Why did he block me? I fucking hate him

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We were together 8 months. It was amazing. He is definitely the man I want to have a future with.

He broke up with me citing the reasons that he needed to focus on work and so took a job in another country.

I have 2 dc so obviously couldn’t move with him.

A month after he left, i WhatsApped him a message to say hi and that I missed him.

A few days later he called to apologise for not responding and to tell me he’d met someone.

I played it cool and said fine. We can still be friends right? He said ok. But then he blocked me. I know he’s blocked me because none of the messages I sent have gone through.

What the fuck is his problem?

i Should say that I don’t hate him as my thread title says. I just hate that he’s blocked me.

He doesn't want to be friends. He doesn't see the future as being with you. Sorry OP, it's very much over. Time to move on.

But he told me he loved me a week before he left. We made love and he said he loved me.

I know that sounds immature. But we really made love. I just don’t understand how things could have changed so quickly

It's hard when this happens but all you can do is let time do its work until you've got over him. The fact he's blocked you will give you the space you need to do this.

If it was amazing he'd still be here with you wouldn't he? In the meantime try to focus on some distractions. Cutting contact with him is going to help you get over him more quickly than if you were still messaging him and hoping he'll change his mind.

He's making it pretty clear that he's putting that chapter of his life behind him, and you really need to accept that and move on, as painful as it might be.

'But he told me he loved me a week before he left. We made love and he said he loved me.'

My youngest daughter's father said / did the same to me before he left me and went back to Italy, leaving me alone and pregnant. So I do understand how hard that is. It sounds like a cliche but time really is a healer.

Also maybe he was with someone else all along?

I understand what you’re saying. But what I don’t understand is that we hadn’t seen each other for a while before he left because he said he needed space. Fine. So I gave him space. I’ve got 2 kids. There’s never enough time for anything anyway.
Then he leaves. Comes back 2 weeks later to see his family, and me. We have the most unbelievable night making love. Then a month later he fucking tells me he’s met someone and blocks me. WTF?

He really has made himself very clear here OP. There is no benefit to either of you in being 'friends'. That way lies doom. Find other friends.

What do you mean Bimwit? Why does being friends lie doom?

He doesn't love you and he doesn't want you in his life OP.

Some people can lie easily when they want sex. It sounds like that's what happened here. His new partner has probably asked him to block you.

He definitely didn’t lie when he said he loved me. I’m not an idiot. It was proper love making. But I do agree that his new partner has probably asked him to block me.

You can’t fake proper love making. And that’s what it was. That’s why I can’t understand why he blocked me. Fucking hell. Why her and not me?

It doesn't matter why, he has made his choice. Its hard to accept, but he wants her more than you. You need to accept it and move on I'm afraid.

Maybe she doesn't have children.

People can fake a lot of things. For whatever reason he wants her more. Maybe the situation is less complicated. Either way he is no longer interested in keeping up contact with you. Maybe he felt it was inappropriate for him given he's in a new relationship.

What? What do you mean by that Charolais. He was amazing with my dcs. They absolutely adore him.

And he said he wanted dc with me.

OP I honestly think you sound like you're losing your grip.

He's made it completely clear that he's not interested in you anymore. He WAS.

And now he's not. People change their minds.

I think his new GF probably made him block you. I know it hurts, OP. Being blocked by anyone is awful but especially by someone with whom you had a close, loving relationship. You have my sympathy.

I know your hurting but people on an Internet forum can't tell you why he blocked you. Put the phone down, turn it off and concentrate on you.

Actions are what matter, OP. Not words or things you assume. He may have given the impression of one thing but his actions are telling you another, quite clearly.

No point getting angry with people trying to point this out.

If he wanted to be with you he would be.

It’s very simple. We often make it out to be complicated so as to fit with our own perceptions and what we want but if you want the truth of a situation pay attention to actions, not words.

The thing is OP, he's moved to another country. There is no way you could be together is there? 8 months isn't enough time to know who someone really is. When you have sex with someone, especially intense sex, your brain can be fooled into thinking you love that person and there can never be anyone else for you. Heartbreak is really horrible and I'm sorry you're hurting because most of us have been there.

You deserve to be with someone who shows you they want to be with you by actually doing it as another poster above says. You'll never find him until you get over this man. So him blocking you is going to be good for you in the long run

He talked a good talk while it lasted but now he’s moved on. He’s rightly assessed that you don’t want friendship but a second chance and that is in neither of your best interests. You got future faked and unfortunately some people do this to enjoy the benefits of a coupling in record tempo.

Move on, he has.