My partner is packing his bags because I said I was going out.

[kt1009]

Just that really.

Asked him what he wanted to do tonight, he said nothing. He's been at work all day. Fair enough.

Said I might go and meet my friends for a bit, he's told me I take the "piss out of him". And he's currently packing his bags.

I don't want to split up but surely I haven't done anything wrong here????!!!!

Has he gone op?

If you don't go out then his threat will have got him EXACTLY what he wants.

So he will do it again. And again. And again.

Until you don't even bother trying because it is not worth the hassle.

Make a stand. Go out. Enjoy your evening as much as you can. Don't let him control you this way.

I have been picked up by my friend and I am on my way! His keys are with me and lord knows where he's gone!

Turning my phone off and going to sink a few mocktails.
Admittedly I still don't feel too up for this but I know it's the right thing to do!

Thank you all for your support. Much appreciated x

Well done op he was hoping that behaviour would mean you'd stay in

Great decision! Please make sure you get home safely after you’ve been out.

OP I presume there must be more to this and hope he's honest enough to have a proper chat with you, especially due to you being pregnant.

Well done, OP! 👏👏👏

Your partner is packing his bags because he's a grade a arsehole. Let him pack his bags and tell him to leave his key on the way out.

Agree, make sure you get home safely and have RL support in the next few days and weeks. Talk to your friends too. You could not have stayed in to stop him leaving, that would be ridiculous. No sane person packs a bag and walks out in their pregnant partner because she is catching up with her friends

I don't understand. Was he upset that you were seeing your friends, or that you were going to do something without him? Either way, not good...

Well done. What a manipulative arse

Does he have form
For this?

Let him go.

After the dust settles your life will be so much better without him.

Well done for going out. He wanted to make you feel bad, don’t let him see that he’s ruined your night. Keep your phone off so he can’t make you feel any worse.

OP, hope you have the best evening you can, despite not feeling up to it.

Don't worry about what he does or where he goes, he's not your responsibility.

Maybe he will come round to apologising, but even so he needs to own his behaviour.

It is so much better that this happens before the baby comes. Good on your for going out. Do not let him back into your life.

I think your pregnancy has rattled him. He's surely acting like a self centered twat, but I suspect that knowing that he will not be the center of attention soon has brought out his inner toddler.

Once the tantrum is over you're either going to have to talk this out or he should leave. He'll be too busy whining to be of any help anyway.

Yeah!!

Why on Earth have you been trying for 18 months to have a baby with this man?

Well done!

Thank god you've gone out!

You realise him packing his bags was a controlling, emotionally abusive attempt to make you stay home?

I'm so glad it's your house. NEVER marry him.

Wow you are better off being rid of this controlling fucker. YANBU, and don't look back.

God help you he sounds like an awful drama queen.

Don't let him manipulate your 'me' time. It seems to be very controlling behaviour @kt1009 hope it doesn't escalate when the baby is here.

Good decision op. I’m sorry you’ve had to realise what type of person your partner is. Try and have a good night and make sure you’ve told at least one person what happened. You have nothing to be ashamed of and protecting him is a mistake.

So you were trying for a baby for 18 months? How long have you been together?

Its your house is it OP?