Dating thread 154 - in which beards are encouraged.

[Crustaceans]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
   
2. Develop a thick skin.
   
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
   
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
   
5. Trust your gut instinct.
   
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
   
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
   
8. If it's not fun, stop.
   
9. Loo update is mandatory.
   

10. No dating the thread.
11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

[StealthNinjaMum]

Finally some good news Mythologies. I'm glad that your accidental pof profile is working for you.

Good luck.

[Ant330]

lifegoes just chalk this one up to experience, there will be more genuine guys out there ;)
Organising a date is simple, here's the dates I'm free over the next week or two, which one works for you. Don't get me wrong as parents sometimes those dates can change but not often. And if they do well then you just offer up the next few available dates.
All of the above of course is based on the premise that the person does actually intend to meet.
Don't worry about it, you're not the cause.

[MrDrummer]

@lifegoes Get this for weird. I went speed-dating a while ago and I matched something so we got in contact later and swapped numbers and agreed a mutual place to meet even... but she was busy that weekend because it was her daughter's 18th... fair enough... started asking her when we could meet then she got vague then she asked me to send a picture. I was like... you met me, we talked... so then she said I was being shady because I didn't want to send a picture, so I sent a brand new picture and then she ghosted me a after another message or two. Go figure.

[StealthNinjaMum]

@lifegoes if I had lots of men I can only dream I'd still not treat them how he treated you. You should tell us who he is. We could all bombard him with date requests and then not actually commit.

[lifegoes]

@Ant330 that's exactly the way I look at it. I've got a child, I know how hard it is. I even offered to go to him. He just said, there's nothing to do here.

@MrDrummer that made me laugh, I am sorry. But how did she not remember she had met you.

I do get your point now, some just want an ego boost, texting when bored etc. Don't actually want to start anything up as they can get that of needs be.


Right line drawn for me... I have taken up so much space on here talking about it.

Thank you all and @MrDrummer for being so kind and actually making me laugh.

On we go.

[lifegoes]

No idea why that all went in bold 👀👀👀👀


I would never treat anyone the way he treated me @StealthNinjaMum he's really lead me along the garden path. Texting all day, I've shared things with him that I have never told previously men. I've dated a footballer before and he was nothing but lovely. We are still friends now. But this guy, I can't get my head around it.

[MrDrummer]

@StealthNinjaMum I am educated, witty, intelligent, solvent, look after myself, don't smoke, hardly drink, have been told I have an amazing tongue and still don't get any interest. I am happy to accept that I am ugly son of a bitch but I get yelled at by the thread!

[lifegoes]

I was sold at good tongue witty. Drummer

[StealthNinjaMum]

lifegoes that just makes me even more angry that he'd carry on leading you on while you were opening up to him. While I am really sorry how he has made you feel I suppose it's a lesson to the rest of us to not get carried away. Like you I've only doing this for a few weeks and without these threads I'd be doing the same.

[JeSuisPrest]

There's really something to be said for only having one iron. I have had the most exhausting evening simultaneously messaging MrPlumber who is bored because he's away from home, MrStone who I think may self combust if he doesn't get laid soon and the lovely MrCornish who is well, just absolutely lovely and I fear may be tugging at these cold hard heart strings. I've told them all I'm going to bed now - seeing the green word "typing" from all 3 of them at the top of my convos list had disaster written all over it, although they all know I'm chatting to other people, it just isn't sitting right with me. Feck. I need to make some grown up decisions after my date with MrCornish at the weekend.

[StealthNinjaMum]

@MrDrummer good tongue you say?

I'm all those things too but can't get anyone close to my own age!

[StealthNinjaMum]

JeSuisPrest Assuming MrPlumber is in fact a plumber can you throw him my way? I really need a boiler service and a new bathroom.

[lifegoes]

He shared everything with me, I knew his day to day just by texts/photos/videos.

The more I think @StealthNinjaMum the more I'm starting to think he was controlling.

He'd text if my location changed on tinder or if I added a new photo. He'd ask where I was. He text and asked about why I was keeping my tinder fresh, bet I got loads of DM's of men as I was hot. Said he would understand if there was an overlap.

There was a few times his phone "died" in the middle of a convo. 2 hours later he appeared. Saying his charger was upstairs.

Red flags right!

[Mythologies]

That made me laugh too MrDrummer What a lot of weirdos there are in the world!

[StealthNinjaMum]

@lifegoes it's so odd that someone would spend their time on something that they knew wasn't going to go anywhere. Do they not have better things to do?

[Mythologies]

life definitely another weirdo :(

[MrDrummer]

@StealthNinjaMum how old are you and what ages are approaching you? Presumably older

[lifegoes]

@StealthNinjaMum that's what has upset me I think. I keep wondering if I should have gave him longer to plan something.

[MrDrummer]

@StealthNinjaMum

Do they not have better things to do?

Unequivocally, no... they do not.

[MrDrummer]

@JeSuisPrest

seeing the green word "typing" from all 3 of them at the top of my convos list had disaster written all over it

LOL. You know you are in trouble when you are typing any old rubbish to bat the conversation back to them, just so you can keep up!

[JeSuisPrest]

@StealthNinjaMum I can't vouch for his plumbing skills but the expansion valve on his anode rod was a sight to behold and made my butterfly valve very happy. Several times. He didn't even attempt the back vent, and so grateful was I that we practiced the blow down manoeuvre until it was perfected.😂

[lifegoes]

@JeSuisPrest crying literally crying with laughter at this

[Mythologies]

JeSuis

[MrDrummer]

Congratulations @JeSuisPrest, you win the internet for the day!

[StealthNinjaMum]

@lifegoes what did that video say about the vortex of something fuckery that someone posted earlier? These guys are inconsistent, have no defence for their behaviour and I can't remember the third thing. I guess we need to accept we'll never understand them. My ex had a mid life crisis so I guess I shouldn't be surprised that some people's behaviour is unexplainable.