Positive signs you’d found a keeper.

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Inspired by another thread.

Small things, or maybe larger, that meant you knew you’d got a decent caring person.

I’ll start.

On our second date.

I’d made a balls of flights and ended up coming into a different airport. He drove 80 miles each way to pick me up and took me to dinner.

Fourth date. Got up at 5am to drop me to an early train. I was going to get an Uber or walk (it was only a 5-10 min walk).

I mentioned in casual conversation that I missed a particular fruit bush I'd grown in my previous home - next time we met there was one waiting for me on the kitchen table!

Awh Rather that’s sweet (and exactly the sort of thing I would love too)

I was really poorly about a month into dating and he went to Tesco in the middle of the night and basically bought the entire medicine aisle home to me. Cooked me soup and stroked my hair on his lap whilst I moaned (I was REALLY whingey) and let me watch crap TV. He's a good egg.

He drove 3 hrs to see me for 1.

Walked a mile to a garage for milk when I fancied a cuppa and we had both had a drink....
First week of dating!!

Oh my god I love this thread! I live in fear of there only ever being red flags and it never being worth trying again. More nice stories please!!!!

I love Easter and said I missed having Easter egg hunts like when I was a child. Our first Easter came around and he did a huge Easter egg hunt for me that took a while to finish!!...even had diagrams and rhymes every year after that he did an Easter egg hunt for me, until dc arrived then I just joined in with them!

Walked me to the Bus in my home city to make sure I got home safely while we were dating. Showed actual concern when ever I hurt myself, lets me talk and vent and actually listens to me.

After a bad day when I asked him to bring home chocolate on his return from training I got 'But I won't be home til 10.30pm', I thought no more of it and he left. Three mins later he reappears with a share bag of Buttons and pops them in my lap and runs out the door again.

I love that man!

I was stuck at home following foot surgery- OH at work. Ring on the door bell, go to find a Caramel Latte and a Bacon Sandwich on the doorstep- he'd arranged for his friend to bring it as a surprise.

We had two bags of mini eggs. I ate both of them yesterday (I work from home), when he said he fancied one after tea, I just looked at him and he burst out laughing, saying ‘you’ve eaten them haven’t you’ he actually finds it adorable that I’d eaten them both.... if he’d done it to me I’d have had his balls lol

Got my period just before our third date. Felt like crap so I messaged him saying maybe we should rearrange (we'd dtd on date 2 and I didn't want to disappoint him ) He rocked up with pizza, donuts and chocolate and spent the evening stroking my hair/ rubbing my back. Stayed the night but just let me sleep in his arms

1000 more reasons since then ☺️

Awh love this thread. So glad I started it now.

We weren't living together yet but I'd showed him where the key was. I got home one autumn night to find he'd decorated an old bike with fairy lights and hung it on my bedroom wall.

He was the most romantic and loving of men.

It's all the little things mine does. His house is a cold, draughty farmhouse so when I am in the shower he nips upstairs and put the electriv blanket on to warm the bed up :) Sometimes he sticks my jammies under the covers so they warm up too!

He randomly turns up with flowers for me

When I have been at his for the weekend (a couple of hours drive away) he often sneaks some chocolate into my bag for the drve home,

He always gets my favourite juice in when I am visiting. I never buy it as it is quite expensive and I try not to ddrink too much fizzy juice so it is a nice treat!

I love how he always send me a goodnight message no matter what. if he is going out then he will send it early. or if he is busy with work he will send it a bit later. But he always sends it :)

This is such a lovely thread! 🌷🌈

Oh he gets ribena in for me, even though he doesn’t drink it. And crisps.

And let’s me warm my cold feet on his legs 😂😂

This is the sort of thread posters should read when they post about a guy who won't make any effort at all. It doesn't have to be like that.

Oh these are lovely and so thoughtful.

So many things - driving 3 hours each way to see me between his shifts and managing to bring me a massive bunch of flowers too. Buying me a copy of really romantic book we'd been talking about that I hadn't read yet. He was sent overseas for a couple of months when we had been dating about 4 months and he used all his phone and internet allowance to keep in touch with me (and he wrote me old-fashioned letters too). 14 years later he's still amazing - supportive, thoughtful and caring. There are good men out there, I promise!

I've been with my dh over 20 years now. But in the beginning we both lived at home (well, our parents houses). I used to watch ER. and it was in the days before you could pause live TV. So on a Wednesday the rule was he either came before 9 or after 10. He usually arrived before 9. One day he didn't, I was a bit gutted but got on with whatching. At 10.01 the door went. He'd arrived at 5 past 9 but didn't want to disturb me so he sat in his car till 10.

I was mortified. There were ad breaks FFS! He said he didn't want to get dumped because he loved me. We were married 2 years later at 21 and still as in love now as then!

DH wasn't a crier. Not films, not soppy stuff, nothing. But since me, and now DD, he cries. Every time it happens he says, "you and DD have ruined me, I'm a marshmallow now". This is a huge, shaven-headed black belt with a nose that's been broken several times.

And about a hundred other things.

...and it's the little things that count. Like someone else said, tiptoeing out of the room to catch the kids before they wake up so I get a lie-in, then bringing me a cup of tea in bed to wake up to later. Running upstairs to put the electric blanket on before I get into bed. Standing out in the cold/rain where he can get signal so he can say goodnight when he's working away. Actually he does it twice a night, once to say goodnight to the kids and again to say goodnight to me later on!

Wow you guys are all so lucky! I can’t imagine anyone ever doing anything like this for me and genuinely didn’t know there were men as sweet as this in the real world - only in books and films. Lovely thread OP.

He gave me the fried egg with the unbroken yolk.

Such a trivial thing but after years of marriage to a selfish ExH it meant the world.

The thing is, for me, it’s these small things that matter so much more than any grand gestures.

He also makes me laugh, but that sounds corny when I try to explain it.

Didn’t mind when I put bleach all up the arm of a new top he had just bought.