Why did he block me? I fucking hate him

[HoldOnWaitAMinuiteNow]

We were together 8 months. It was amazing. He is definitely the man I want to have a future with.

He broke up with me citing the reasons that he needed to focus on work and so took a job in another country.

I have 2 dc so obviously couldn’t move with him.

A month after he left, i WhatsApped him a message to say hi and that I missed him.

A few days later he called to apologise for not responding and to tell me he’d met someone.

I played it cool and said fine. We can still be friends right? He said ok. But then he blocked me. I know he’s blocked me because none of the messages I sent have gone through.

What the fuck is his problem?

He didn't do wrong. He didn't you with her or her kids.

He's ended a relationship...not started WW3.

You need to build up your self esteem and realise he's not the only guy for you.

I disagree that you can't be that attached after 8 months. It didn't take long for me to really love my now husband at all and we certainly had a deep emotional bond by then. As others have said that period is usually the besotted period where everything is amazing and feelings are strong. I would have been devastated if we split up when we had been seeing each other for 8 months, even before 8 months.

Whether you would or wouldn't be that attached after 8 months has nothing to do with how the OP is feeling. She was clearly in love with him and believed the relationship was going to last. She has lost him and the dreams she had, and that bloody hurts.

OP I am sorry you are hurting and that you have had some harsh replies. Some are meant nicely for your benefit but others are just horrible for the sake of it and I wonder if they are missing the empathy gene.

This relationship is over and I hope you start to make your peace with that soon. It is early days and the pain will start to ease. Be kind to yourself

I actually agree with TheMagician too. I'm not sure whether some posters here are just thinking back to their own former relationships and referencing those, or just really wanting to let the OP know that she's not as good as she thinks she is. That's pretty shitty if so.

Thinking back, I've had relationships that went on for 2+ years that were really nothing to me. They just were something I was doing. I've had other relationships that lasted a matter of weeks and even if they fizzled out, they burned really hot at the time - and it is possible to feel deeply about somebody you've not long met.

I'm not going to dismiss what the OP feels but I'll say that she can't speak to how her ex partner was feeling about the relationship. People lie. Some do it very well.

What I always remember is that relationships are not perfectly balanced. There is always one who loves the other more and they have the upper hand, if there is one. I've done my share of 'heart on my sleeve' and I know how vulnerable that can make somebody (particularly a woman).

I'm sad to see that the consensus - not just here but in RL - is that children are seen as some sort of 'blemish' or 'defect' to many and that there are women who take on this mantle accepting it as 'the way things are'. I was thinking about how it would be if men had the power of 'keeping the children' and how different it would be... children would be far from a 'blemish' but be perceived as a 'badge of honour' and any woman would be lucky to be in their family...

The power of a different (male) perspective.

OP, I hope you have some real life support and that you're getting over the shock of being blocked. For whatever reasons he did it, they're actually good for you although it probably doesn't feel like it right now. This pain will go, try not to hold onto it.

I didn’t say it wouldn’t hurt, but it’s over, he’s not interested, I don’t see much point in facilitating her wallowing after a relationship that sounds pretty one sided.

Lick your wounds and move on OP. We’ve all been there.

You won’t be sad for the rest of your life Op try to be strong. It’s incredibly sad and hurtful when you have a loss like this but you will get past this and be happy again. Russell brand posted something really nice on his social media about dealing with exactly this. Try to have a listen if you can and if you like him! I listened and thought to myself- I wish I had someone to say sensible and understanding things when I was going through this angst. Stay strong Op. you just need to change focus.

Op I hope this helps - your seriously better off without. My ex partner did this to me. We were together two years almost and engaged, he called (coward) and said he didn't want it anymore and gave no reason at all. Then blocked me. It was devestating. 2 years on I now have a happy relationship and a baby.
He is as far as I know still alone, and miserable in the same job and living with his dad. He tried to add me again eight months later and unblock me but I refused as I didn't want him in my life after the way he had treated me.
You will be just fine. It says everything about him and nothing about you.
Good luck.

Lying I don't think that is the general consensus about children, I haven't experienced that at all and I have 3. It's all part of the competitive bashing to make the OP feel even worse. There have been some spectacularly low blows for a relationships thread, not an AIBU.
I hope you're ok, OP

I'm guessing you pretty young op and your age range don't have children yet so its make it that but harder as to if you were a but older you would find men in your age range may already have children or will be more mature.

All of the question marks.