Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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This post moves so quick I will need to try keep up lol re FWB I have one Policeman No1 who's been off and on nearly a year. He's the one guy I tell everything too including talking about other guys. We only text on snapchat but he is the most responsive out of all the guys I know if I msg him he'll msg back. I'm actually in danger of catching feelings for him just now so we will see. I can only see him every other weekend as he has a boy so on the look out for another but the other possibility is on the same kid schedule as Policeman No 1 so not really any good. Mr Grey No2 is getting ready to leave his house so he's all over the place just now. I have gone back on the apps and talking to Mr Glider he phoned me today and he seems lovely. Lives a bit further out but not letting that put me off I'll see him next Sunday.

Oh and I was meant to meet my couple last night but chickened out so I have arranged to meet only her next weekend and if that is ok he will come join for a drink meeting them both together too much

MyOld Sounds like Mr Guitar wants an FB rather than an FWB.
Maybe he's confused about the definition???

user I have FB's and I think now I have 1 FWB and I agree it is for people who either don't want to commit or cant.
Personally for me I don't want to commit to a relationship as I am enjoying being single since my marriage ended last year.

@shitwithsugaron
I have a handful of guys who are FB or FWB - all know I see other people.

I am not actively looking for a relationship although I went back on the apps yesterday after 6 weeks off them and have changed my profile from looking for casual to not sure what I'm looking for.
I veer between wanting a relationship and then not and wondering what someone could bring to my life that means I want to have a relationship with them??

shitwith FWB - I always have more than one.

Anyway.. My idea of meeting up with someone who I don't know face wise...Good body (I work out a lot, so this is important for fwb) My curiosity got the better of me. It was all going so well, until he mentioned what car he drives & went on & on about his car. He an pick me up in his car. Its very fast - I'm not impressed by cars.

I asked for face pic. He looks like what I'd imagine to be Harry Rednapp's great great grandmother. I like Harry. But I kid you not.

I'll play with him first, only because of the whole 'my cars better than yours' speel (he doesn't know what I drive) & treating me like the little lady who is easy to impress.

I have 2 FWBs - Mr Finance and Mr Policeman. They're both divorced fathers and have their children a lot. So regular meetings are not as often as we'd want. If they were more regular I'd probably only have one! They both know I date - they take quite a keen interest in my dates!!

🤣🤣🤣 @ComedyBoobs enjoy

I will indeed focus I'm practicing my bestest falling at the feet of a BMW driver as I type.

Ah Focus - I was wondering if that had quietly died off. Is it 'action' time the next time you meet?

Comedy - Oh dear, what are you going to do?

However asked, yes, I wear the tights, lol.

No shitwith good on you for having an honest convo, you haven't blown it. You're saying what you think, surely?
While I'm crying into my meal for one over H Redknapps granny, multitasking (messaging Mr35) & absent mindedly singing the keys to my very slow porsche around my fingers, dreaming of a fast BMW.

Swinging not singing. Although I like singing.
No, told the faceless BMW driver thanks but no thanks.

Eek shitwith this sounds like a big night. Good luck with them both.

comedyboobs spits out my tea!! This is the problem with no faces. I NEED to see a face!!!

Yes notcool lesson learnt. Seemed like a good idea at the time. He looked really hot!

Good luck shitwith. x

I'm so behind but it sounds like you ladies are almost spoilt for choice!

Mr S... I might change his name to Mr MTM (Mr messages too much)
I looked up love bombing and it does sound a bit like that's what he is doing. I don't think he is Fwb material but I might see him one more time as the sex was good, it's just a shame he is so full on.

Also, what is iron? I guess previous dates?

@TooOldForThis67 potentially could be but I'm just thinking of it as meeting a friend for drinks I feel I'll be able to chat freer with her then if it's ok he can come meet us otherwise i was feeling intimidated.

What does this mean - what's your addy?
Is this kik speak?

@ComedyBoobs it's your username for anything really. But guessing it could be KiK

ComedyBoobs I think I've come across the same one on Fab. Really fit body shots. Asked if we could meet. Then he sent a face pic.
Yikes! No way did that face belong with that bod.
It was a no thanks from me.

Omg life, yes that's what it is

myold haha!

Having a really shit shit night. 11 weeks today. Tell me if your worst but funny dates please people.

Would just like to add.... My husband was my only anything....

Yet 4 weeks and 6 days after he died his mate asked me out on a date and was really offended when I said no. Well actually I said the word Fuck about 40 times and apparantly made him cry as he never had me down as nasty..... I think the nasty part was when I said no and he asked why... didn't get I'd just lost the love of my life so I told him even though husband is dead he still has more personality in his little finger dead than you do alive in your whole body....

Christ warrior why would someone think that was acceptable?!