Dealbreaker, am I right?

[Greenskybluegrass]

My BF of four months made a comment about my DD10 and now I need to end the relationship. I just need to check that I’m not overreacting.

BF hasn’t met my children, they don’t know about him. He stayed over Saturday night as my kids were away. On Sunday morning I was making him a quick piece of toast before he left (kids due back) and asked what he wanted on it, he said he wanted some of the Maltesers chocolate spread which was in a jar on the side.

I made a jokey comment about it how it “belonged” to DD10 (she’d chosen it in the shop) and that I hoped she wouldn’t notice.

He then said that he’d already tried it and when I took the lid off I could see that a bit more had gone. He said he’d helped himself with his finger and then he made a comment about DD10 “having a long man’s finger in her sweet pot (fnarr, fnarr)” which was a clearly sexualised comment. I replied with a shocked “That’s my ten year old daughter you’re talking about!” He then left and I think I need to end things because his comment has totally creeped me out.

(I've namechanged due to the content)

He’s not a nice man.

Definitely bin him. What a disgusting man.

Yuk ... definitely get rid of him ..

Gross. Bin him.

Weird comment aside - who the fuck sticks their finger in a pot of spread? Nasty, dirty, weird. Yuk.

Oh yuck, what a disgusting creep!

@leaveituntiltomorrow I know! That grossed me out by itself! When you're a guest in someone's house too

The fact he put his dirty germy finger in a jar of food in someone else's house is gross enough!

What he said is absolutely gross and I don't know anyone who would think that's not creepy in the extreme. Yuchy yuchy yuchy.

I was initially thinking that it was a bit grim, the sticking his finger in the chocolate spread and then I read his comment about your daughter and audibly gasped. I don't know how you didn't chuck him out then and there! You are not overreacting, he is disgusting and thank goodness your daughter never had to meet such a misogynistic prick!

Good grief.

You are right. Bin this one off.

Definitely end it. Your instincts are spot on here.

I would have marched him right out there, good on you for having the right instinct.

Eeeergh that is creepy, get rid OP! And a new jar of spread too!

Absolutely - revolting man. Inappropriate comment at the very least - I would Chuck him now.

That is fucking VILE. Drop him faster than a hot rock.

Total dealbreaker. On the bright side, at least this man has shown you his true creepy colours early on. Put him in the bin!

That's absolutely disgusting. What a creep!

Grim. That's made me feel a bit sick. Definitely get rid and please god chuck the spread too. I can't believe he said that. What an absolute creep. I have a daughter and if any man made that comment or anything of that ilk they wouldn't be in my house or anywhere near her. Sorry OP.

You are right in wanting to end things now with this person. That is who he truly is, bin this shithead off.

Jesus. Just adding to the consensus that you're doing the right thing. Who the actual fuck makes comments like that.

That's just made me gag

Horrific

That is the grossest thing I've ever heard. I hope you got him out very, very quickly. Disgusting.

Ew. Bin him immediately.

You’re not overreacting at all, that’s disgusting and is a clear insight into how he sees the world. He probably won’t think there’s anything wrong with it either.

That's vile and not even a funny thing to say!

Did he look embarrassed after you told him off or did he apologise?

I would dump him too if anyone said that about my kids!