Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

[TooOldForThis67]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

lifegoes - Yes it is. If I don't fancy him then I'll just close my eyes and listen!

lifegoes I don't blame you for cancelling - we all need to trust our gut.

Auba lovely update - so pleased for you.

Tilly good luck with the three date Sunday!!

TooOld let us know how the date today goes.

MyOld sometimes a break is good - people are joining the sites all the time.

Meeting Mr Sailor in 3 and a half hours and have yet to decide on an outfit - currently it's sunny but a bit chilly but is due to pour with rain later ...

shitwith - Phew, thank god for that, lol. Hope you have a great time and don't drink too much too quickly out of nerves like I do.

Tooold ha ha. Let me know how it goes

TooOld good luck with your date.
I've had Happn for 2 years and never had any matches.

Batshit - good luck with MrSailor. I'm sticking with skinny jeans, boots and a nice top. Going to have my bath early, give myself plenty of time to get ready. I'm feeling nervous already! How are you feeling?

Thanks for everyone's comments. I'm just having my regular moan about the lack of interest I get on OLD.
I've been on this thread over 2 years now, with a few name changes. I've tried all the apps, lots of changes and updates to my profile.
But nothing seems to work for me. I can get dates but I have to compromise a lot on what I'm looking for. Like the bloke last night who was too short and too boring.
I have plenty to keep me busy. But it would be nice to have someone to have a laugh with, go for a drink with, have some amazing sex with etc.
I'll keep looking 😀

I've got 2 and a half hours until MrB comes to pick me up. I'm shitting it about hotel and spending tomorrow together 🙈😂😂. I've already planned my escape route in case it's needed.

@Notcoolmum ahh that's so annoying! We've talked openly about wanting a future together now and he's just met my children so fingers crossed he's not going to hit me with anything like that!

Good luck to everyone with dates tonight. Do keep us entertained with your updates. My only date is Netflix!!

Ah wishywashy yours is nothing like that I can tell. I had hoped this would all be easier in my 40s. Well I had hoped it wouldn’t be necessary at all. But as it is, not as bloody hard work. Slim pickings the older you get and the more baggage we all come with.

Annoyed that Mr Teacher didn’t send a ‘thanks but no thanks’ message after our date.

TooOld I feel pleasantly nervous if you know what I mean. Am going to workout then shower and get ready - we're eating before the film so I've got to leave at about 5.30!

Am dithering between a nice jumper dress, thick tights and ankle boots or skinnies, nice top and boots ...

@Notcoolmum yeah I know what you mean. I'm 36 but I really struggled to find anyone my own age or older who wasn't carrying some kind of chip on their shoulder or wasn't generally a complete weirdo!

I'm sure there are plenty out there though, they just take some finding!!

Speaking of Netflix, has anyone had a chance to watch Dirty John yet?! It's totally the dark side to online dating, I really hope nobody here ends up with a John...

@Auba14 oooh no I didn't realise what it was about but I might have to watch now!

I'm a bit scared to watch it!

Definitely watch Dirty John it's brilliant

It's actually so scary! I can't believe how quickly the woman is taken in by it all, and what he does. But I won't ruin it for you, everyone should watch - most people are pretty switched on in this thread but it shows how easily someone can be manipulated.

You busy lot!
Good luck to those with dates this eve - keep us updated!

Today, I was going to meet a guy I've been chatting to on Fab for coffee. We agreed a neutral venue was best. Then last night he said he wanted to meet in an hours time at mine . It was a no from me. Then this morning, more of the same - yours at midday. Another no from me.

It's not something I'm prepared to compromise on....
So I went clothes shopping this afternoon & got my nails done

I'm struggling to tolerate all the small talk on the apps. Truly.
I've had a nice flirt with slightly far away Mr Cheeky and likely to meet when mutually available

And I've just sent my number to Mr Classy with instructions to get in touch if he'd like to arrange a coffee sometime. I hate doing any chasing, but there's no point sitting here going ASK FOR MY NUMBER is there He replied straightway with his though and sounded interested

shit good luck for meeting mr indie’s friends-sure it will go fine
tilly good luck with the 3 dates!
life think you were right to trust your gut and cancel date

Well i ended up going to my iron’s at the end of evening with friends and can say we are compatible in a certain department ☺️.lots of messaging still since but annoyed with myself I jumped in with that side of things too soon. After date 1 I was worried I would end up hurting him (as wasn’t sure there’d be physical chemistry) and now I’m worried that he’ll lose interest in me and end up hurting me.argh.

Glad it’s going well auba what present did you go with in the end?

Well that game plan worked, I now have a date arranged with Mr Classy. Still horrified that I basically said here's my number in case you'd like to ask me out but never mind, he's old enough to be more traditional like that thank god. It's not easy is it

Look forward to an update from you later shit
It was only a nudge really, nothing ventured nothing gained and all that