Positive signs you’d found a keeper.

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Inspired by another thread.

Small things, or maybe larger, that meant you knew you’d got a decent caring person.

I’ll start.

On our second date.

I’d made a balls of flights and ended up coming into a different airport. He drove 80 miles each way to pick me up and took me to dinner.

Fourth date. Got up at 5am to drop me to an early train. I was going to get an Uber or walk (it was only a 5-10 min walk).

Notcoolmum wow, I just wanted to say that not only do you seem to have found a keeper, your attitude of ‘it’s going great and I hope it lasts but even if it doesn’t I’ve enjoyed this and learned to be hopeful for the future’ is just gorgeous to see! You really have your head screwed on and you should enjoy every minute safe in the knowledge you’re gonna keep kicking ass being you whatever the future of this relationship. I’m sure that he picks up on your self esteem and self security too and that’s probably all the more reason he seems crazy about you!

Moved into a new home.

I must have mentioned casually in passing that I intended to get some solar fairy lights for my garden.

He’d already asked if he could mow my lawn for me sometime. I came back from a work trip fairly late at night to find a bunch of flowers on my doorstep. I thought how sweet that was.

Wandered to the window to glance at my back garden and a huge heart had been staked out in illuminated fairy lights all across a freshly moved lawn

Still makes me beaming just thinking of it.

*mowed
*beam

standardaccount what does he sing?! That sounds super cute

ChocAuVin how lovely!

My partner is very kind and caring (more so than me tbh) but it wasnt something he did for me that made me know I had a keeper - it's something that he does! He brushes his teeth in the shower like I do! Id always been told by friends that I was weird for brushing my teeth in the shower and that no one else did it - then the 1st time i stayed at his I saw him brushing his teeth in the shower and knew he was the one for me

emeraldrubyshark thank you so much. That’s such a lovely thing to say 💐

Needed to read this today :) I'm single at the moment and it's nice to think that in future I may meet someone special.

Reversed my OH car by mistake into a wall, dented & smashed the back window. He was really cool /calm. OH sourced a replacement back door/window second hand & fitted it himself. We still drive each others cars (are insured)
OH has booked some surprise holidays for me to enjoy (places that I thought that I would never visit)
OH has helped me with sick relative
OH has made or built several things for me, including a huge advent calendar with flashing lights
OH is kind, generous, funny and I am extremely lucky
Too many lovely things to mention

When his ex left she dumped her dog with him. He never wanted the dog in the first place but he took it on and looked after it properly, much better than she ever had.

we can truly be ourselves and fart freely and snigger!

Something that made me feel really warm and fuzzy was I was reading a thread on MN about someone's partner forgetting their birthday and as I was reading, I got a text from my DP asking me whether I wanted to celebrate on the actual day or for on the weekend, because she wants to know so that she can get planning! My birthday's not for 5 months! It's not even a big one! I'm also still reeling from the surprise party she held for my birthday last year!

As someone with yet another failed attempt at online dating recently under my belt I'm enjoying reading these. It's making me appreciate that there are good ones out there. I may never meet one but why give up? Now, if anyone could explain where they are all hiding....

I absolutely adore this thread!
My OH texts me goodnight and good morning every day, so I know he's thinking of me. He thinks the world of me and my kids and treats them as his own. He replaced my knackered old car with one he knew I'd love, I will never ever sell it now!
Although we've had ups and downs and blazing rows, we know we love each other.
He's been an absolute rock for me at times and now I have to be a rock for him as he's just been given a terminal diagnosis from his cancer that has returned.
Still reeling from it, but I want to be as good to him as he has been to me and my DCs for the time we've got left. I want our memories to be happy ones.

My now dh supported me through a cancer scare, an awful job and a close family bereavement, all within the first year of our relationship.

Another thing he did that showed me he was a good 'en was when we went on our first trip away. On the 2nd night I got horrendously drunk, drew on my face and offered him a bj at the top of my voice in a crowded pub. He walked/carried me back to our apartment, held my hair as I threw up in the loo and helped me have a shower and wash my hair. I was going on about how much I wanted to have children but felt I was getting too old (I was 28 ) and that I wondered if he'd be a good dad. We'd been together less than 6 months! He stayed with me all night, having had no dinner or tea and being ravenously hungry and being able to smell the chip shop over the road. I thought I'd scared him off good and proper but he was happy to carry on as we were and kind of pretend it never happened . We've been together 11 years now, married 6, and that weekend is referred to now as that weekend!

So many reasons. He's so kind and loving. He's my biggest cheerleader and refuses to believe I can't do anything I put my mind to (except maybe being a pop star).

He's funny and thinks I am too. We laugh together so much. He was amazing when I was ill a couple of years ago.

This is going to sound really sappy but he adores our dogs and I love watching him with them, it really makes me melt.

He's wonderful.

Came home from work approx 3am after very long day. He had set alarm so he could be up to see me. I somehow managed to drop deep fat fryer, not hot thankfully, all over kitchen from top of large, tall fridge freezer. He just gave me a hug and told me not to worry, go and have a shower and get into PJs. When I came back downstairs, he had cleared it all up

margotmoon word of advice, drop your height requirement if you have one. There is sooooo much less competition for men who are shorter than average, plenty of hidden gems!

Votejadot - dropping height requirement, you say? Even if they're shorter than you?

Mine was, second date, friends forgot we were all going out so had to sit through a full religious friends family dinner(not our religion), then 3rd date I ran out of fuel and he walked miles to find some, 4th date managed to get my car locked in car park and had to get train home. That's pretty normal randomness in my life and 16 years on he's still fixing my problems and putting up with me😂

Yep creamycoffee, worked for me! DH is 5 foot 4 and got filtered out of 90% of searches OLD but he's an absolute darling.

@VoteJadot That's interesting advice. I'm 5'7 and generally find taller men attractive. I've been out with men only a wee bit taller than me but I just can't feel sexy stooping down to kiss someone

That's interesting advice. I'm 5'7 and generally find taller men attractive. I've been out with men only a wee bit taller than me but I just can't feel sexy stooping down to kiss someone

Margot, if he’s a top bloke then height won’t matter. Take a chance!! You’re missing out if you judge someone solely on looks of any variety. I’m happy with balding, soft belly, hairy back, shorter than average, many of the things other women rule out, because I know I’m not perfect either. We all have our preferences but with the right person they just fall away. I know DP’s preference would be exactly like his ex slim and blonde with big boobs. I’m the absolute opposite (or was when we met, I’ve now put on several stone, so I have the boobs, with a belly to match!!) but he finds me attractive for me, not some stereotype of the ideal woman.

I always had a thing for tall well built guys, I’m only 5’4” but liked a man who towered over me. The sexiest man I ever met was the same size as me, Israeli with long dark hair, skinny - he reminded me of a terrier! Totally not my type, but whenever I saw him I swooped. I used to call him God (not to his face, just when talking to friends about him!) We went on a few dates and he turned out to be a massive stoner which put me off him, but his height/build really didn’t.

Swooned not swooped FGS autocorrect

@Ragingwhorebag
I am dating a guy the same height as me, 5 foot 4. He's the kindest sexiest man I've ever known. We met through OLD, I wouldn't have said he was my 'type'. I now know I don't have a type and what matters most is how a man treats me and he makes me feel amazing.

this is so lovely