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Men in relationships using prostitutes

216 replies

AnonForThisPlease · 08/01/2019 22:24

Found this out about my partner 18 months ago but am stiĺl going over it in my mind like a dog with a bone. I don't really care about him any more (know he'll never change) but can't stop dwelling on why do people do this? Even when in a 'great' relationship, having a load of sex at home and apparently loving it - what motivates them to go and buy it off a stranger, not just once but many times, perhaps regularly? And why would some men not consider doing this? At times I've believed what my partner says - that they'd all do it if there was zero risk of getting caught - but my heart says this is complete bollocks, i just can't be that pessimistic about the human race.
Would love to hear what others think, especially if you've been on the receiving end - also is there any hope of recovering or will i always feel this damaged?

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Smotheroffive · 20/01/2019 20:28

You are not qualified to make those judgements, as kind as you are trying to be, unless you are also an earning psych? Again, you don't appear to accept you're not the only one, and the close criminal parallels often associated.

Smotheroffive · 20/01/2019 20:30

Its a highly toxic way of going on, either sex treating each other this way.

votedremainbutnowleave · 21/01/2019 21:17

I think men should stop using women for sex full stop

And there goes the human species. Almost no sex would occur.

GummyMummyLydia · 22/01/2019 00:10

Why are men being called cunts on this thread when the men you talk about pay to finger, lick, suck and fuck a womans cunt? Is the word 'cunt' the biggest insult of all?
The men cunt fuckers you talk about go home to wives and children. Kiss them all goodnight after spending time with sexworkers. They have mothers and sisters. They deceive everyone close to them. Nothing comes between the man and his love for his own cock, not even the love of a 'good' woman.

NotTheFordType · 22/01/2019 00:16

Gonna be honest Gumma, that post aint gonna help.

Iflyaway · 22/01/2019 00:28

The bottom line OP is some men will and some men won't.

Depends what you will put up with. Your choice at the end of the day.

So sorry you are going through this

You need to get tested for STI's.

GummyMummyLydia · 22/01/2019 00:52

Probaby not NotTheFordType but I believe 100% what the OPs partner says about how they'd (married men) all do it if there was zero risk of getting caught. If men the cunt fuckers are not wanking over porn, they're having an affair, or they're paying for it. E.g, Wayne Rooney and Ashley Cole. If a fella is going to cheat on Cheryl Cole then a fella is going to cheat on the average Mrs Jo Bloggs.
If a man cunt fucker can use his hand to wank then why does he 'need' to fuck a sex worker and wreck his marriage?

NotTheFordType · 22/01/2019 01:17

They most certainly wouldn't ALL do it (or I'd be dripping in cash)

Surveys show an average of 20% of men admit to paying for sex. A significant percentage of those will have a shit experience and stick to ONS in the future.

The percentage of men who payfor sex AND and are members of a punter forum is very small.Like, less than 1%.

Smotheroffive · 22/01/2019 01:30

Survey says...ugghh, uuugghh!

Some men at least care about their families, others are best not having families! Its worrying though that some believe all men are this way. We should be accused of being gatekeepers next!

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GummyMummyLydia · 22/01/2019 10:19

Do you advertise your cunt and other 'services' on AdultWorkNetDOTcom NotTheFordType?

VietnameseCrispyFish · 22/01/2019 11:13

Do you advertise your cunt and other 'services' on AdultWorkNetDOTcom NotTheFordType?

You’re awfully concerned with the ins and outs of NotTheFordType’s cunt, aren’t you Gummy? 😂

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TatianaLarina · 22/01/2019 11:57

Surveys show an average of 20% of men admit to paying for sex

All the U.K. ones I have read have been around 10%. With around 4% paying for sex regularly.

SimplySteve · 26/01/2019 12:56
  • Probaby not NotTheFordType but I believe 100% what the OPs partner says about how they'd (married men) all do it if there was zero risk of getting caught. If men the cunt fuckers are not wanking over porn, they're having an affair, or they're paying for it. E.g, Wayne Rooney and Ashley Cole. If a fella is going to cheat on Cheryl Cole then a fella is going to cheat on the average Mrs Jo Bloggs. If a man cunt fucker can use his hand to wank then why does he 'need' to fuck a sex worker and wreck his marriage?*

Yawn. Course we are, I've got dozens ready on speed dial all around the world so I can have a fuck frenzy all round the world while I leave DP at home with the kids, right?

Some men are utter twats, likewise some women. Not everyone wants an affair. If a bloke sees a naked woman who's offering it on a plate I'd consider a vast majority to turn away, just as I'd think a woman would do.

Let's just bash men though, right. We're complete utter cunts, immoral, misogynistic, homophobic bastards. I'm all for equality but fucking hell.

Hi NTFT, hope you're well.

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