Tyedye...ive left him

[tyeanddye]

He assaulted me and ive left him at last.crying alot but ok.

Will this be your first mediation session. Tyedye?

no its the second....they almost gave up,she ends up almost shouting at him....

Oh dear, can he not even behave during mediation?

My first (and only) relate session with h, he stormed out and refused to return as the woman agreed with me - witnessed his temper and irrationality and tried to discreetly suggest he had individual counselling.

Men are twats.

after mediation,and agreeing to end non-parental style accusations/discussions..etc,he walked in and accused me of having a boyfriend....and then rang later because hes found me on a dating site!
hypocrite is using myspace to chat up women

yes lunavix...they are twats,abusive men that is...not all of them.x

Tye, was wondering how you were.

You are the sane person in all this madness. not h. Where are you staying? - how did he just walk in?

Sending you many positive vibes and strength!

was giving them tea in our old house,i leave when he comes in from work,thanks mercy,xxx

so your children are staying with him - or is just the older ones?

(sorry, don't meant to be nosey. I'm just trying to get the picture).

post whenever you can. take care x

He called me a slut and a whore last night because he found me on a dating site,"advertising "myself.
All my kids are with me,older ones are his EX stepkids...they havent seen him for months,they hate him,the little ones visit him for tea!
its complicated

Been reading your thread tye. Forgive me but he sounds like a complete arse. Had you stayed, over the years, mentally he would have destroyed you, the constant badgering and belittling, would have left you too scared to open your mouth, and too old and trapped to know what else to do,not to mention the physical abuse as well. You have left while you still have your head, and the ability to create a positive life. Good luck to you darling.

Was with a very manipulative man who bhaved really badly but made me feel v guilty for leaving him. Then spun divorce out for years cos I ws really trying not to hurt his feelings. Hope you have a v good lawyer as wish I had. Don't let him manipulate you or be alone with you or children - he is already emotionally abusing them. Don't be afraid to call the police when he turns up as he is v dangerous. You don't want your kids to grow up thinking this is a normal relationship.

Although my ex wasn't nearly as bad as yours, glad i left as now with extremely lovely man and we have a beautiful baby boy.

Sorry, really hope that didn't sound smug I just wanted you to know things can get better and you can be happy again. xx

you dont sound smug,thank you for your posts both of you this morning,
luckily im not married to the bugger,so its merely a property settlement,exchange soon.....
I have every expectation of forming a decent relationship next time.

Excellent, this is a good start. My mistake was to let myself be emotionally manipulated by him to think it was all my fault so don't let him do that. Was actually a few years before I realised the marriage ended because of his unreasonable behaviour. Everyone else seemed to know from the off, but its harder when you've been in the relationship. Was left with loads of debt by my ex but worth every penny to be shot of him. Sounds like yours is workshy as well. I had to do 2 jobs to pay bills and support his alcoholism but once he had to fend for himself he got a job and is now doing quite well so did him a favour really. I really hope things work out for you.
Also, I wouldn't leave the children with MIL as she will have her DS round there in a flash so is not to be trusted. She could always see them when her DS seems them in the safe place.

Exe has first job since ive known him now...expected to live on my child support from 1 st exe.
He told me today im the top of the list for all the local men re dating site
and said "come on boys"etc..filthy pig

I know its the abuse...not me causing it all,ive learnt alot about domestic,or relationship abuse.x

very low actually...he knew all that poison would depress me.im not a slut or a whore,or the local bike etc...

Take no notice of him, Tyedye, he is doing it to get to you.

thanks pc,lol,nice to chat again

Yes, its a low hit, shows he feels hes lost the control.

Is there another place where the little ones can see ex? Anywhere but his house?

mediator,only yesterday,told him to go bury all the jealous partner stuff,"go dig a hole in the garden" she said "what do you want to do with it?",that worked....ive emailed him he can do his donkey work himself,if he wants them,come get them,im bored with doing ALL the donkey work and being abused for the privelege.
He will have a house elsewhere when we complete...til then,its our ex house together.hard for kids,they were born there.

Dirty pig reckons im advertising myself as "up for it" ..."a good seeing to"
i am the mother of his kids ffs

oh good grief tye. what a nasty piece of work he is. at least you have shown the mediator that you are making an effort, even if you do want to punch his lights out for making you feel horrible. i used to go kickboxing, are you able to go to any classes? or even self defence ones? just knowing that you can defend yourself physically gives you an extra confidence.

hows your day been today? ((((((((((((((tyeanddye))))))))))))))