Positive signs you’d found a keeper.

[Whodafeck]

Inspired by another thread.

Small things, or maybe larger, that meant you knew you’d got a decent caring person.

I’ll start.

On our second date.

I’d made a balls of flights and ended up coming into a different airport. He drove 80 miles each way to pick me up and took me to dinner.

Fourth date. Got up at 5am to drop me to an early train. I was going to get an Uber or walk (it was only a 5-10 min walk).

Aw great thread. Oh I have so many, let me think...

Turned up at my house with different wines inc sparkling as didn't know which I preferred.Went to shop to get me Tampax a couple if dates in.Lots of others hes not romantic by any stretch but things like that are lovely.

Oh and he didn't touch a drop of alcohol on our all inclusive honeymoon because I was pregnant and couldn't drink either!

Some lovely stories on here

He does little things for me so I can relax such as make my lunch for work, pack my clothes away, lays my PJs out. Whenever we're sat together, he insists on gently tickling me as he knows I love it.

Whenever I'm feeling down (especially around that time of the month) he will buy me my favourite sweets to cheer me up.

And he never fails to make me laugh, even if I'm in a mood with him!

We've been together 10 years and finally getting married this year

Ooh another one...he doesn't realise if you're wearing makeup or not.

I look like a zombie without some decent makeup on and everyday he asks me if I've taken it off ready for bed.

He appears to genuinely not be able to tell the difference and I don't know why I love it so much I just do!

He tells me I don’t need make up and I’m beautiful without it too 😂😂😂 I tell him he needs glasses.

He cleaned up the vomit splashes from my shoes on our first date when I'd been sick after eating something that didn't agree with me.

Drove a 60 mile round trip to pick up some football boots for my DS that I had mentioned in passing had sold out in his size locally when he hadn't even met him.

He has done so many lovely things for me over the past 11 years...

We don't live together yet, but he's a done a million tiny things:

He knows I love roasting chestnuts on my fire, so while out walking his dog collected a bag full of chestnuts for me (and each one was perfect- he'd checked each one).

Bought me a protective screen for my phone, as he'd noticed I didn't have one.

Casually checked the tyres on my car as he left (something neither of my XHs ever did).

Fixes stuff for me...

So many little things.

Oh I love this thread! When I first started staying at now DH's house he bought me some new towels and a mini wicker drawer unit for the bathroom, which he also filled with all the products I used so I didn't have to take mine backwards and forewords all the time...amazing!
Not long after I was suffering with really awful period pains and had texted him moaning about it from work. Got back to his house and he'd run me a bath, bought me a hot water bottle (he didn't have one...just for girls apparently!) and let me curl up on the sofa with chocolate and trashy tv.
He's still just as awesome now too!

We had been dating for about 6 months when I went clubbing with a friend (30 years ago, I was 18!) and I was in close proximity to a nasty incident which resulted in a piece of glass getting embedded into my hand - called him on the house phone at 1.30am crying (I was drunk as well) and he got up to pick me up and drive me to A&E, stayed with me and then drove hone despite him having to get up early for work.

The final 'little' thing though that convinced me was 2 years later when I became far more qualified in the same sector as DH and he couldn't stop bragging to everyone/anyone that he knew (again so many years ago that this was not a normal thing, especially in engineering!)

Now 24 years married with 2 adult DS - and happy although there are countless things I could happily kill him for including his stinking farts!

I was really ill one day and called him to say I had to go home after work, not meet as we'd agreed. He begged me to come over, and when I got there, he'd already run me a bath and cooked my favourite soup then put me to bed, no need to chat. Just wanted to care for me. He also shyly asked me what face creams and bath oils I used then next time I was over at his house, they were all there on a shelf so I had what I needed when I stayed over.

He also remembered things like, my favourite song in the world is a rare folk song he didn't know the name of but he tracked it down and found a CD of it to surprise me.

He didn't drink for 9 months when I was pregnant and I couldn't.

