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Dating thread 155 - Spring lovin'

999 replies

supercali77 · 16/04/2019 05:52

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

OP posts:
lifegoes · 16/04/2019 16:55

@supercali77 😱 I'd be mortified that's why I was thinking jeans as I'll feel safer in jeans 😂

LooUpdate · 16/04/2019 17:01

I think he might have a date tonight

What makes you think that? :(

I have met someone from the thread, it wasn't a date so don't think we broke the rules. I would now count her as one of my dearest and best friends

That is so nice :) Anyone from the north east? lol

I would like to ask MrFox about why he split with his exW. Is that inappropriate at this stage

I often ask that on a first date.

a nice wrap dress

That is my GO TO date outfit.

Lovemusic33 Hope you feel better soon Flowers

kerkyra · 16/04/2019 17:02

First day back on pof and I've had 73 views and a whopping three messages.
But I might have found an iron. It's someone who I saw on a night out in a local town a year ago and at the bar I said to him hi, you're on pof aren't you. He said he had just come off as met someone. Anyway,he is back on and we are chatting. Not quite my usual type (and is a marvel fan??) but he was better in real life and seemed nice.

Sorting a date!

We are trying to sort a date

midcenturylegs · 16/04/2019 17:07

@supercali77 @ant that would be hilarious if that happened!

@love - sorry you're poorly. Ear infections are horrible. Do you think the reaction of both the first 2 irons may warrant them being ditched? Is the 3rd a definite no?

Just on the DMs issue I raised last night... Just to clarify, I don't think there's anything wrong with meeting others on the - I've made a good friend through this like you too @richdeniro !

Who was it who suggested setting up a kik (I think?) profile for reviews - think that's a great idea!!

Matchedandmuddled · 16/04/2019 17:14

Sunshine - thank you for asking, yesterday's coffee was OK, but he is too earnest, I think, incredibly polite which is ironic as I had a date in the evening with Mr London .... I decided to be cheeky on tinder and just ask a guy out - disaster! He made me feel so uncomfortable, asked me when I last had sex, could tell I wasn't interested but I shouldn't worry as he was going home to watch porn. So awful. The opposite of the morning date.

When I returned home last night I had a message from Mr Shark who makes me laugh so much, I told him about awful date and he phoned me this morning and we have a dog walking date on Thursday.

I have just had coffee date with Mr Pisa, who is wonderful, so charming and attractive and wants to see me again but wants to wait and see how it goes with Mr Shark!

I have been a busy girl and it is only Tuesday!

MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 16/04/2019 17:19

My Fab date from yesterday has asked to be exclusive. We haven't even dtd yet!
And if our schedules don't match soon, we never will.

I reminded him that we are aiming for FWB not a relationship. And that I was still chatting to some other men.
I actually have no other interest on any app but I don't want him to know that.

And just to throw in my opinion - two people, who happen to be posters on here, but met in real life and started dating, is very different to the creepy poster who is sending inappropriate messages to at least one woman on here. Despite being repeatedly told to stop. Hopefully he's got the message and it won't happen again.

Peanuthedz · 16/04/2019 17:25

Blimey @Matchedandmuddled that's busy! I'm terrible for forgetting who I've told what. I'd get in a right muddle.

Going home to watch porn. Nice.

Peanuthedz · 16/04/2019 17:33

In fact I'd be matched and muddled 🤣

BatshitCrazyWoman · 16/04/2019 17:36

God matched he sounds a prize! MyOld that's very odd for someone you've met on Fab (Mr BC and I at least waited til we knew we 'clicked' in every way 😂)

The thread dating I remember was back in 2016 when I did my first bout of OLD. I don't really see the issue with it. But no one should be sent weird and creepy messages 😕

30somethingandsingle · 16/04/2019 17:39

I guess I had better bite the bullet and ask him on Friday then! It's date 6... or 7 I am losing count.

