried it could out him. I'm normally quite good with my gut. And he asked to see me again twice and not whilst parting ways. During the morning well after DTD

I never ever expected him to turn like this.

Thanks drummer,though I think the glam one paints the wrong impression of me. Maybe I should put the one of me at the footy as main profile haha.
I live in joggers in the week for work so don't want to portray I am a woman who likes to have her hair done loads and has her nails done as I don't.
Do you think my profile is a good representation of who I am?
And where is your profile...you must still be hidden

Ha ha @JeSuisPrest I love that. He's reminding you how important you are to him. - you I'll text him tomorrow

@lifegoes I don't want to make this any worse for you, but do you not think you have been too hasty blocking him? 5 Weeks of regular chat sounds like a lot of investment for a ONS.

@MrDrummer ha ha I know I was, I've unblocked him but I have deleted his number.

But I don't get his behaviour since yesterday. He's totally changed. I will say he's hardly been on line since he got back home yesterday. I've noticed again tonight.

Plus we went away for the weekend so it wasn't a local meet up either.

What's your thoughts?

@kerkyra As much as it kills me to say this (i.e. despite it co-incidentally being taken at my home ground), but the footie shirt one is my least favourite. The black and white one looks great... you have a model-like quality in it. The text is good, perhaps talk a little about your love of theatre, etc. There are a few grammatical errors, but nothing worse than anyone else's, so yeah, I think it is "you". :)