DH and younger female colleague’s wats app exchange. Dodgy?

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Context is they have a new client in Singapore who they have been given the option to either schedule a phone meeting with or visit (at their own company’s expense.)

DH: can you do either 15,16 or 17 may in Singapore?
Colleague: yes! Exciting! Who’s coming?
DH: you and me. Have a look at the flight options and let’s make a plan. Ok?
Colleague: yes, really looking forward.
DH: cool 😎
Colleague: OK I looked. Flights are tricky. I want to get there in time to have a day and a really nice dinner that first evening as the rest will be work.
DH: Next time!
DH: Or we stay an extra night and make a day of it?
Colleague: let’s see.
DH: we can always go back another time
DH: ok i’ve Looked at flights again. We can have a long lunch that first day?
Colleague: ok. I’m looking forward. Can’t wait to get a break.
DH: alternatively could you fly early Sunday?
Colleague: what time on Sunday?
DH: early, so we can hang out, have lunch, have dinner etc.
Colleague: ok great. It is better we do this meeting in person, isn’t it?
DH: yes. If you want to come later on Sunday it’s okay too.
Colleague: no; the longer away the better for me. Just want a break.

Also, if this is a work phone, he would probably be in breach of his terms of employment giving her full access to his phone and communications.

My better half is unable to discuss well over half of what she does at work as she takes her responsibilities to her employers very seriously and has a very high level of access and responsibilities.
For example: The company she works for is planning "restructuring" ... Job losses ... If it was read in the newspapers, even the business rumours section, that blue chip company X is planning 4000 job losses over the next 12 months, she would be on the CEOs carpet answering tough questions.
It is unlikely she would give me unfettered access to her work communications ever and if she did, I would not look; I left the corporate rat race a few years ago with the politicking, backbiting, empire building and productivity-sapping initiatives a few years back. I don't ever want to return.

I don’t know about dodgy (obviously sexual), but it smacks of being a bit unprofessional to me. I used to get on well with my boss, but I don’t think we’d have discussed “hanging out” or “having a break” in a non specific sort of way. I might have said “I’d really like to do/see X in Singapore - do you think there’s any chance while we are there?” - but that has some context, rather than being a general “let’s spend time together” thing. (I’m surprised the company allows that, to be honest. I’m possibly out of date, but we were only allowed to do extra nights if we paid for the hotel ourselves for the extra night and took that day off and that was in the days of generous travel expenses policies!).

Doesn't seem dodgey to me.
Initially she said she would like to arrive early to have nice dinner etc - but she didn't say with him!
Travelling for work is exhausting especially to go all that way for one day and then back the next, I would always prefer to go a bit earlier to have some time to recover from
The flight etc, and get myself together for the meeting.

If she is much younger could she be more of a daughter figure maybe?

My husband travels a lot, and seeing this wouldn't bother me.

Whther he has his cock in his coworker

Fucking charmer you are. Were you capable of saying "sex" or did you want to nake it clear that sex isnt mutual in your opinion, and is just using a woman as a pin cushion? Your wife is a very lucky woman

''If she is much younger could she be more of a daughter figure maybe?''

oh dear.

@curiousbloke, um, charming, but back to point, she is viewing these messages on some other joint phone that shows his messages, it's not actually his phone I don't think. Could be wrong but that's how I understood it.

Also, be real. If your wife slept with somebody else, you really reckon that that would be 'moot' if you only knew about it because having seen one whatsapp message that didn't sit right with you (and off the back of that ) you'd gone on to read more to try and reassure yourself?
You're kidding yourself.