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My husband has just hit me

517 replies

namechange101145 · 10/03/2019 19:09

We had a big argument this afternoon, about a non issue, that escalated.
I went into our bedroom for some space, he followed me, I kept asking him to please just go away, he refused and kept shouting. He grabbed my wrists and pinned me down and told me never to tell him to go away in his own home again.
I left to sort my horses out, returned an hour later.
Went into the kitchen and began making dinner, assuming he'd come in and apologise.
He came in screaming at me, calling me every name under the sun. He pretended he hadn't grabbed me and I was being a drama queen. I asked if he'd be ok if BIL did that to SIL (his sister)... "only if she deserved it, like you did."
I told him I was going, ran out to the kitchen to grab my coat and he grabbed me and shoved me. I fell against the fridge and hit my head, he was screaming and swearing at me and calling me a slag.
I ran and jumped into my car.
Currently said in my car by the beach.
I don't know what to do.
He's hit me before, twice, and received counselling for this.
My parents are currently on holiday. I'm 200 miles from my close friends/family.
I can't leave this area due to my horses.
I need to go home and get my stuff. I don't even have my purse.
I'm sat here crying and crying. I just don't know what to do or where to go.

OP posts:
FizzyGreenWater · 10/03/2019 20:56

We are here Flowers

oatmilk4breakfast · 10/03/2019 20:57

Handhold from me too. You sound devastated and so shocked. Thinking of you. Reaching out to you from London. Maya Angelou I think said ‘when someone shows you who they are, believe them.’ There should be no coming back from this for him. It keeps happening. You are not to blame. He is. Please remember that. It’s not your fault. However many times he says it is. 💐

Minkies11 · 10/03/2019 20:57

You are brave OP. Everyone on here will be handholding with you. He didn't just lose it and lash out - he pursued you around the house. He is a dangerous man. He deserves to lose his job as he is not safe. Please don't take on any guilt about reporting him - nothing is your fault.

Minkies11 · 10/03/2019 20:58

Am also in the SW btw.

LateMumma · 10/03/2019 21:00

Deepest SW here. If that's close and I can help, I'd be honoured. You've got this xx

rainbowlou · 10/03/2019 21:01

I’m SW too, we are all behind you and would be happy to help if I can x

Needtobuildabridge · 10/03/2019 21:02

Sending hugs OP. Stay strong, you've got this.

Harumphharagh · 10/03/2019 21:07

Not even remotely sw but just holding out a hand. You’re doing brilliantly, op, we’re all here with you.

ScabbyHorse · 10/03/2019 21:08

Tell the nurse how it happened. Even though it's difficult, it's important to do it. Thanks

losingfaith · 10/03/2019 21:09

Op, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I do hope you're as well as can be given the circumstances and that you get seen soon. Definitely do report to the police and DON'T worry about his job. Any consequences will be a result of his own actions, not yours.

cocomelon23 · 10/03/2019 21:09

Don't be afraid to be totally honest with everyone. They are there to help you.

SospanFrangipan · 10/03/2019 21:10

Look after yourself OP, you're doing the right thing x

Samind · 10/03/2019 21:11

All these pp's are singing from the same sheet. You need out. No more chances for him. Hope you're ok and get seen soon 💜

Iflyaway · 10/03/2019 21:13

I feel so ashamed that I went back to him before. I just don't know where I can go tonight. I don't know if I can face calling the police right now. I'm absolutely devastated.

Please don't be ashamed. You are not the first and won't be the last.

Call the police, get him out tonight. will help you decide the next course of action.

And please don't go back to him. You can do this on your own.

Cos he could kill you.

AnguaUberwaldIronfoundersson · 10/03/2019 21:13

OP you sound in a very similar position to me when I’d had enough. In fact my breaking point was him saying something similar about his sisters being treated badly and how they wouldn’t stay with someone like him. It woke me up to the fact he knew what he was doing and had control over it.

I left and it was hard but it was the best thing I’ve ever done.

Please look after yourself x

Grumpelstilskin · 10/03/2019 21:14

Glad you went to the hospital. This way you get checked up for a possible concussion and also have some proof. I would call the police while you are waiting. They can always come there to take your statement. Good luck.

namechange101145 · 10/03/2019 21:15

I've been seen by the triage nurse. She's just taken me through to a bed and is arranging for a police officer to come and talk to me. She's bringing me a cup of tea too.
My head is ok but she wants the dr to see me, to double check.
I never knew it was possible to cry this much. The nurse was so lovely.
We've had such a nice weekend, we got back from holiday only a week ago. I just can't believe he could do this to me. I feel like my heart has shattered into a thousand pieces.
We started arguing over fucking mushrooms 😫

OP posts:
wheresthehope · 10/03/2019 21:15

Please look after yourself OP x

Wolfiefan · 10/03/2019 21:18

It doesn’t matter what you argued about. Nothing would have justified him hurting you like this OP. I’m so glad you are safe and being looked after.
In Glos if that’s near you. Offering a handhold my sweet. Flowers

MrsJDornan · 10/03/2019 21:18

You are in right place op Thanks

iwantavuvezela · 10/03/2019 21:18

Glad you are been looked after op, you are in the right place.

EKGEMS · 10/03/2019 21:19

I'm so sorry dear! I hope they can help you!

TokyoSushi · 10/03/2019 21:21

Oh OP, I'm so sorry that this has happened, just adding my support Thanks

TinselAndKnickers · 10/03/2019 21:21

You are so brave and strong to get out and seek help - well done OP. I can't say anything new but just wanted to say that it will all be okay and your husband is a fucking disgrace. Please be kind to yourself. We are all here to offer a shoulder to cry on Thanks

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 10/03/2019 21:21
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