Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

(The feminist in me also suspects that some genuine BDSMers exist but a lot of men are using it to act out porn fantasies and to impose their desires on women under the guise of being “dominant”)

Ive just rtt 😁 and the rules. All quiet here for now...

I can echo that @SonataDentata I like to have both, and if I can't have both I don't want it.

Right ladies and gents I'm on fab. Not sure what I want from it, but i'm ready to be entertained.

Exactly. I’ve always enjoyed sex and viewed it positively but this experience really did leave me feeling awful.

🙈🙈🙈🙈 I'm so nervous Mr Grey No 1 on his way to mine not seem him since September I'm excited and nervous as he always pushes my boundaries in a good way lol I'm so needing this 🤣🤣🤣

Love those feelings of nerves and excitement in one. Go enjoy every min @Focus

Enjoy Focus 😏

Oooh @focus enjoy it sounds exciting!!!

I am messaging so many potential irons at the mo. I have 3 dates lined up for next week but the only iron I really want seems to be cooling off (since I declined his offer of a threesome with him and his FWB)

@tooold in my opinion if Mr BE is already talking about his previous kinks I would be wary that he wants to do them with you.
Nothing wrong with kinks as long as both parties want the same

Sorry I don’t know how to tag without using @. Can anyone tell me?

@sonatadentata I completely agree, I have known a few men who under the guise of been dominant have actually just been selfish arseholes.

Ooh I couldn't find the new thread today and blimey, things have taken an interesting turn! 😂😂

Lovemusic I wouldn't assume because he's been away working/busy he's not seeing anyone else, that could well be the case but unfortunately that's what I thought about Mr Non-Monogamous.. still don't know where the hell he managed to fit in all the other dates!

Still feeling a bit shit about that and kind of missing him but speaking of all the vanilla v kink - I did have the thought that he might be a bit vanilla for me... ☺️ I quite like being dominated though for me it's something I want to do in a relationship where I feel safe, not with someone I've just met.

I have heard back from the hot younger Italian iron though, so I might make a date with him - he would be the perfect FWB, I know he's definitely not a long term thing but rather lovely all the same :)

Thanks everyone for the kind words about the guy who stood me up. I feel loads better about it today.. wouldn't have been remotely bothered if he had cancelled...just leaving someone hanging around and sending fake photos is just creepy. I think he's used someone else's pics too which is creepy. Anyway next!

@sonatadentata, sorry to hear about your sexual experience. That's only happened to me once about 18 months ago and I cried after. Never again. But you just don't know alot of this when you meet people !

Quick update on the ex's friend chatting me up. He absolutely doesn't know about me and him. Just did a few sneaky questions.

He's so funny, good looking etc. We click I don't want to turn him away because he's potentially friends with my ex.

But at the same time if anything was to progress my ex could make this awkward.

Not that he should as he was absolutely in the wrong.

I think if you like him lifegoes, why should you let your dickish ex ruin things? Would kind of be allowing him further negative influence on your life, no?

@leonasa you are right. It's still very very early days. But we are clicking well.

I just questioned why on Earth his friend would now randomly start hitting on me. So worried my ex was up to something.

But he doesn't know I was with him. I can tell

coolcahuna that is such an odd thing to do - why not text to say something had come up if he'd changed his mind??

sonatadentata I agree. They aren't actually properly into the D/s lifestyle. It's very worrying. I'd never tell a new partner of my slightly 'subbiness' because of this ...

Can someone explain re mentioning other posters are we meant to be putting @ or just putting the name in bold using * ?
Thanks

I just use bold. If you use @ you have to use the entire username I think, and then they get notified.

If you put an @ sign followed by their name it'll send an email notification to that user. If you don't do that they will only see your message by just reading through the thread.

@CocoKoko123 I think they mean you can still @ them not don't shorten the name.

So I can't shorten yours to @ Coco as someone else might have that name and it's sending them a notification.

I think that's what they mean

Cocokoko I thought it didn't really matter as so far as I can tell, you get notifications when you've been mentioned either way, and only get notifications for other posts if you've got it on the setting where any post = alert.

But perhaps I am wrong about that?

Ah ok I get it ☺️

For example @CocoKoko123 you will get notified of this post but not the post above.