Dating Thread 147 - Double Dating Anyone?

[TooOldForThis67]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

So, I've since had a msg from MrBE asking why I wanted to bang my head after Sat night, lol. (I sent a msg to him after our date} I replied very honestly and just waiting for his reply! [

So, after months upon months of texting, I've finally met the girl tonight and wow! Her sense of humour is insanely attractive as is she, her photos don't do her justice at all. I felt bad as I couldn't stay long as I needed to get back home but it was incredible....I don't think I've ever felt a spark like it before!

Let's hope she feels the same. Neither of us have messaged each other yet, and I'm hoping she feels the same way, it certainly seemed it on our date! Eek.

Sorry for the odd thread title - it was just that a few of us have multiple dates going on!

Auba - Ooooo, sounds good!

Sounds great @Auba14 !!!

Yep, and the messaging has started now. So yeah, we are both pretty happy and going to take is slow and steady and just see what happens. But definitely worth the months of texting!

Thank you for all the support so far guys!!

Auba14
How come you haven't met before now?

TooOld I cant believe you told him about Mr Young, are you worried about scaring him away?

Some of my FB's know I see other guys but I never talk about them.

@TooOld

Regarding your post about dtd early on in the other thread.

I have decided that when I get back to dating next month I am really going to try and hold off doing it for a while even if it's there on a plate for me and we both want it.

I think this is why a lot of my dates have been going south recently. Usually I am fairly liberal and it wouldn't put me off anyone who I did sleep with on a first or second date but I have been getting a lot of advice from others who think that this is where I am going wrong.

I want to build a relationship with someone and know what is going on with the other person, not wondering if they are multi-dating or seeing other people. Sex is always better when you care about someone and want to be with them plus it's usually drink fuelled in the early stages of dating so perhaps not great for both parties which might end up putting one or the other off if you're not on top form.

My friend texted me this earlier; it is never a good idea to have sex with someone you just met if you want a relationship....It totally messes up what should start off much better....and build.

unique1986 We met on Tinder about eight months ago when I was still getting over an ex and to be honest I wasn't really ready to date - and we stayed talking, eventually about three months later we matched again and she'd been in a relationship which had ended and it went from there really.

It wouldn't have been right to meet when we first matched though, it just didn't make sense to until I was ready to properly date again.

I agree.
I wouldn't sleep with someone before at least 10 dates.
As I think it's hard to to back to the public place dating once you have dtd.

tooold I had an MP last time I did OLD. We had about 4 dates before we even kissed and then got a bit frisky. I didn’t know what to do with it. Whilst he had clearly learned to compensate for it, it was a bit much (not enough!?) for me so I bowed out!!

unique that is a good point about public dating. We have been out/out a couple of times since DTD but we clearly want to get back to it!

I'm just joking this thread now as I'm setting up my very first online accounts. 👀

So I'm keeping a list of these rules.

*joining. Better learn to spell before I set those accounts up.

Any tips for which are the best sites, what to post in bio etc

Hi lifegoes welcome to the thread and the crazy world of OLD!! Good luck!!

Hi, new here

Marking my place

And just want to say that I don't drink on my dates so I fully own each and every of my rash decisions

lifegoes - Welcome. And seriously adhere to the rules. Or, learn the hard way like we all do, lol!

rich Exactly! You are spot on.

@TooOldForThis67 I'm trying to keep note of the rules. I'll need to keep coming back to check.

What's the best OLD sites?

Marking my place.

Getting nervous about tomorrow (Mr South African coming over).

love - is he a FWB?