Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@ponyprincess I'm totally comfortable lol that's the strange thing it doesn't feel invasive it feels very natural. I guess I have clicked with someone via messages before then it didn't work face to face but I hadn't spoke to him on the phone - which I have done with Mr Glider - I sent him a message last night saying this was not my usual day one of matching but that it felt natural so I'm going to go with it. He came back to say he felt the same and was happy I was going to go with it. Watch this space lol

Grrrr typed and then lost a whole post 😠

warrior you are in my thoughts x

shit well done speaking to Mr Indie. I'm speaking to Mr Sailor tonight. He barely messaged over the weekend - my other two irons kept in contact just enough (I was away). I'm really not feeling any enthusiasm from Mr Sailor so hopefully it won't come as too much of a shock.

Comedy any talk of cars (I literally don't care, and far from being impressed, it turns me off), wearing of blingy watches, boasting of second homes - all a big fat no from me. I'm quite minimal, so what stuff people have doesn't impress me at all!

Been a while since I've been on the thread. Plenty to catch up on (30 pages in fact!).

@SurburbanTwist I'm going against the majority but I actually enjoyed your comments. Honest (brutally so) and funny 🙈. Maybe speaks more about me than you though. Especially the sitting at home having a wank comment. 😂😂.

So, I decided to call it a day with MrBaker (who I think I shall rename to MrDull). My mum is pissed about it as he really is a nice guy. Like really nice and I know he'd treat me beautifully. But the lack of laughs and conversation was really starting to annoy me. Plus the day after our weekend away I downloaded Tinder which probably says more about my lack of interest in him. He's good in bed though so I think it makes it extra disappointing.

So Tinder, firstly how I wish it told me their height like on pof (I know superficial bitch). Anyway, I've got like 46 matches on there now after a couple days swiping but they don't seem to message first? Now, should I wait a certain amount of time and then message? Do I just unmatch? Help me please 🙈😂😂😂

@shitwithsugaron I think it's bullshit about not finding someone who will be as accommodating as him. If someone likes you and wants to see you then it won't be accommodating.

shitwith I also think it's bollocks 're accommodating. That's just compatibility.

@ItsAMiracle2015 I found the same, matches on Tinder but none wrote to me. I took the bull by the horns and messaged one on Friday and we had a good long chat over the weekend. I asked why he didn't message first and he said a bit of lack of confidence. But will see if this all progresses, I think if you think someone is worth it, message first!

Yeah that's what he meant but that still would've pissed me off. I'd have lashed back if I'm honest. With something like 'well you don't have to accommodate me anymore 🤷'. I know he's just hurting but it's a shitty thing to say.

shitwith well Mr Indie confirmed everything didn’t he? Who wants to be ‘accommodated’? That’s what we all dream of, am I right?!
miracle bumble has heights. I like this as I’m short so I don’t want to date over 6footers, and I like knowing they know my height before we meet. I’ve never messaged anyone first on tinder. Men do a lot of swiping. I’d rather save messaging for those that want to follow it up once they’ve seen we match. On bumble you have to message first.

Do you need to speak to Mr Sailor batshit if it’s fizzling out anyway?

Tinder is hard work though 🙈. Like I'm not crazy fussed on looks (apart from height) but I'm swiping no to guys based solely on looks but they could be hilarious and intelligent and I'll never know. Hardly any actual text on profiles to give you some clue to their personality?

Maybe I should give Bumble a try 🤔

How many dates have you and Mr Rugby had? What are your thoughts on him?

shitwith argh overthinking. I’m so guilty of this. He said he’s keen to see you again. He’s a fwb? I would try really hard not to keep picking at it and just accept that he wanted to see me again for now.

@Auba14 oh I've totally overthought it. Must have been a mental 24 hours as I've woken up this morning not caring ha ha. Typical me really. But thank you for your advice.

Miracle I find bumble better than tinder

He replies really quick so id say it's quite clear he's interested and he actually said he's keen to see you again? What are you worrying/overthinking about?

Do you want more than FWB then? Sorry if you've gone through all of this previously.

Shitwith

I'm not sure if I've missed some of the conversation or story. So sorry if I have.

Those texts were positive to me, he just wears his heart on his sleeve. It was him trying and you being a bit defensive.

He does like you.

shitwith I read these as quite positive too. Do you want more than FWB?