Dating thread 155 - Spring lovin'

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On the subject of cancelled dates (or even social arrangements), I have always imagined that it should be on the person whom cancelled to suggest the re-arranged time and date. So in midcenturys case, she should wait for the guy to suggest a new time and date. Or is it okay for either party to initiate the re-arrangement discussion?

@Marlboroandmalbec34 It's not about an Easter egg. If I want chocolate, I go buy chocolate.

Glad you got it sorted drummer. We are all different and where you felt hurt and spoke to her about it, my response would be to say ' oi you tight git,where's mine' and laugh...but still be hurt inside.
So,looks like I may be coming a couger! Hoping for a date with a 35yr old on Friday and maybe one tomorrow,he's 37 .

My last two relationships were in their fifties and that didn't work so going to try young!

@MrDrummer - I've bought plenty of people things I knew they would have liked to have and I've not expected anything in return. Giving is much better than receiving.. imho..

@Ant330 - have been following your posts and happy for what's going on for you - fingers crossed!

@Marlborough would FAB be wrong for me who is someone a little bit of a prude until I get to know somebody properly...

midcentury I would say yes! You will be inundated with dick pics and very explicit offers of sex acts. Even if they start off nice they soon want to start the sexting (or at least all the ones I have liked)

If you’re in the market for NSA/ FWB it’s good and the cams and chat are funny BUT so far the guys have been all about sex

I think batshit is smitten from a fab iron though so must be some goodies.

Yes regarding the person who cancels or can't make meeting up all weekend should then suggest the next time.
Your just chasing otherwise
Like I suggested Sunday night or Monday to Mr R he said maybe last night but then never mentioned the Monday.
I'm not gonna now text boring small talk.
And there's nothing worse than asking for a second time when you know you won't get a yes.
Maybe tomorrow I'll get a how's your weekend been text. But that's not good enough for me.

@Midcenturylegs My seperared/deceased DW took serious financial advantage of me in the past, so I might be getting a hang-up, I don't know. (I can't remember if I said this before, but she got cat-fished to the tune of several thousand pounds, most of which was out of maintenance I sent and some of which came directly out of my account)

I did give FWB a 32" flat-screen TV for free, but it was looking for a good home anyway. Not truly altruistic, though... I was sick of squinting at her old TV!

As long as someone isn't tight over money and thinking in their head who pays what and when.Nothing worse! Can you imagine booking a holiday and splitting everything down to the last penny! Exhausting!

@unique1986 Oh yes, I expressed my concern at he being unwell etc but I'll definitely leave it up to him to re-arrange if he wants to.
Are you ok - what's happening with your MrR?
@Marl - hmmm - that maybe sounds like it could be fun for a while :-)

@Kerkya

I buy coffee for the car behind in Starbucks drive-through, so it's not about the money, that's for sure.

Congrats on hopefully becoming a cougar! What are you looking for with these two? Doesn't sound like a recipe for LTR, which is what you wanted last we spoke.

It's not the money,i know. Just sometimes sounds rather intense and i'm going to send you some of my chilled and easy going vibes as you have a lot going on :) x

well,i have no idea if these dates will happen. Either way its cool. But both have kid in primary so i'm thinking they will understand my situation better? We shall see

@kerkyra I think it comes across as tense via text. We still dtd'd after the issue, so it can't have been that bad. Just I was still thinking about it this morning.

Was going to ask if they had kids. I would avoid if they don't, at that age.

Why don't you just send a text to Mr. Marvel to put himself and yourself out of your misery, esp as you can't block on your phone? How many unanswered messages has he sent and not got the message?

Your chilled-out vibes are always welcome, but we still need to discuss your pre-date state! Thought you were going to properly panic.

I'd hate for someone ahead of me in a drive-through to buy anything - stinks of stalker-ish-ness. My DD has loads of these sorts of talks at school - don't accept gifts from strangers etc.
If my DD was in the car she'd be freaked out.

I think buying a wrapped sandwich for a homeless person (who can't afford a roof over his/her head let alone a car) a nicer gesture!

New date for later set up - meeting MrB who I was supposed to see last weekend, DIYing all the nail / waxing / hair stuff argh!

I like the coffee thing. No ulterior motive as you have no idea who the person behind you is going to be...just kindness and you never know what sort of day that person is having..it might just make them smile.

midcentury thank you and good luck for your date with MrB later ;)

Why avoid someone in their thirties who have no kids mr drummer?

@midcenturylegs
Mr R has still got job issues. I'm sure in a month or two I will have moved on lol
I also have wisdom toothache ouch.

@midcenturylegs really? Someone did it to me and DD and it made our day... Starbucks told us it happens all the time. So we pay it forward. Last time I did it the bloke was beaming and waved but ideally we try to get away without seeing the reaction. As far as homeless people go, I take them into McDonalds (typically where they congregate) let them choose, pay then leave them to collect. I actually find most refuse food anyway but just want money which I never give.

@kerkyra I think because in LTR they might want kids at some point, even if they think they don't now. Didn't imagine you would be up for more kids. As I said before I wouldn't date someone whom hasn't had kids again, anyway because in my experience they want to be more spontaneous which is tricky with kids.

I think if someone bought me a coffee in the car ahead,my first thought would be they want to sleep with me ! I would drive away like a crazy woman,coffee slurping everywhere. But that is you mr drummer,you are quite quirky and have good intentions.

When we met and you said you were after a mild goth sort of girl,i can see that. We are very different in who we are looking for. Are you swiping?

ahh yes,i get you
nope,i'm peri I think :)

kerkyra that would be my 1st thought, if a man or woman in front bought me a coffee I'd assume they fancied me (modest I know).
I'm cynical though and think truly altruistic people are a very rare breed.

It's nice to think someone likes the alternative look. I have the whole nose ring and tattoos thing going on, and I'm sure it puts some men off.

Well, I've clearly missed a trick because someone bought a coffee for me. I might have got a shag out of it. Off to Starbucks now. Might ask them what they think as they know me quite well. (DD and I have £250 a month Starbucks habit!)

If someone bought me a coffee I would think there was something odd about it totally. In fact I would probably think it was drugged!

I do buy food/hot drinks for homeless people though :)