Men in relationships using prostitutes

[AnonForThisPlease]

Found this out about my partner 18 months ago but am stiĺl going over it in my mind like a dog with a bone. I don't really care about him any more (know he'll never change) but can't stop dwelling on why do people do this? Even when in a 'great' relationship, having a load of sex at home and apparently loving it - what motivates them to go and buy it off a stranger, not just once but many times, perhaps regularly? And why would some men not consider doing this? At times I've believed what my partner says - that they'd all do it if there was zero risk of getting caught - but my heart says this is complete bollocks, i just can't be that pessimistic about the human race.
Would love to hear what others think, especially if you've been on the receiving end - also is there any hope of recovering or will i always feel this damaged?

I do know one thing, if the guys who ‘treat’ themselves have unaware wives, I would be ‘treating myself’ by taking them to the cleaners if I found out

'Treat'. !!?

' Treat '. !!?

Do you even know what consent is Terri?

Yes, and we've even heard from sex workers on this thread who said they chose the profession. That's consent in the same way as I consent to being enslaved by Sainsbury's for twenty hours a week. I wouldn't break my back pushing around carts for free but I like the money. If sex workers like money for what they do, they can crack on even if it's not for me.

Being fucked and pushing trolleys round Saintsbury aren't comparable, simples!

There is something simply horrific about a man who likes to buy a woman to shag as a ‘treat’.

@Smotheroffive

Youre fucking spot on, I'd waaaay rather have sex than take the trolleys back at Aldi

HELLO I AM A SEX WORKER CAN YOU HEAR ME?

Yes i hear you and am v interested to hear your view. How do you feel about your work?

You'd rather service complete strangers intimately? I think most could rather push trolleys, I'm certainly for trolley pushing over offering my cunt up to strangers dicks.

Then again, I am not desensitised to it.

Why the shouting though? Why feel the need to shout to everyone?

Bloody brilliant thanks!

So much better than 9-5

I think most could rather push trolleys, I'm certainly for trolley pushing over offering my cunt up to strangers dicks.

You think most? do you have stats on that?

I mean lets set aside the hateful rhetoric

... you would honestly push trolleys rather than get paid to have sex?

honestly?

...?

You have also deliberately misconstrued my meaning to your own ends.

You come across as if everyone hates you? I don't agree that its any woman's 'job' on any level to service a man this way.

With someone I love I'd have sex and most definitely not be charging, why would that be hard to understand?

I would not go near a complete stranger, let alone take my clothes off for his pleasure. Does this make me weird in your eyes?

Sorry OP - this was a thread about you and I dont want to derail.

PPs with genuine questionns about sex work can PM me.

PPs who are sex work negative can fuck off.

you would honestly push trolleys rather than get paid to have sex?

No question. Far rather that than some fuckwit with a fraction of my IQ, I wouldn’t spit on on the street, dump his cum anywhere near me. I could literally vomit.

Disclaimer: I think cheating is wrong
Have had a discussion with peers in the past about why some men and women do things like this or have affairs etc
We didn't come up with an answer but it did raise the question, are humans fundamentally monogamous? Or have we become this way because of society?

Also vomiting.

I don't blame you, don't hate you, am not a sex-worker hater, you said all that I didn't, and just because you said it doesn't make it true, its not, but I do find it abhorrent that men pay for someones cunt to service them, how fucking dare they. Who the fuck do they think they are to be 'serviced' this way and use women like this

Purely perspective of career progression - you start off trolley pushing, work your way up to manager, then regional manager then leave and set up your own business.

What does fucking lead to other than decreasing returns as you age and a gap on your CV.

I'm beginning to think that being in a relationship means jack shit. If men are not looking at porn they're having affairs and if the'yre not having affairs they're paying for sex.

This is not a power thing to them (they have enough power), I suspect they see it as harmless fun

It's a power thing. You may think they have enough, but this type of person with power always want more and always want to exert their power over others too.

It absolutely is a power thing, using women.

Why would any man have any difficulty in being aroused and sexually fulfilled by the real woman that he loves, why would he need pictures of her cunt, when he is with her and loves her, he doesn't need to see pictures of her or other women, or women being fucked by other men, or seek complete strangers who are repeatedly fucked all day and night by other men, how is that appealing to a male except one that had no respect for who a woman really is and doesnt even want to know who she is.

How many men use porn, need pictures, have affairs? What proportion, do we think of those with partners indulge themselves in this

How many men use porn, need pictures, have affairs? What proportion, do we think of those with partners indulge themselves in this
And What proportion of women convince/delude themselves that their DH / DP would never indulge themselves in this way.