Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

There shouldn't be any 'buts' shit ....

shitwith - He's not 'the one' is he and it is a shame. Sometimes nerves plays a part in a man's performance so it might be worth another try if all else is good.
koko - You got some action at last, yey! Try not to over think. Has another date been mentioned?

Meh - Sorry to hear about MrWelsh. Just say 'No'. Lol. (hoping your old enough to remember the ad!).

So need some advice........again 🤣🤣🤣 I was doing no contact with McDreamy and my 30 days was up so I sent him a friendly text. He responded today with a equally friendly message. Now do I respond to that message or just leave it see if he messages me?? Mr Grey No 2 still being a bit flakey.

Feeling a bit sorry for myself tonight. It's those Sunday night blues I think.

Nobody new to speak to on the dating apps, no exciting dates lined up. Just feeling a bit pathetic and sad that maybe I don't get my happiness in love. I get everything else but that 😔

Focus It depends on what's been said between the two messages. I don't know the background either so hard for me to say.

Chin up life - you’re not pathetic and sad. Sure you’re gorgeous.

Feeling flat after Mr Hissy Fit - as he shall be known - buggered off. How can he just leave you hanging on the air with just an ‘ I’m sorry’. Sorry for what? He was sending me little music clips of him Playing guitar on Thursday. I hate feeling baffled. I’m
Saying away from Bumble. Just can’t face it. :(

Thanks upyer I don't even know why I'm letting it get to me. I was happily single before my ex.

I do get the impression something isn't right with him there, as if he's worried you might know something or find something out. Hence his reaction, as he's reacted over the top.

If someone said that to me, I would laugh and say "oh telling people about me are you?!"

life you absolutely cannot measure your worth by your experiences doing OLD. You are worth everything you want for yourself - OLD is full of people who need to sort their lives out before they start dating. In short, it's not you, it's them!

Focus what was your aim with no contact? To forget and move on?

Yeah think I’d be the same “ oh, telling your friends are you? “ ... it’s positive surely. I can only assume he’s not quite single, still stringing someone along, chatting to others ... def something fishy though. The thing is he is soooooooooo handsome.

Oh lifegoes I feel exactly the same

I messaged Mr Giant yesterday morning and he still hasn’t read or responded but he has been online. He seemed so keen before the weekend and I have a babysitter booked so we can have a date 2nd date on Tuesday don’t know whether to cancel or wait and see if he come back. His last message on Friday was “aww I like you” so I am confused he has gone silent

Things are odd with Mr Big he messages me seeing how I am etc but no mention of meeting again. I asked him on Tuesday if he fancied meeting (for sex) but he has plans. I thought he would be a great FWB but at the moment it is more like a pen pal!

I asked Mr Messiah out and he said yes but the only time we can both do is 2 weeks away and he said to remind him nearer the time. He messages me funny things but he is much younger and feels like again like a pen pal

On Friday I had a convo with an iron from years and years ago about potential FWB the thing is the sex was amazing but v dominant and it seems he has got darker..probs too dark for me. I am calling him Mr Piss which will give you an idea or what he is now into 😂

Thanks batshit just one of those nights I think, hot bath and a good boxset for me tonight. 😘

Upyer it's always about how people react to situations that tells the story.

Marlboro I wouldn't cancel the sitter. I'd be a bit cautious of going out with him on Tuesday still, due to the lack of contact. But he could be busy or have something else to deal with. Give him until tomorrow at least. Then if not contact, throw him to one side.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I would wait and see with Mr Giant. I've been too quick to rule irons out for the contact but I read something on here about go by how are things in person if that's ok then don't worry so much about the messaging. I'm realising some guys are just rubbish. I'd see how Tuesday goes.

Thanks I think I will wait and see with Mr Giant

Hi all

BatshitCrazyWoman "OLD is full of people who need to sort their lives out before they start dating." - exactly, guess it's inevitable that half the people on OLD are there because they couldn't handle an adult relationship (no offence intended to the other half!)

I had lined up a rather busy weekend with 3 new dates. A lunch one where the conversation flowed really well - not sure if there is the chemistry there though. Second one was coffee with someone who sounded a bit strange online, and something in my gut (which I've learned to trust above my heart or head) says be careful. She then sent me lots of flattering texts about my appearance which I'm not used to and slightly worried about what might happen here...
Third date - was ghosted despite her having arranged, didn't reply to any messages over the past week. So off the radar.
Thursday will be the one I've been seeing for a month. Fantastic mental connection, definite spark, open and slightly edgy (in a good way) convo and a couple of great snogs too. Surely DTD can't be far off?! At which point, of course, the others will all be off the menu...

shit sorry Mr Indie isn’t quite hitting the mark.
life OLD and being single can be really deflating - it’s def not you
Thanks toold yes definite plans for next weekend with tentative plans for a lunchtime/evening this week if our schedules align. Not sure why I’ve been getting anxious today-just the stakes seem higher this time.

Thursday's date sounds good Marc

I have been messaging Mr Sailor and have 'slipped in' some slight innuendo. As it were. He's read it and not replied ...

Hello all 😊 Sorry to those having a bit of a shitty time of it 😬

So my 3 date Sunday turned into 2 date Sunday after the brunch date ghosted me 🤷‍♀️ Very odd. Lots of chats. He instigated the date and then stopped replying to messages yesterday afternoon.

Afternoon date went well. Could imagine myself naked with him and lots of easy chat and a decent snog that could easily compensate for him being slightly shorter than I'd ideally like 😉 He's messaged to say he had a lovely time but no mention of another date yet.

Evening date was ok. Lots in common and conversation flowed. Didn't fancy him though 😬 The Law of Sod dictates that he messaged straight away and asked to see me again so now need to send the "no spark" conversation 😬

Still got a few irons I'm speaking to but not sure about arranging any other dates yet. Don't want to put all eggs in short blokes basket but equally, I only have a limited amount of child free time so don't want to "waste" it if there's a second date in the cards 😬

Just placemarking

Marlb - Hmm, Mr Piss, that'd be a step too far for me too. MrBig turned down sex? MrMessiah could drop off the radar within 2 weeks. Sorry, don't mean to be so negative! Have you any other irons?
Marc - What is putting you off the 2nd one exactly? Compliments are good aren't they? Your Thurs date sounds good and if you've seen her a few times I'd think sex would be on the agenda by now, if she's anything like us rampant lot, lol.

Placemarking! :)

@shitwithsugaron
I met a guy just for sex who went on for hours, same spooning position -which I could barely feel as his cock was small, I was so bored and then I ended up with thrush.

I asked him the next day how he lasted for hours and he said he had wanked 3 times before he saw me as he wanted to make sure he lasted.

I decided never to see him again.

SortingItOut yeuck! What an idiot.

shitwith that doesn't sound great. But is he on any medication? The last time I was in a relationship, he was on daily medication which adversely affected his ability to finish. We managed to work round it.

Sorting the spooning position alone would put me off - let alone the going on for ages. Which is fine if it feels awesome, obviously!

Tilly that's quite a good 'return' for a three date Sunday - annoying about the ghoster, and the no spark, but one good date out of the three is good! Has Mr slightly too short asked for a second date yet?