Confronting DH about his sulking

[jamaisjedors]

To cut a long story short, we went away for the weekend for my birthday plus the anniversary of a family bereavement for me and DH gave me the silent treatment and sulked all day Saturday and pretty much all weekend.

We sat down and discussed our point of views about the weekend and I have expressed how lonely and hurt I felt. He has expressed that he felt I was ungrateful and ruined his weekend and failed to ask what was wrong with him.

It's been left there. I think he thinks that's that, done but I can't get past it and feel really distant from him.

This is not the first time he's done it, and actually I swore never to let him get away with it again, yet I'm still here.

I'm not perfect and this is what he will bring up if I confront him but I'm not sure how to bring it up without taking it all over again.

I'm thinking of leaving but maybe that's overdramatic, seems ridiculous to end a 20+ year relationship and shake up my kids lives for this - maybe I need to get a thicker skin?

[TowelNumber42]

Is it your own counselling session tonight @jamaisjedors ?

[jamaisjedors]

It is. It will be totally welcome because we have had 3 massive discussions over the last few days and I need to get my head straight.

I have been journalling/writing things down and have the journal with me to take tonight.

Then we have the marriage counselling on Tuesday.

Will get that new thread started now, thanks all.

[jamaisjedors]

New thread :
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3498886-Confronting-DH-about-his-sulking-part2?watched=1

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Sending good thoughts your way tonight

[princessTiasmum]

Typical Narcissistic behaviour, get him left if you don't want a miserable life,i recognise this behaviour, when you have done nothing wrong but being punished because you wont be or do what he wants, childish, but you have no idea why

[gamerchick]

Ah who dug this up?

[butterballs9]

You know reading this post amongst others makes me relieved i'm divorced and quite honestly I don't think I can put up with mens' shit any more.
Living alone is so peaceful, happy and just generally brilliant.
I remember how awful it was putting up with my ex's endless sulking and every single special occasion that he ruined, I know I could never put up with that again.
I honestly think you'd be happier without him OP, I really do xx

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Indeed. I can't really add anything to that. 'Men's drama' is spot on. So boring, so predictable, so draining.

[butterballs9]

Oops - 'men's shit' - same as 'men's drama'. Incredibly boring.