Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

[TooOldForThis67]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

I am only one episode into Dirty John but he already seems nuts and she had already been married 4 times! Come on woman, marriage just isn't for you! IMHO....

MyOldBrain re chatting on Fab, how about - after the initial 'Hello' - something like 'Well, I have a strange kink - I like to get to know someone a bit! Are you ok with that? [smiley face]'

Hi, so I matched with someone on Tinder earlier and he messaged me. We have sent 9 messages back and forth...nothing very deep. He has just asked if we can move to WhatsApp or phone call and I’m a bit uneasy about it as I don’t feel we have established any kind of connection yet.
I am also chatting to another guy on a tinder since yesterday who I feel more of a connection with, which probably isn’t helping. What do I do/say?!

Sunshine, as long as your Facebook doesn't allow people to find you via your phone number, I'd go for it. It's easy to block someone on WhatsApp.

And remember rule 4.
It's just chat

Sunshine You say no?! Just exactly what you've said here that you want to talk some more and have more of a connection first. If he's decent he'll carry on talking to you, if not he'll disappear but at least you know.

Other option is to talk to him on WhatsApp. You can always block him if it doesn't go any further.

Cassettes I like that!
I am back on Fab and chatting to a couple of guys. Only exchanged a couple of messages so far. But it's been ok.

Thank you. I have replied to say I’d rather stick to Tinder a bit longer before giving my number out.

Yay MyOldBrain glad to hear it. Have fun!

shitwith how did it go with Mr Indie's friends?

Morning.
My date went OK. He was very attentive and clearly smitten with me. Went back to mine. Bed. Sleep. Tried to dtd this morning but he'd had too much to drink and couldn't. . He's a nice guy. But just that really. If we'd had great sex then maybe I'd see him again but as it is and with him working away during the week, don't think there's enough there to keep me interested.
My old OLD iron, who I'd friend zoned has called me out on my attitude. Shame as I'd have liked to see him again but I know I can't mess with his feelings any more.
Other irons were messaging me last night. Haven't read them yet.
Going back to bed.

Oh dear TooOld 😕

TooOld I think the sex would be a deal breaker for me but if it was under the influence of alchol then I would probably give him another chance (unless you have already had sober sex and that wasn’t great either?).

I made a fuck up with Mr SA last night, the other day he mentioned how a ex from many years ago had contacted him a few days ago to let mphim know that she’s now divorced, not sure why he told me, he seems to over share, anyway he messaged last night to say he was off to London to visit a old friend, I stupidly messaged back without thinking ‘oh, is it the divorced lady?’, I mean what was I thinking? I now look like a insecure jealous cow. So I tried to make a bit of a joke of it and he seemed fine. Hopefully seeing him tomorrow or Tuesday but I seem to have come down with thrush (after too much sex last week), any tips of best treatment to get rid ASAP?

@Lovemusic33

The new Canesten Soft Gel Pessary works wonders, available at all pharmacies. Cleared me up within a day and no mess like with the tablet pessary.

Thank you sorting, I will go and buy one as soon as shops open.

@Lovemussic33
Sorry didn't answer your other bit, hopefully he's realised you were joking (were you joking?)

When I was with my husband and he mentioned other women I would have made comments like that but only because he chased women all the time and I had reason not to trust.

I'm really learning how to reign it in now and even though I only have FB's we do chat. Too be fair without being in a relationship I don't worry about trust, we see each other when we can and message usually to arrange meet ups except with one who messages every day.

Love for thrush I like the Canestan Combi - cream and the tablet - treating internal and external at the same time 😂

I'm not sure what to make of Mr Sailor - we had a great time, chatty, film was good (!) but nothing more than a few kisses goodbye (not proper snogs!). He hasn't touched me apart from a hug to keep me warm last weekend (I was freezing!). But he mentioned taking me up north (where he's from) at some point in the future, and also asked me to his for dinner (said his adult sons have told him they'd make themselves scare - they know about me apparently ...). I'm wondering if he thinks I'm a bit sensitive about sex? And that he feels he should take it slow? So I'm not sure - I need to know we're compatible in bed soon, as I don't want endless dates if I need to end it 😕

*scarce

I was very allergic to the Canestan pessary and it made things worse!

love honestlythe way you have explained it I think Mr SA mentioned about the ex and then about London in the hope he’d make you wonder if it was her so I think you did nothing wrong by asking him.I have to be honest-the more you write about him the more I’m thinking that you could do better.x

Lots of messaging and couple of phone calls back and forth with iron yesterday.ticks all the boxes for me in a way no one else ever has.worried about being hurt.argh!

shit sorry your night didn’t go as well as hoped.how long had it been prior to this morning since you’d both dtd together?
Do you think he can be educated in that department?If all else is good with him then maybe he just needs a bit of direction?

Shit could it have been because it was hungover sex ? Or just the same mediocrity as before?

Love he's not a keeper if he's trying to plant seeds of insecurity in you 😕