Dating Thread 147 - Double Dating Anyone?

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

TooOld I've one friend I can talk to about this in real life without judgement (in fact she encouraged me to give OLD a go), but other people that I've mentioned it to look at me in the same way! Like I'm some sort of hussy who is sleeping with every available man I can!

Spent the whole evening WApping MrTeacher again. He is lovely, and really sweet! And we have a similar sense of humour, which is actually pretty important to me. We have quite a bit in common, actually. Usually by now, the sexting has started, but other than telling me that he had to stop himself from driving over to give me the kiss that he chickened out of on our date, there has been none of that

Got to try and make sure I follow rule 3

I'm liking the sound of Mr Teacher TheSheep.

I have a work colleague who I talk about dates with. Perhaps not quite aa graphically! Date with Mr Italian tomorrow evening. FWB on Thursday.

Placemarking x

The rules have helped me so much. And reading about turning off blue ticks etc. No one in my RL would understand that. In fact I’ve turned them back on now I’m no longer obsessing over someone ridiculously uncommunicative!
Also no longer watching Matt Hussey on a loop. These are positive signs I think!!

Tooold I’m not really sure what Mr SA will turn out to be, his POF profile says he wants to date but nothing serious, I usually take that as FWB but I have told him that I am looking for a relationship but not the type where you live together (something in between FWB and a serious relationship) so it’s all pretty relaxed but slightly confusing.

I feel nervous as hell this morning, bad stomche and anxious, have managed to calm myself down, I think it’s just me being silly about him seeing my house and worrying that I’m not good enough (I live in a council house), I have kids and he doesn’t so my house is a bit messy and has handprints in places/walls. He will be here at 10pm, he messaged saying he’s looking forward to seeing me.

Well my first message from a guy on tinder ( we only matched last night)

"So do you not message first if we matched"
Me "well I don't normally message first, but we did only match last night"

"You'll f**king fail at this you stupid cow, it's not for a guy to message you first. No the wonder you are single"

Me"thanks for your unwanted feedback, I'm pleased I didn't message you first. You sound a delight"

OMG!! @lifegoes Is there anyway to report that? What a horrible man! Total idiot. I wonder if he's ever considered the reason that he is single!

Oh my god what a bellend @lifegoes

Well done on your reply!

@helpmeoutout @shitwithsugaron I laughed at his response. I flagged it as abuse or inappropriate I think it was.

Ohhhh I'm not one to ignore things like that. I had to have my say.

Total d*ck hes going to make a lucky girl happy 👀

lifegoes great response. And well done for reporting him as well.

Love good luck today with Mr South African. He's there to see you not your house.

I have quite a few single friends and so we are constantly discussing dates and apps. Not sure that's a good thing.
I've been persuaded to give POF another go.
Four messages in 24hrs all from younger men pretending to be older.

I would just like a normal date with a normal man!

Oh FFS lifegoes what a wonderful specimen he sounds Excellent response and well done for reporting.

MyOld I had a lot of that on POF

Hello can I join in?
Single for 8 months following a 12 yr marriage.
I joined tinder 2 weeks ago and have had such fun. Got a couple of potentials and meeting one of them tonight for drinks. I will call him Mr Man . We have been messaging for over a week on WA.
I have 2 toddlers who spend EOW and Tuesday with their dad so don’t have much time to date. Think I am looking for a FWB but with a bit of emphasis on the F.
V excited abou Mr Man. Hope he turns up. First date in 13 years

So the lovely Scottish guy from Tinder phoned me on Sunday night and we had a good chat and he said he was looking forward to seeing me tonight (Tuesday). We agreed a central London location and a time, but not an exact meeting point. He told me that he was cancelling his Tinder membership as he disapproved of their policy on under-age users, and that he wanted me to know this as our chat would disappear on the app, but he was keen to reassure me that he still wanted to meet me.

He Whatsapped me again on Monday and all was going well. Then this morning I Whatsapped him to ask where we were meeting tonight as we had agreed a location (an area in central London near where we both work) and the message went undelivered (grey tick). I decided to try another route so a couple of hours ago I sent him a text which I can see has been delivered, checking that all we well. No answer! I have no idea whether to hang around the office until 6pm hoping that he will get in touch, or just go home as usual at 5pm.

I am probably overthinking this, aren't I! I should just go home at 5pm. And I wore an extra nice outfit to work today .

On a brighter note I still have the date with the very good looking younger man on Saturday night. He texted me today to arrange when and where to meet.

LilyRose I'd go home. Very annoying though. He may just be nervous and it's rude not to cancel properly.

Lily I'd go home too, if he was keen and going to meet you for sure he'd have been in touch by now. Such a cowards way out by blocking you on WA, I wonder where all the decent men are on these dating sites!

I second the posts from earlier, I love this thread! I love hearing about peoples dates and advice and the page genuinely does keep you sane when you start overinvesting and building things up in your head. I've for some reason really resonated with richdeniro and his dating life and what's happened - I really hope Rich gets the happy ending he deserves. Same for everyone else too!

Thank you Bathshit Shitwith and Auba for convincing me that I should go home at 5pm. I have been sitting here trying to think of reasons why he would not have replied, and I was thinking of sitting in a coffee shop near where I work until 5.30, just in case he does get in touch. How silly is that! I can't work out why he has suddenly switched as he was lovely on the phone and we seemed to get on really well. Of course we never really know who we are talking to, and he may even have used a fake photo and be bricking it because in real life he is 5ft 4 and 22 stone! No disrespect to shorter larger guys, but his profile said he was 6ft and medium build.

Onwards and upwards. I will be pretty p*ed off if Mr Saturday cancels though - it is sometimes difficult not to take things personally, especially as I have only just been dumped by Mr Nice/Nasty after a 3 month courtship where he was apparently really into me, and then suddenly decided that we 'wanted different things' from the relationship and he 'couldn't give me what I wanted'.

Note to self - develop a thicker skin!

Just matched with a guy on Tinder who said he was looking for a relationship. He immediately messages me saying lots of nice things about my photo and profile, and then says that he is looking for 'casual adult fun'. Well he is a pretty average looking middle aged man and whilst I have looked on Fab for some fun, I am a bit more demanding about my 'fun' partners in terms of age and looks (call me shallow, but if they're not in it for the longer haul, they have to be gorgeous!).

So I replied saying I was not looking for anything casual, and he said what a pity. I told him I was worth more than that!

Love - Good luck with MrSA tonight. Await update!
life - He was probably short and had a MP, hence the ego issues.
Marlboro - Welcome and good luck with MrMan. Which one is he? Lol.
Lily - Yeah, go home. It's odd that he told you he's deleting Tinder but then blocked you. Hate time wasters.
Auba - I feel the same about rich. I think he might be on to something.

I sent a lingerie pic to MrBE last night, to tease him, and he's just sent another msg saying how he keep's looking at it. I'm enjoying the build up but pray that he doesn't have a MP! Lol.

Lily - You are the prize!

TooOld it was a day time date, he’s just gone home, all went well, we talked a lot and spent half the day in bed. I’m now hoping he doesn’t vanish, he has said he will take me out for my birthday if he’s not called into work, all seems good.

lilyrose I had a few back to back last min cancels last year that were really irritating and eventually demoralizing but....they were a weird blip. Sometimes it just happens