Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

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What you going to do? I'd feel a bit put out he seems to have forgot. But he still wants to meet

I called him again. Lots of umming and ahhing saying he’d had a long day (why not let me know then ) but he does want to meet. I’ve been really rude to him

He said he’s happy to meet tonight but it would be perfect if I could do Sunday instead I’ve said I’ll see how my weekend goes. I’m not going to make contact now, let’s see if he does. I doubt it after I tore a strip off him.

@MIA12 I fucking hate flakiness. If you say you're going to do something, do it (unless you've got a really good reason not to).

Fair enough MIA, that's pretty shitty of him! If he does get in touch about Sunday I'd definitely say it should be him making the trip to you, that's if you even want him to.

Absolutely agree with miracle you had every right to say your part Mia. Takes seconds to drop a text saying he couldn't make it tonight.

Miracle I said exactly that to him. Told him if I say I’m going to do something then I do it, so if he’s a flakey person this isn’t going to work. And I shouldn’t have had to call him to find out either.

Don’t know if I do want to now leonasa but at least I’m getting a thicker skin as I don’t feel disappointed or upset

Exactly life he gave the usual so busy at work excuse too. Original.

@lifegoes I know the thread has moved on but I would be concerned about his phone not connecting and him ringing you on WhatsApp - its easy to delete calls on WhatsApp whereas if he called you normally it would show on his call log/phone bill.

Or maybe he really had no signal....

This OLD is such a minefield

@MIA12 he doesn't deserve to see you in my opinion. Maybe then he'll think twice before doing that to someone else 🤷

@MIA12 Surely he knew earlier in the day if his day was going ok (unless he works in medical then that's different), do you think he forgot?

I would go about your weekend like normal and if on Sunday you have literally nothing to do then you could meet but I don't think he deserves to meet you.

MIA12 if he does get in touch about sunday,he should be grovelling and be willing to come all the way to you.

@SortingItOut I did worry about that. But this just kept saying number not recognised as if it didn't exist

But miracle said earlier that happened to her.

I am questioning everything with him and other dates. I learnt a lot from my ex and I refuse to tolerate anything just in hope it gets better. If that makes sense

Mia I agree with user.

You stand your ground on this

Oh God MIA I'd leave the ball firmly in his court and only meet him on Sunday if I haf nothing better to do and he practically begged!

No he doesn’t deserve to meet now Miracle but luckily I wasn’t sure if I fancied him so saw it as dating experience rather than being really excited to meet him.

Don’t think he forgot Sorting we were talking about it yesterday and have had sporadic messages through the day so no excuse really. He did backtrack through the conversation and ended up asking me to come over tonight but I said he’d put me out the mood now 😂

Agreed user although I won’t be holding my breath about hearing from him again.

Yes Batshit I won’t be chasing him now.

MIA12 he asked you to come over? To his? To drive all that way. That's so wrong! He should be trying to impress so I would now avoid sunday at all costs

Call couldn't connect happens all the time when people try to call me. My phone is shite where I live for signal but I have WiFi hence the no issues with WhatsApp calls 🤷😊

To be fair when we were making plans he did offer to come over here, but we settled on me going to him because I’m a free agent and he works Fridays and Saturdays. Not to his house but a bar.

I don’t mind doing the drive but would expect them to take their turn next time.

He’s just messaged me

‘Hey! I promise I didn’t mean to be flakey about tonight, I genuinely was really busy but I’ll fit around you on Sunday!’

I replied ‘one brownie point for that message but I’ve already renamed you as ‘flake’ in my phone’

MIA12 that's fair enough then :)

Haha goooooooo Mia 💁🏻‍♀️
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And so he should, and he better be damn good 😉

I’m normally a nice person, honest

Anyone else out and having more luck tonight?