Dating Thread 147 - Double Dating Anyone?

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Can I join? I've recently been on two dates and I feel sick I think I need the support of strangers!

Welcome NK, just pile in

My new Mr Substitute has been in touch today, he might be a live one. Still need to chuck previous iron but not looking forward to it.

Tinder in my area has a lot of photo-less profiles atm, what's that about? And no bio either... Who's going to swipe on nothing at all??

Oh god 3 hours to go. 13 years since last date. What does one wear. Jeans ok? We are meeting in a pub

Thanks Warls! They might do it just so they can look at people because that's not creepy at all

I've been on two dates and they've gone well, he texts quite a lot BUT, I have 4 children. I had 3 (DS9, DD6 and DS3) and then we broke up and I went head over heels for a knobhead so then had DS23mnths but we broke up pretty much as soon as he was born and I swore myself off men for life but then here I am trying to date again. I can't get my head around why anyone would want to date me, don't get me wrong, I'm fabulous () but you must kwim?!

So, I can't help but feel he might be weird underneath it all!

Imposter syndrome isn't it... I'm very undateable in some ways too! But I keep plodding on. And it's not terrible really.

Men are very much optional extras in my life, I'm independent otherwise so enjoying no pressure. And really enjoying having a few hours of going out, having fun, doing dates etc shagging

That's how I'm trying to view it, I enjoyed the dates and like his texts and calls so he's just a nice little perk!

@Marlboroandmalbec34 you must let us know how you get on.

I'd go jeans

Glad it went well Love. Fingers crossed for a birthday date.
Marlboro - Jeans are fine for a pub date. Good luck! Update compulsory!
Welcome NKFell. Do you date at home? I do but thinking of venturing into child sitters if things don't work out with MrBirdsEye.

Just thought I'd explain the MrBE name. Has anyone seen the new Captain Birds Eye? He's quite dishy. Well, my fella lives on his boat, looks quite similar but fair rather than dark. I like the rugged look!

Marlboro I would wear jeans, I usually wear skinny jeans on a first date as they hold everything in 🤣. Hope all goes well, can’t wait for a update.

Been speaking to a guy today on tinder. He wants to meet up on Thursday for a drink.

It's Valentine's Day. Is that not strange and quite quick??

Marlboro good luck on your date. Jeans will be perfect. I have a trusty pair of black jeans that are very flattering and tend to be my go-to outfit for dates these days. I only wear a dress if we are going to a restaurant or somewhere fancy. And I rarely go anywhere fancy .

I wouldn't want to meet anyone on Valentines.
I wouldn't want a rose or flowers
Awkward.
Happened once before by chance and I had to dispose of rose in the bin.
Awks

lifegoes he’s a man, he may not even realise it’s valentines 🤣. I had a first date with a guy last year on his birthday, I didn’t realise until we sat down to eat that it was his birthday, I felt a little guilty when he paid the bill (refused to let me pay). I felt even more guilty when I had to send him the “sorry but I didn’t feel a connection” text afterwards.

Mr SA conformed today that he doesn’t do valintines day, I kind of guessed that as he doesn’t do Christmas either as he thinks it’s too commercial, I’m not too bothered as I’m not a big fan of valentines myself but Christmas is a big deal in my house.

@Lovemusic33 I'm not a fan of Valentine's Day either. I only realised as I checked the date.

I did say, and he said does it matter. It's just a drink and it would be nice to meet up.

I'm thinking I've just started talking to you today, we haven't swapped numbers.

Can you tell I'm new to this OLD 😀😀

@unique1986 did he see you bin it?

I would still go on the date lifegoes , valintines is just a day and it doesn’t have to be all romantic, I’m sure most places will be full of couples but you could hang out in the bar of a pub and I’m sure there will be people there who are just out for a drink.

I'd wear jeans Marl and good luck!

No Too, We've been out locally and then once a little further afield. He's quite keen to meet up more but childcare can be tricky. How do you go about it at home? Probably a really stupid question! MrBE sounds good, I'll call this one MrMountain- he's super outdoorsy and also quite rugged and gorgeous

Life, oh no, meeting on Valentines would be too weird for me!

@Lovemusic33 he has said about a local pub and that most couples will be out for food. So it's ok.

I just think it's a bit quick

@NKFell what's your thoughts on how quick it is to meet up?

I’ve been thinking about the Valentines thing and I think we are both subconsciously avoiding it for a second date and suggesting days all around it but not that actual one. Pretty much because we’ve never had the conversation about what we feel is acceptable for it. But all is going well! 24 hours on and we’ve been in constant contact, she makes me laugh and her sense of humour is wicked. I think it’s just finding the time to be able to have a relationship given our distance and the new business!

Good luck for all of you on dates, I hope it goes as well as mine did yesterday Perfect attire for a date would be skinny jeans, boots or trainers and also a dressy kind of too and leather/suede jacket. That’s my go to outfit anyway!

lifegoes I have had better success with meeting sooner than later, I met Mr SA after talking for a few days, we had only exchanged a few texts so I didn’t know much about him. If you message too much you build up a picture of someone and then your disappointed when they are nothing like you expected. Meet before you get too attached through texting and it won’t be such a big loss if he’s not your type.

Another vote for jeans Marlboro. And I'm seeing my FWB on Valentine's Day - I just thought 'Thursday's good for me', didn't realise until afterwards. He often buys me a bar of chocolate (in joke) but he won't do flowers or anything 😅

My date outfits are similar 'Auba' Apart from tomorrow's as it's straight after work and I'll be wearing a fitted black dress and heels - it is, Mayfair, after all 😅

@Lovemusic33 fantastic advice and makes sense.

Ok I'll go on Thursday if I don't report back on Friday you know he was a serial Valentine's Day killer 😀😂😂😂

🤣🤣 good luck lifegoes I’m sure it will be fine, I look at the first date a bit like a job interview (your interviewing him). I have had some lovely random dates with strangers. Just think “at least your not stuck in on valintines eating a meal for one” which is what I shall be doing.