Do you think this is normal for a family in a rural region in the 90s?

[Moralitym1n1]

(it has actually continued into the '00s as well)

• females (not sure about males) don't have sex before marriage

• females (as above not sure about males) have a curfew while single and while dating. (Weekend curfew later than weekday one).

• all live at home until married

• if females (no idea about males) go on trip with boyfriend before married, separate rooms and chaperon eg brother goes on trip as well (shares room with bf)

• all females except one becomes house wife after marriage (the one exception actually works in same place as husband)

• large families (4 min.) after marriage

• regular church attendance

• (before marriage) females encouraged to participate in beauty pageants and similar 'lovely girl' competitions

• no artificial contraception (except barrier methods at risky times alongside NFP)

• no separate socialising from partner (both males and females)

• almost exclusively family socialising (both)

• discouragement from drinking alcohol (both but females more than males)

• both males and females strongly encouraged to study and work close to home (as above only one female cont'd to work after marriage.

I don't think this was average/normal in the 90s but am being told it was.

...er no of course it wasn't, outside of very strict fringe religious communities.

Do you live in the US? Even there this would be outside the norm, but at least there there are more fringe fundamentalist communities in rural areas. Rural areas in the UK are... Normal areas where human beings have freedom!

Is this a particular culture?

It sounds like 1950's America.

I lived in a semi rural village in the 90's and that wasn't normal in my life when growing up. It just sounds like a very very old fashioned way of living and certainly not average at that time.

Maybe the 1890s...

US or UK - UK no US possibly

Nope, not “normal”.

As a PP I too lived semi rurally in the 90's and was nowhwere near the norm.

Who's telling you this? Definitely not normal in the 1990s.

No, that sounds old fashioned to me. I was growing up in a rural community in the 80s/90s so not of the age where those rules would have applied to me until nearer the end of the 90s but I don’t recognise that as the lifestyle of older siblings and cousins.

I knew a lot of families like this growing up, but I grew up in a very religious part of N Ireland, so I now know that it's not the norm. It was very normal for me at that time though, as it was so common.

There are no rural 'regions'. And no, DH's cousins lived rirally as teenagers in the 90s and they were just like teenagers everywhere else, but with more driving!

Sorry in England tjay should habr been

God no! I grew up in a rural area (still live there in fact) and was a teenager in the 90s. I was out with friends of both sexes, certainly had sex before marriage, went off to festivals with friends from age 16, went away to uni halfway across the country. I’m sure my teen DCs have a more sheltered life now than I did at their age because they tend to stay in more and do stuff on screens. Sounds more like the 1890s!

Catholic?

I better holding hands up and say this is retrospective; I should really have said "I was told it was normal" rather than "am being told"....

I'm trying to process a failed relationship with a man from a rural region. He told me it was normal in their area, I doubted that.

Catholic?

Yes.

*hold my hands up

My DM sister and brother ran houses like that, they were competitive with piousness trying to be more Holy.
My mum tried with us but she succumbed to drink and left us be.

I knew a lot of families like this growing up, but I grew up in a very religious part of N Ireland, so I now know that it's not the norm. It was very normal for me at that time though, as it was so common.

I'm in NI on the border, he's in rural region of ROI near border.

Southern Ireland?

I suppose if you lived within such a community (and I am assuming some sort of religious community) it would be 'normal' to those within the community as they would have no experience of anything else.

Sounds normal for very religious families than for a particular decade. Most people in the last 20/30 years won't have been so religious.

Perhaps being in this region makes a considerable difference (from English etc. posters) but I still don't think it's not normal.

My older sisters had sex before marriage etc. In the 80s/90s By the end of the relationship I felt like he saw my family as degenerate/having low morals and standards.

You know how you know what's right/reasonable but you still feel the need for confirmation.

*it's normal

Southern Ireland?

Yes (though strictly speaking more North than South of the island).