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Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

999 replies

30somethingandsingle · 18/03/2019 17:50

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

OP posts:
BatshitCrazyWoman · 25/03/2019 13:26

Grin thank you Man

shitwithsugaron · 25/03/2019 13:27

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CassettesAreCool · 25/03/2019 13:29

Yup, friendzoning rich, sorry. And man, that iron just seems very hard work to me, again sorry.

batshit what total bollocks about being unworthy, get a grip! He is as lucky to have met you and you are to have met him.

richdeniro · 25/03/2019 13:37

Oh well I'll go on the date and see if my natural charisma and hopefully a fun date can change her mind.

If not, I'll let her know that I'm not really looking for another friend.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 25/03/2019 13:38

I'll be holding that thought Cassettes. He does seem chuffed I'm meeting him ...

Man4allseasons · 25/03/2019 13:41

shitwith "fuck and chuck" lol! pmsl!!

Man4allseasons · 25/03/2019 13:43

bats He should be!! you are the prize!!

Still18atheart · 25/03/2019 13:43

batshit- calm the duck down although you’re excitement is infectious and I’m excited for you. Remember to breath. Also remember to keep us updated on what happens Wink

BatshitCrazyWoman · 25/03/2019 13:53

Even if it's fuck and chuck I think it's going to be awesome ...

Howlingatthesun · 25/03/2019 14:05

Rich,
A man with nothing to lose has everything to gain.!

I think You’re going about it the right way

Ant330 · 25/03/2019 14:14

Bats have fun ;)

JeSuisPrest · 25/03/2019 14:18

Fuck and chuck - dying!

I've got another date lined up with MrBanker - sleep over at his on Friday night - hopefully there'll be a nice meal out first and he'll have got over his nerves a little. As we all know 5 days is a long time in OLD, so I'm not getting overinvested this time. No obsessive phone checking, day dreamer, overthinking or imagining what it's going to be like waking up in his nice 5 bedroomed house with sea views, because it may not happen.

With that in mind, and feel absolutely free to shoot me down in flames, but I've arranged a date with an old iron who gave me complete fanny gallops when I met him a couple of times for coffee, over the phone and messaging. It's MrPlumber who didn't want to wear a condom because he'd had the snip. He came back with his tail between his legs with a massive heartfelt apology for messing it up and admitted he'd been chancing his arm and had been a complete and utter twat for even suggesting it. This is the only guy other than MrAbs that I've felt this kind of wanting/passion for. So we're meeting up on Thursday night for a sleepover. We both know it's just a one off FB arrangement, but I can't get him out of my head and I think this will help put it to bed and move on. Excuse the pun.

And I feel bad because I told MrBanker I wasn't chatting to anyone else (I wasn't when we began chatting...), but bugger it, I'm 43, there's a guy I want to sleep with, he's bloody gorgeous and fit as hell, we're both single so I'm going for it. I don't want to get into my dotage and regret not doing something, and I know I would regret not doing him..Blush I've spent enough of my adulthood doing things to keep other people happy and making myself miserable in the process. Flame away...

Ant330 · 25/03/2019 14:19

MsBathLegs was due to come over and walk the dog with me on Saturday, we've also now arranged to go out for coffee on Friday followed by lunch if all goes well.
I've backed away from MsMarvel as messaging became a bit dull. Still talking to MsOz and now Ms7.

Man4allseasons · 25/03/2019 14:23

jeSuis Go for it! You only live once, and I'm all for regretting thing I did do, rather than those I didn't do...

Ant330 · 25/03/2019 14:24

JeSuis go for it, get it out of your system before you meet MrBanker again.

CassettesAreCool · 25/03/2019 14:35

JeSuis the only problem with your plan is that it might mess up how you feel about Mr B and then you're back to square one. Are you sure Mr P is worth it?

supercali77 · 25/03/2019 14:40

jesuis I say go for it! You're right. You owe no one anything right now. You weren't when you started chatting but you are now and it's a one off. So crack on!

JeSuisPrest · 25/03/2019 15:00

@CassettesAreCool I don't really have the feels for MrBanker yet, certainly not the passion I feel for MrPlumber. Something may develop when we've spent a little bit more time together. I really hope it does, he's a lovely guy and ticks a lot of boxes for me, but the sexual chemistry with MrPlumber is mindblowing 💥. I wish I could put them both together, then I'd have the perfect guy 🙈

Howlingatthesun · 25/03/2019 15:03

Call me an old fart but on the one hand it seems a bit sceptical to roll out of mr plumbers bed on friday morning and into mr bankers in the evening. But then mr banker may never intend to introduce you to his parents anyway, so what the hell.

News From my side went out with a mate saturday and rolled into the office via home this morning.
Could be fun fwb. Think ill call her long tall sally. wont be long term as she is young with no kids. And she seems to think i am younger than i am....Blush plus ill be away a lot in the coming months. But she makes a decent scratching post

Restlessinthenorth · 25/03/2019 15:06

@JeSuisPrest you have to go for it with MrPlumber....really can't see a reason not to!

Restlessinthenorth · 25/03/2019 15:08

@Batshit I'm excited for you! Stop it off with the not worthy thing...I'm terrible for this and it's just not bloody true. Go be your fantastic self and enjoy every minute of it

unique1986 · 25/03/2019 15:12

@wishywashy6

MrRussian is 27.
MrEven Younger was 26 but it was rubbish, nothing to do with age.
Or maybe as he kept saying how inexperienced he was with OLD.

wishywashy6 · 25/03/2019 15:16

@unique1986 ahh onwards and upwards I guess! Are you seeing either of them again?

unique1986 · 25/03/2019 15:23

I have left the ball in MrR's court, he said he can't meet me for now..
So yeh up to him to arrange/get in contact.

richdeniro · 25/03/2019 15:26

@JeSuis Go for it as long as Mr B is on the same page and you aren't going to hurt him. Can tell you're completely emotionally unavailable.

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