Matchedandmuddled · 16/04/2019 17:40

@Peanuthedz I am saving their real names, MN names and a description in my contacts list!

Butterflies today! Finally! He is so twinkly and smiley. I also checked out everything he said online and what he has told me is true....just in case.

Sunshineandflipflops · 16/04/2019 18:06

@Matchedandmuddled you have been busy! That second guy sounds like a proper catch Confused

I am on my way to my date...wearing a midi length dress, denim jacket and trainers. I think the warmer weather has gone to my head 😂

ItsAMiracle2015 · 16/04/2019 18:21

@lifegoes yay to a date Friday! Who is this one? Have I missed you mentioning it?

Also, I always thought "dating the thread" rule was don't get overinvested in the thread. Never realised it meant don't date people within the same thread 😂.

No news on my front, still talking to Mr Guitarist although I've pulled back a little until we have a first date arranged. The only days he can do this week, I can't do so we've said definitely next week. I've tried chatting to other potential irons to stop myself going crazy but I'm just doing it half-hearted and feel a bit bad on these guys 🤷. Muh.

TheStuffedPenguin · 16/04/2019 18:27

@sidge that's good news then ! Smile

unique1986 · 16/04/2019 19:16

@Ant330
You said you've been separated 6 months ish.
So you've been online couple months?
Anyway may I ask why you didn't choose to be single for longer before jumping online?
I do get a bit hmm about men that haven't been single that long.

lifegoes · 16/04/2019 19:29

@ItsAMiracle2015 new not mentioned as I've been so must getting to know him ☺️

LooUpdate · 16/04/2019 19:57

kerkyra Can we call him Mr Marvel? Suggest Endgame as first date Grin (He'll be impressed)

He made me feel so uncomfortable, asked me when I last had sex, could tell I wasn't interested but I shouldn't worry as he was going home to watch porn.

EEeeeeeewww. That's the kind of crap that puts me off joining Tinder.

Matchedandmuddled · 16/04/2019 20:06

@LooUpdate but the lovely guy, Mr Pisa, who gave me butterflies is from Tinder ... he is trying to get into shape but was nervous waiting for me so had a Danish pastry, this info. made me like him so much more!

Matchedandmuddled · 16/04/2019 20:08

@Sunshineandflipflops - outfit sounds fabulous! You know this weekend a heatwave is due...fake tan at the ready!

Have a great night Smile

Ant330 · 16/04/2019 20:16

@unique1986 I won't go into too much detail on an open forum, but although my STBXW moved out in October we made the decision around June/July time.
And by the time the decision was taken in July I think both of us had emotionally checked out of the marriage quite some time before, it just took one of us to actually say so.
I think I started OLD early March.
I'm happy to share other factors and thinking behind my decision via PM but also don't want to PM you uninvited after recent posts on here.
I suppose the honest answer though is do any of us know if we're really ready when we first start dating again. I definitely feel like I am but will take it one step at a time, and won't be making any long term decisions until after my divorce is finalised.
MissOz is aware of all this and told me at the start that she had the same doubts you've expressed, so I get it.

unique1986 · 16/04/2019 20:17

Slightly off topic but I can't wait for First Dates tonight@ 😀

BatshitCrazyWoman · 16/04/2019 20:27

LooUpdate that never happened to me on Tinder. Tinder is exactly like all other dating sites!

BatshitCrazyWoman · 16/04/2019 20:30

Mr BC and I have fitted in another date on Thursday - so dates 5, 6 and 7 this week ☺

Happy0952 · 16/04/2019 20:38

I'm guessing you are male looupdate as I never hear women use that expression.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 16/04/2019 21:11

Me and my ex split up in December and I started OLD February. As Ant stated, we'd both checked out of the relationship maybe a year before it actually ended and he had started dating before we even split up 😐😂.

I have friends who have been single for years and still not over their ex. I would go more on how the person acts (and what they say), rather than how long they've been single.