My husband has just hit me

[namechange101145]

We had a big argument this afternoon, about a non issue, that escalated.
I went into our bedroom for some space, he followed me, I kept asking him to please just go away, he refused and kept shouting. He grabbed my wrists and pinned me down and told me never to tell him to go away in his own home again.
I left to sort my horses out, returned an hour later.
Went into the kitchen and began making dinner, assuming he'd come in and apologise.
He came in screaming at me, calling me every name under the sun. He pretended he hadn't grabbed me and I was being a drama queen. I asked if he'd be ok if BIL did that to SIL (his sister)... "only if she deserved it, like you did."
I told him I was going, ran out to the kitchen to grab my coat and he grabbed me and shoved me. I fell against the fridge and hit my head, he was screaming and swearing at me and calling me a slag.
I ran and jumped into my car.
Currently said in my car by the beach.
I don't know what to do.
He's hit me before, twice, and received counselling for this.
My parents are currently on holiday. I'm 200 miles from my close friends/family.
I can't leave this area due to my horses.
I need to go home and get my stuff. I don't even have my purse.
I'm sat here crying and crying. I just don't know what to do or where to go.

Ops not coming back, probably back with the women beater because they are having a baby

Raspberrytruffle that's a really unhelpful comment, you've no idea what's been going on

Unhelpful but true, I just hope op gets out before she's got a newborn. Social services will be poking there noses in if they no there's been violence

Raspberrytruffle stop it

Just read the whole post, wanted to say how well you're doing. Keep safe and keep posting if you can, a lot of people are concerned about you.
Take care

I am in my 30’s with two small children. My husband has been abusive to me several times. But I am the same I don’t feel like I was in a controlling absuive relationship?? He never cared what I did or who I was with but he would get angry during conversations and things I would say and lash out at me.
The most recent incident is he smacked me in the mouth in front of my two children.
I have left him but feel constantly guilty for my children.
He is doing a lot to change his ways and see’s a councillor regularly...I feel like I should go back for my kids 😔 without a doubt the hardest time in my life..

@Mooncancer15
Better start your own thread...

@mooncancer15 do not go back! The children's are being used to make you feel bad. You shouldn't they will thank you in the future for walking away. Abusers don't change, you can't trust them. Do you really want to live on eggshells waiting for the next hit

@Mooncancer15 do not go back. I've been the child and there is no benefit to children seeing their mother smacked around and living in fear of their father.
I've been the adult too, I left and never looked back. My kids are not sorry we left.

Hi, so I've been in a relationship for 4 years I've got a daughter with him who is nearly 1 but I feel asif everything I do is wrong and nothing is ever good enough.
I try so hard, I look after our daughter and I try my best to do what I can for him we argue over the smallest of things just because he hasn't understood what I have said, or even use a word he has never heard. He threatens to leave me all the time which leaves me obviously begging for him not to go I have no confidence at all since having our daughter as I've put on abit of weight and I am struggling to lose it he knows this and he will laugh and tell me to go find someone else, honestly I am such a caring person and I try my best to do anything I possibly can I help him fix cars while looking after our daughter to! I've ask him to go feed the ducks and hes kicked off to fuck with me i feel asif i just can't do anything about it and i really need someone to talk to as I've lost basically everyone apart from my parents and sister but I can't tell my parents and definitely not my sister as it would break her heart knowing I am struggling

Hi Casey94, I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. This is an old thread so your post may get missed so maybe start a new thread, mn are good for advice. I say leave him, you do not need to be in this relationship. It is not about weight or getting someone else, it's about doing what is best for you and your child. He is not worth it.

Would love an update from OP that she is doing well

Get a job on a ranch taking care of other people's horses if that is what you love doing the most

Are there many ranches in England? Do you think that would work well with a newborn in tow?

We're going to close this old thread as it keeps being resurrected by spammers. The OP deregistered her account some while ago so won't be returning to update, unfortunately.

Thanks to everyone who gave advice and support at the time.

OP, we hope you're doing okay. If you do re-join and wish to update this thread, please drop us a line at [email protected] and we can re-open this for you.