My partner is packing his bags because I said I was going out.

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Just that really.

Asked him what he wanted to do tonight, he said nothing. He's been at work all day. Fair enough.

Said I might go and meet my friends for a bit, he's told me I take the "piss out of him". And he's currently packing his bags.

I don't want to split up but surely I haven't done anything wrong here????!!!!

Let him go... then go out with your friends.

Sounds like a right drama queen tbh

Why on earth would you want to stay with such a controlling manipulative fuckhead?
Help him pack! You’ll get him gone faster.

He has somewhere to go? What a baby- let him go and enjoy your night out.

There's more to this, go & talk to him, see how he's feeling.

No you haven't done anything wrong but this could be a last straw scenario for him or something.

Hope it's OK x

I'm in shock, i knew he was a bit dramatic but this is insane!

No idea where he will go, not really my concern to be honest.

Tell him to lock the door and post his key through the letterbox on his way out.

And have a great time with your friends

Do you have kids? Just wondering if him leaving would prevent you from going out?

Let him go, change the locks so he can’t get back in then go have fun with your friends

No kids, but I am pregnant. Which is why I never go out, we were trying for a long time so no drinking for 18 months for me (and obviously not tonight). I'm a self confessed bore, I'd be out for 2 hours max and then want my bed. It's not as if I have previous for, flirting, cheating, overspending, or anything that could remotely offend???

Oh no please do not go and pander to him talk to him. Silly little boy. You're well rid. The ONLY possible justification for that kind of behaviour is if he is seriously mentally ill or has just finished a hugely
distressing medic shift or similar.

I think he's got used to having the little wife at home. And then you go and selfishly remind him you have a separate existence. So he is sulking.

Any sign of this behaviour before you got pregnant? Do NOT give in. This is a turning point.

Controlling and abusive behaviour often starts when the woman is pregnant. He either wants to put you firmly in your place or he's in a panic and has decided he needs an easy way out from the responsibility of fatherhood.

Either way, he's no great loss. Just make sure he doesn't wriggle out of his financial responsibilities.

Let him go. When he wants to act like an adult he can come and talk to you about his pathetic behaviour. Oh and yes go out and see your friends anyway. You don't need to sit at home simply because he doesn't want to go out. I'm assuming he was expecting you to be there to make his dinner and wait on him for the evening.

Tell him not to let the door bang is arse on the way out. He is abusive. Get rid.

Make sure he leaves his keys with you

Enjoy your night out

He definitely wants me to play wife and sit at home 247. The best part is he never even wants to spend time with me! We sit in separate rooms in the house, so I cannot comprehend what difference me going out would make! I just want a catch up with my pals rather than sitting in bored on a Saturday night. Is that so weird?

He's still packing. I'm going to ask him to leave his keys I think.

He thinks he's punishing you when clearly he's probably doing you the biggest favour he ever will.

Could he be seeking to exploit a perceived vulnerability because you are pregnant,presumably with his child?

Just let him carry on. Whats his problem? does he want to tell you something?

If relationships are about control,well your better off on your own.

Attention seeking man child

No..it is absolutely normal and very healthy to want to see your friends.

Voice of experience... do not give in otherwise your life is going to go down the toilet. Please. Go out and have fun. Life is too short for this shizzle.

Well if he's usually a thoroughly decent bloke who's had an unusually difficult day and is maybe struggling with the idea of fatherhood, then yes going and finding out what's upsetting him so much is a good plan. TBh, even if he's not but you want to be a family with him, then you should do the same.

If he's generally so controlling then wtf would you have a baby with him, so I have to assume this is out of character.

This seems familiar, are you the poster who sits pregnant upstairs on an evening while your bloke plays his game and he doesn't like you going anywhere or doing anything?

Better than having a baby +a teen at the same time!
Get yourself out op.
And switch your phone off.