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My husband has just hit me

517 replies

namechange101145 · 10/03/2019 19:09

We had a big argument this afternoon, about a non issue, that escalated.
I went into our bedroom for some space, he followed me, I kept asking him to please just go away, he refused and kept shouting. He grabbed my wrists and pinned me down and told me never to tell him to go away in his own home again.
I left to sort my horses out, returned an hour later.
Went into the kitchen and began making dinner, assuming he'd come in and apologise.
He came in screaming at me, calling me every name under the sun. He pretended he hadn't grabbed me and I was being a drama queen. I asked if he'd be ok if BIL did that to SIL (his sister)... "only if she deserved it, like you did."
I told him I was going, ran out to the kitchen to grab my coat and he grabbed me and shoved me. I fell against the fridge and hit my head, he was screaming and swearing at me and calling me a slag.
I ran and jumped into my car.
Currently said in my car by the beach.
I don't know what to do.
He's hit me before, twice, and received counselling for this.
My parents are currently on holiday. I'm 200 miles from my close friends/family.
I can't leave this area due to my horses.
I need to go home and get my stuff. I don't even have my purse.
I'm sat here crying and crying. I just don't know what to do or where to go.

OP posts:
Shmithecat2 · 10/03/2019 19:11

Call the police!

sackrifice · 10/03/2019 19:11

Call the police.

AuntieCJ · 10/03/2019 19:11

Phone the police. They will go with you to collect some things. Sorry this has happened.

Champagnebrain · 10/03/2019 19:12

Call the police. They will take this very seriously.

RandomWordsandaNumber5 · 10/03/2019 19:12

Call the police right now!

Merryoldgoat · 10/03/2019 19:13

You have to call the police and then leave him. It’s the only way you’ll be safe.

Your horses won’t be looked after if he kills you. You need to think about yourself first.

poppingoff · 10/03/2019 19:13

Police. It's not safe for you to back there alone. He's not calming down, it's escalating.

I'm sorry.

RubyViolet · 10/03/2019 19:13

Call the Police and get him removed from the house. If he has had counselling you can prove this is a pattern and that he is a risk.

YogaWannabe · 10/03/2019 19:14

Please please call the police.

MissEliza · 10/03/2019 19:15

Please call the police.

namechange101145 · 10/03/2019 19:15

Thank you all.

I feel so ashamed that I went back to him before. I just don't know where I can go tonight. I don't know if I can face calling the police right now. I'm absolutely devastated.

OP posts:
FizzyGreenWater · 10/03/2019 19:16

You call the police and have him removed.

You need to take action now, love. Or you will end up seriously injured or dead.

FizzyGreenWater · 10/03/2019 19:17

Just call them.

They will take him away and you can be safe in your own home, sort your horses.

That is all you need to do right now.

sackrifice · 10/03/2019 19:18

Next time, you might not actually get out.

Call them now.

burritofan · 10/03/2019 19:19

Please don't feel ashamed. The only shameful behaviour is his. Lots of women go back; it can take more than one attempt to walk away from abuse. You've done nothing wrong. Please call the police. No one will judge you. He is unsafe for you to be around. Thanks

Sexnotgender · 10/03/2019 19:19

I’m sorry this has happened to you.

I agree you need to speak to the police. He’s violent and believes you deserve this. You need to leave him before it gets worse.

wigglypiggly · 10/03/2019 19:20

Can you take some deep breaths, call 101 police helpline, or maybe womens aid.

EdWinchester · 10/03/2019 19:21

omg. Call the police and have him removed.

AuntMarch · 10/03/2019 19:22

Everyone has already said all anyone can say. Phone the police, at the very least they will escort you to collect things and make sure you are safe tonight.

BorsetshireBlew · 10/03/2019 19:22

Are you in the uk?
Police will arrest him and bail him not to return to your address.

FannyFifer · 10/03/2019 19:23

Oh darling, call the police & get him removed from house.
Is your head alright, are you injured?

smartiecake · 10/03/2019 19:23

Please call the police. Do you have a friend you can call. Don't go back to him. He will never change

sue51 · 10/03/2019 19:23

He's done this twice before. He's had a second and a third chance. Now call the police.

Sonicknuckles · 10/03/2019 19:23

Agree call the police. Hope you are ok.

Twerking9til5 · 10/03/2019 19:23

Oh, love, you have nothing at all to be ashamed of.

Please do call the police. They can go back with you. Explain that you need to be there to take care of the horses. They can make him stay away.

You have nothing to be ashamed of.

Without your purse you have no way to go to a hotel etc.

Without the police you have no safe way to go back to your house, even for your things.

Third strike: he needs to be out.

You deserve support and the police will be in your side.

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