Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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@shitwithsugaron oh yes definitely, and it comes down to compatibility also. I don't think I'd survive 3 hours in one go to be honest, half an hour is about the most I can take in one sitting with current partner!!

My exH used to take forever but there was also no build up, little foreplay and just lots of thrusting. I used to just lay back and do the shopping list while he got on with it. Killed my sex drive and as a result we rarely ever dtd
Totally the opposite with Mr24 😍

Thanks all.

I'll just see how things go with Mrs TW. I've told her we'll move at her pace, and there's no pressure from me.

Still have a date with Mrs HC on the 16th (so far ).

shit wow I would certainly be dwelling on that comment from his friend, combined with poor sex and dreary conversation (not to mention jutting bones!). A person who wants a relationship and is not that bothered who with is a complete turnoff, no? Best to rip the plaster off, surely? Best for both of you.

MyOld so happy to hear you are having fun. Let's hope at least one of them progresses to the benefits stage

@shitwithsugaron what did MrIndie say about meeting MrRugby?

I’m not seeing Mr SA until the weekend so I have lots of time to build up to the exclusive talk, he’s then away all next week working. His work hours are making things hard but I guess it’s becuase my work hours are a bit odd too, I don’t want him coming over when the dc’s are here until I know it’s serious so I guess for now it will be just a once a week thing. I am tempted to look on tinder for some irons just incase the exclusive talk doesn’t go to plan and because I’m bored only seeing someone once a week (sometimes once every 2 weeks), would love to find someone I share a hobby with and some new friends as I am lacking in that department. I wish there were more meet up groups in my area but most are all old people who like to go walking.

Holy god I just went on fab it's mental!!! Interestingly I saw one of the guys I went on a date with last week who was separated only 3 weeks. He messaged me so I thought I'd play along turns out he's still married and not separated. What a dick!! I'm going to have fun winding him up 🤣🤣🤣

I've just ended it with mr garden gate. He was great when we were together,but it was just too much too soon. Every day little sexual innuendo's in his txts,which I asked him to calm down and I was beginning to worry about my first night over at his this weekend when we were to dtd. Such a flirt too. I wondered with his age if it was to do with needing attention and to make him feel better in himself?
Listened to my gut and feel relieved

Focus2019 it took me 4 attempts to get used to Fab. I couldn't cope with the endless messages.
But now I'm just concentrating on the few that I'm having a decent chat with. And deleting anyone who just sends a dick pic or clearly hasn't read my profile.

That's horrible to come across a previous date and find out he's married. Have fun!

user1466783975 well done for listening to your gut. It's so easy to get carried away. And it's not good if he's not listening to your requests for him to calm down.

Just place marking. So much to read 👀

shit and love - just read that thread, poor girl. I love long sessions but has to be a change of position, several times.
Focus - I'm dying to hear how he responds when you finally tell him! Lol.

user - How did he take it? You've absolutely done the right thing, he sounds really seedy.

Oh focus I can't wait to hear his reply.

User always go with your gut, if he's not listening now to your requests. Imagine what he'll be like down the line.

Re men lasting, I like a bit of both. Quick, hot, passionate fast sex (enough time to really enjoy it 😉) then passionate good lasting sex. But I'm not sure I'd want 60/90 mins of just banging until he came. I'd feel a bit awful on him and prob end up dry 🤦🏻‍♀️ As id end up questioning why he hasn't yet. Although I don't mind 45mins of "fun" and then actual sex.

He's taken it well,tried to explain via txt that it's just his cheeky sense of humour but if I wanted to end it he would understand. So I replied yes I do. But i also said I have other stuff going on with kids so just over stressed with everything( I suppose I was trying to blame other stuff so he felt better)

He has asked to be friends and can I bring the stuff he left in my car from our shopping last week over tomorrow. He also bought a bike for me which is at his. So I will pop by for an hour.

It's strange as I can see it is all a bit seedy now...thanks TooOLD. It isn't normal behaviour is it! Dodged a bullet there,he can go plant his seeds somewhere else!

@lifegoes @TooOldForThis67 I told him we'd met before his story changing faster than I can keep up 🤣🤣🤣 separated not separated just back together lol she knows I'm on here etc. I've just told him we met last week so he will figure it out now 🤣🤣🤣

He's still asking to meet me no acknowledgement that he's married told me he was single!!!

Wow Focus that is one desperate, thick, entitled arsehole of a man

Haha focus that’s great

Guys on fab I am thinking of joining but not really after hook ups. Would like a FWB but with the friend bit... Would you meet people for a coffee date first or is fab really more for one night stands?

Malboro
I'm not speaking from direct experience , but I think it's both. Most women want to meet socially before anything more intimate takes place...

Marlboroandmalbec34 that's exactly what I'm looking for on Fab.
I made it clear in my profile that friends was just as important as benefits. I won't chat with any one who doesn't send a face pic. And I won't discuss sex before I've met someone.

The ones I'm chatting to are happy to talk about their lives and work. Just normal OLD chat.

I've got a couple of coffee dates lined up for later in the week. If we get on then we'll take it from there.
There seem to be a lot of men who are busy with work and don't have time for a relationship but also don't want quick hookups.

Marlboro I met my FWB on Fab, chatted for 5 mins on the site then the evening on WA, met for a drink the next night, spent the following day in bed. The deal is 'friends and lovers' ( he's a bit more romantically inclined than I am) and it's good. I also encountered one other guy on Fab who just wanted ONS/FB stuff - I nodded off after the exchange of information about size etc, he had no banter or warmth whatsoever, I mean literally what is the point?

So - Fab is what you want it to be, as a woman you get first dibs I think.

I can't keep up with who said what 😳

Re: Fab, I always do a social meet first. With the current FWB we met three times before we got to the sex. That was probably a bit excessive!

Men being nice but dull - I wouldn't settle for this. I'd like the man I meet to be my favourite person to spend time with. And a good, dry sense of humour is very sexy. A nice man my mother would like wouldn't do anything for me!

Men 'lasting' - I like passion, so quickies and 'got to have you now' is good, as well as longer sessions. And being very attentive is important.

WOW focus. Some people are really stupid aren't they.

I don't know if it's always happened and I've been oblivious to it, but the amount of married men these days saying they are single or separated, when they aren't is huge.

That's all I hear, yet at what point do they think they'll never be found out.