My partner is packing his bags because I said I was going out.

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Just that really.

Asked him what he wanted to do tonight, he said nothing. He's been at work all day. Fair enough.

Said I might go and meet my friends for a bit, he's told me I take the "piss out of him". And he's currently packing his bags.

I don't want to split up but surely I haven't done anything wrong here????!!!!

Yes hyperbole
On mn thers a formulaic response to any post about a strained relationship
LTB
Change locks
Clear the account
Don’t let door hit his arse on way out
Etc

Lock the door on his way out. Anyone that behaves like that over nothing is really not worth it.

Op I hope you are ok and you find some strength here from women who have experienced similar. Or preferably, that you are out having a lovely time with your friends right now while your partner is on his way to a Travelodge

Enjoy your night out and change the locks asap

This is ridiculous OP.

Having “me” time away from the house/DP/kids is V important to me, ditto DH.

Fortunately we are normal functioning human beings and we both having a night out each month with a lie in the next morning while the other watches the children.

He won’t let you go out, he doesn’t want to spend time with you.

Why exactly are you still with him?

Open the door for him and kick his butt out

To put into perspective how insane his behaviour is, I know I can go downstairs now, tell my boyfriend I am going to so and so's house (in his car that we share) for drinks and I'll be staying over and will be back tomorrow. All he'll say is 'Have a good time, text me when you set off home'.
I can't picture a scenario where my boyfriend would tell me I can't do something, unless its that we both want the car at the same time in which case we work it out.
There would certainly be no talk of packing bags!

I'd let him leave then think long and hard about what you want.

He sounds like he is having a temper tantrum. Let it play out - see how far he takes it. Then when he calms down sit down with him and decide if either of you still want to be in this relationship.

He sounds as though he expects you to beg him not to. I wouldn't. Has he got form for doing this? I'd let him get on with it.

Talk to him, there could be more to this. DH bottles stuff up, then appears to get upset over something trivial when in fact it’s 6 months of stuff coming out

He doesn’t even want to spend time with you when you’re both home? Christ, in a few months you’ll never have time together or time to go out, you’d think he would want to make the most of it.

If he’s not normally like this then being extra generous you could think he’s concerned for your welfare being pregnant - my DH got very weird and protective when I was pregnant when he wasn’t like that before or since. But it sounds like he has previous for being a dick.

let him go

Tried to speak. He just shouted and called me a few names. So I've walked away now. He's just sitting upstairs with his bags packed.

Shockingly enough I don't feel like going out anymore

Very strange man. Let him crack on with packing and go enjoy yourself

Go out OP. He's behaving like a toddler to get his own way.

Can you get anyone round to help him finish packing...

He isn't going to leave. He is just using the threat of leaving to control you! Classic manipulation at play here.

Please do get him out. A man who calls you names, shouts and threatens to leave when you will not toe the line is not a man you want in your life. Sorry.

OP, he hopes his behaviour will make you not feel like going out any more.
I think you need to go, even if you feel a bit meh about it now. Or he has got what he wanted, and that doesn't bode well for the future.

You must go out now. Even if you don't feel like it. Otherwise this fucking loser gets his own way.

Go oh! Even if it's to a friends for a cup of tea, or to sit in a McDonald's. Don't let him think that his sulky tantrum has 'made you see sense'. Go out, and hope he's gone when you return.

Yep, go out anyway otherwise his trick has worked.

So because he's packed his bags and is sitting there looking like an idiot you're going to stay in? Don't be daft OP, get yourself out and meet your friends. He'll be there sulking in the same position when you get back!

Leave the house. Don’t teach him that temper tantrums work. It’s good practice for when the baby is born

Go out. What a controlling wanker 😮

DP sounds controlling, things will only get worse if you allow him to dictate to you. Call his bluff OP.