When I first started going out with DH he used to post a bar of Galaxy through my letterbox during the day so I'd have chocolate when I came home. He used to put little love notes in them.
Must have worked as we were married within a year of getting together.

Mine drives me potty. Some days I could totally shout at him.....but I don't because

He has been my rock. He does everything with our family in mind.

He picks up everything big he needs to when I'm ill or after I had surgery. Including sorting my favourite treats and lucozade when I'm ill.

He raises loads of money for charities. He gives his time freely to help the sports club we are part of.

He is unfailingly kind.

I knew we were meant to be when we found out we had a shared favourite, slightly obscure band. That just sealed it.

17 years later....here we are!

Saves me a little bit of all of his food, strokes my hair, has never ever said anything mean or horrible to me when I am highly critical to him all of the time, always greets me at the door like a puppy, lets me be really bossy, picks me up and carries me to bed, i could go on and on, I went through a stage of thinking the grass was greener but I always forget how lucky i am really

hazandduck That's love!

*First week of dating he drives a 100 mile round trip to pick me up from a work conference rather than me have to get several trains cross country

• sent me a morning text and last thing at night before going to sleep text without fail. Showed I was his priority and he was thinking of me
• he's got a week off work but still wakes up early to drive me to work *moved two massive beds around to change main bedroom so I could have the main bedroom and ensuite as mine for my clothes.... Did it without me even saying anything
• two weeks into dating my family had a crisis and he was so supportive, listened and was amazing even though he didn't know me
• couple of months in I was very ill for a week. He took two days off work to look after me and to take me to the doctors
• he cooks for me, will buy food I like, be very considerate
• we go to the gym together and he has taught me how to do the weights properly a nd he'd rather help me than do his own work out
• he tells me I am amazing and beautiful even when I look rough as hell. And he means it! *bought an expensive Bluetooth speakers for around the house so i can play the music I like *always up for making the effort with my friends and family *backs me 100%
• when we went on our first holiday I couldn't wait to get an audio guide for the cathedral and visit the niche museum. Knew it wasn't really his thing but he said he loved it because he saw how interested I was *bought me an expensive winter coat because I feel the cold and I'm a cheapskate
• even now when I worry about our relationship (because of past experiences) he listens and talks to me about it

Walked me home after our first date, which took place about a 2 minute walk from his house. My home was 2 miles away and he wanted me to get home safely. He didn't even try to come in to my house and was happy to stand outside my front floor talking until the sunrise. He was the kindest man I have ever met. He would have done anything for anyone. I miss him so much.

He walks me to the tube station every morning for work, rain or shine, taps in and waits with me on the platform. It's only a 5 min walk away, and I start work super early - he then goes back has a coffee and gets himself ready for work. I just love him.

My now DH phoning me up in the early days after meeting and telling me he had a 'big surprise' for me when I finished work .The look of absolute pride on his face when presented me with a big steak!

That and always being on time and never letting me down for a date.

@Babdoc
So very sorry for your loss. You must miss him so much. Actually crying here.
😢💜🙏

On our 2nd date we talked about books and I said I liked the sound of his favourite book (which i'd never had the chance to read.) he bought me a copy on our 3rd date, having trawled around several book shops to find it!

bertrandrussell that image is powerful. My DH was definitely a Mr Right.

When I got the call from the kennels that my dog had suddenly fallen very ill, he drove straight there in his brand new car, carried her into the back seat even though she was throwing up everywhere, and drove us to the vets. She died two days later, and he was so kind and strong and understanding that I knew he was someone who'd really follow through on 'for better, for worse'.

Lots of other, sadder, stuff has happened since then, and he's been a rock throughout it all. He's also made me cups of tea most mornings and makes me feel sexy even when I reckon I look more like Buddha.

He used to drive every weekend after work for two hours to see me for a year 😊

When my dad passed away he did everything and anything for me, to be honest that's when I really fell deeply in love with him, no one has shown me that kind of love in a relationship before ❤️