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Dating thread 155 - Spring lovin'

999 replies

supercali77 · 16/04/2019 05:52

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

OP posts:
wishywashy6 · 16/04/2019 11:29

@Kin2 haha!

Original poster
supercali77 · 16/04/2019 11:29

@LilyRose88 yep I've had it before in relationships too. I completely understand. Controlling. Manipulative. Undermining. Gaslighting. I think it's great you're being discerning....its also a great lesson for your daughter's. I have one too. If some guy did any of this to her I'd be round there with some truth serum

OP posts:
kerkyra · 16/04/2019 11:44

Hi all
Yes,i knew village man was on pof but it just made me think i'm not on his mind much.
I might hear from him as the weekend gets closer but if I do,i don't think him coming to mine after the pub is what I want. I will mention a proper date.

Or I might just say i'm busy. It all seems a bit flaky

Notcoolmum · 16/04/2019 11:45

sidge I think him turning up at the airport showed you were more than FWBs. I’m pleased you are both on the same page.

I always read ‘no dating the thread’ as more metaphorical than literal. At the beginning of my OLD journey it felt like the thread was something I was very invested in and needed to check in on (and still does!) so I was worried I was ‘dating the thread’. I hadn’t realised it meant using the thread as a dating site!! 🙈😂

Sunshineandflipflops · 16/04/2019 11:53

So MrSAS asked me last night what time I am going to his on friday (I'm spending the weekend with him). I said I can go whenever he likes and he said "6.30am so I can have you before breakfast"!

Guess I know what kind of weekend it's going to be then Grin

I'm intrigued as to the dating on the thread too! Is it still going on?

LooUpdate · 16/04/2019 11:59

Ladies, do you have any dates planned? I've got one for tomorrow (a 3rd date!) and one for Thursday (a 1st date)

Sunshineandflipflops · 16/04/2019 12:02

I have one tonight and at the weekend but with the same guy. I can't do multiple dating, especially after I've already had a date or two with first date with one person...my brain can't cope!

Peanuthedz · 16/04/2019 12:07

@TheStuffedPenguin yes I'm delighted for her. As they say elsewhere listen to their actions . he's clearly interested. Perhaps read entire posts in future 🙄

LooUpdate · 16/04/2019 12:22

Sunshineandflipflops Wow! Two dates arranged in advance with the same guy! This must be serious. How many dates have you been on with him so far? Is he from POF?

I NEED to have several irons on the go simultaneously otherwise I start obsessing over a guy, which is not healthy. I have codependent tendencies which I am trying to overcome.

LilyRose88 · 16/04/2019 12:41

I am meeting Mr Outdoors on Thursday after work. Date 5 I think it is.

Sunshineandflipflops · 16/04/2019 12:50

@LooUpdate Not serious but I’m not looking elsewhere. I only have so much child free time so if I were dating multiple men I would only be able to see each one every three weeks or something!

I’m just enjoying it for what it is and trying not to think too much about where it’s going at this stage.

I ‘met’ him on Tinder. My first ever Tinder date in fact 😄

putastrawunderbaby · 16/04/2019 13:05

Second date with Mr Gardener tomorrow. We're texting a little bit but not too much - it's nice.

ccgirr · 16/04/2019 13:09

Feel like I am totally missing out on some major gossip- who’s dating?!?

BatshitCrazyWoman · 16/04/2019 13:26

I've got date 5 tomorrow with Mr BC, and date 6 with him on Saturday/Sunday.

Sidge that's lovely news. And NotCool too. Getting full on the smitten bench 😂

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 16/04/2019 13:39

1st date with Mr Local on Thursday

Ant330 · 16/04/2019 13:46

Date 6 with MissOz tomorrow and 7 on Sat/Sun.

shitwithsugaron · 16/04/2019 14:03

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ponyprincess · 16/04/2019 14:44

I have my running first date tomorrow with Mr Run - I am going for it If he doesn't like me red faced breathless and sweaty he can jog on!

Arranging for a first meet with Mr Swim after Easter and still chatting to Mr Books.

Some FWBs to fit in too!

WarIsPeace · 16/04/2019 14:46

Checking in, another new thread!

Insanely curious about the No dating the thread rulebreakers, what rebels Grin we are all adults

LooUpdate · 16/04/2019 14:49

LilyRose88 and BatshitCrazyWoman Date 5?? Wow. That's my designated sex date lol. Do you have any other irons on the go?

putastrawunderbaby How much is a 'little bit'? ;)

Marlboroandmalbec34 and Ant330 Good luck for your first dates! Do you have any gut instincts re: these people?

shitwithsugaron I love a bookworm!

LooUpdate · 16/04/2019 14:50

he can jog on!

I see what you did there Grin

LilyRose88 · 16/04/2019 14:51

The trouble with dating the thread is that some of us (cough) have revealed things about ourselves on here that we would not necessarily tell a potential date/partner. I'm not sure I would confess to a threesome, even though it was a slightly botched attempt on my part Blush.

LilyRose88 · 16/04/2019 14:56

LooUpdate I actually dtd on date 4 Blush as I was staying over at his and it seemed like a good idea. But date 5 is an equally good time to dtd. I don't have any other irons on the go as I got fed up with the inane chat that I was having with a number of rather boring irons on Tinder. And the POF irons were few and far between.

Mr Outdoors has told me that he isn't chatting to anyone else so I am happy to step back from the apps for a while and see how things go.

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 16/04/2019 14:56

looupdate not getting any real vibes about Mr Local. His messages are friendly and open and he seems perfect on paper BUT he hadn’t made me laugh or tried to flirt. I will be his first OLD and he has already said he will be nervous. I am gonna go and see what he is like but not holding out much hope.
We will see...shagathon sleepover booked with Mr Big for next week, I think he might have a date tonight ☹️

ponyprincess · 16/04/2019 15:07

looupdate love someone who gets my sense of humour-I might need to date you if it doesn't work out woth Mr Run 😂