Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

super could he have just not got round to deleting his profile? Or has he just deleted the app like someone else said? There's only one way to find out!

I have a Saturday coffee date with Mr Cat. Whose pics and voice give me fizzy knickers! Which has made me realise that Mr Sailor didn't!

FWB #3 possibly on Thursday this week ...

I never knew you could hide your profile. If I was coming off, I'd just delete the app from my phone. So it could be that

Batshit I wouldn't send anything if he hasn't replied. The ownership is on him now, you don't need to justify yourself for letting it fizzle out.

Myold have you done a status. I found doing a status helped get more messages. Plus I only reply to those that have included a face picture

MyOld - you do get time wasters on Fab - some men think they want to meet women for sex then bottle out. I tended to pick only men who had veris to respond to.

TooOldForThis67 he actually told me that the weather would be colder today so I should wrap up warm. I had to walk away from the phone at that point.
And I think he's one of life's ditherers. We're going out for a meal in an area that he knows well. But he can't choose the restaurant as he doesn't know what I like. I told him that by 8pm on Friday I'll be starving and I'd eat anything put in front of me. So we're going to look at a few places when we get there and see what I fancy. (Why did I agree to a second date??)

lifegoes never thought about doing a status. I have no idea what to put.
I get so many messages without any photos or just a dick pic. And they say "I really like your profile". Which means "I looked at the pics and didn't read the bit that said must send a face pic".

thx niiiiiiice
www.medespoir.net/

MyOld 😴 that would feel very 'parental' to me too - need a bit of flirty chat. And dithering - that would drive me batty!

Thanks ladies. Yeah you're right...i'll never know until I ask what the sitch is. And yes! Of course I did consider saying to my mate...hey right swipe and see what he does. But like...i think him matching with a freind of mine would mortify me as much as it would bring some clarity haha. So I resisted. We're meeting for dinner tonight and I'm not sure whether we're going back to my place or what....i don't really wanna ask in the tiny street food place where people can hear you swallow. Sakes!

After saying I didnt think I could cope emotionally with FWB situation, that's just where I am and I think it's all good! Had a date with Mr Welsh (iron from a few years ago but we didn't ever dtd back then) 10 days ago and had a great time- eating, drinking, dtd, snuggling- and an open conversation about what we wanted. The friend bit is really really important to me- and to him too- but neither of us are in positions for a relationship and he would be a bloody nightmare as a partner too so I have no intention of wanting that. But, he is attractive, frighteningly clever, interesting and funny so we're hoping to see each other Friday, his adult children dependent, at my place this time for the first time. Im really excited! Other dates were always at his.

I feel very grown up and quite empowered!

I am lurking in the background but haven't had the chance to post, loving the funny date stories.

warrior I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Your husband sounds like a thoroughly decent man xx

myold I would suggest doing a status. I looked at some other women on there and realised they were just clear about what they want so I did the same. As I get more unwanted messages I add a bit more to my profile. I hope mine is clear I do want a FWB but friends bit been important. That I don’t want married. I do want talk with hair. I don’t want married men or men in a relationship etc

MyOld agree with Malboro I actually put on my status - browsing for a possible FWB

I have the same as you on my profile about only reply to face pictures included.
If they don't include one, they get deleted. If they can't read basic instructions, I have no time for them

Marboro it was me who was trying to arrange a threesome with a couple from Fab before I got attached to a guy from POF. I have been away on holiday for 10 days so everything had to go on hold.

I am now meeting the Fab couple on Saturday night for the threesome! I am seeing Mr Much Younger from POF for a date on Friday night at a comedy show but we won't dtd afterwards as I need to get up early for a sports-related activity on Saturday morning.

I suspect that Mr Much Younger is either a bit of a player or just wants me as a sort of friend as he blows a bit hot and cold, and takes ages to reply to messages. Can't decide which though. He is very laid back though so maybe it is just the way he is.

No other irons unfortunately but I need to get back on POF and Tinder and get back in the game. I have also given up alcohol and joined Weightwatchers as I seem to have managed to put on a few pounds and want to be a bit more body confident.

Omg, I didn't know it was possible to have so much fun sexting about tights!
That's a sentence I never thought I'd write, lol.

TooOld I hear you about the tights sexting, that's how I ended up with H Redknapp's great auntie though (should have made it clear I did the decent thing by stopping for a coffee with him/her, but ran away just as soon as I possibly could - he was also psychopathic about a particular category of London driver)

hello all, there are a lot of messages to get through :). Shall I start a new thread?

glad to see some familiar faces on here!

started new thread here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3530342-Dating-thread-150-I-get-knocked-down-but-I-get-up-again

btw have we spoken about this poor woman who was murdered in Kew? Looks like she was meeting someone from OLD www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-47511995

a reminder, if nothing else, about how careful we all need to be :(