My partner is packing his bags because I said I was going out.

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Just that really.

Asked him what he wanted to do tonight, he said nothing. He's been at work all day. Fair enough.

Said I might go and meet my friends for a bit, he's told me I take the "piss out of him". And he's currently packing his bags.

I don't want to split up but surely I haven't done anything wrong here????!!!!

What a drama llama he is. Tell him to leave his keys.

It sounds like you both want different things, and spending your time together in separate rooms sounds awful, certainly not a loving partnership.
There's nothing wrong with you wanting to go out with friends it's normal.
There's nothing wrong with him wanting to stay in, that's normal too.

He's obviously narked about something, did he want to spend some time with you?

Sounds like my stbxh. Get him to leave his key, it'll be easier if he's in a strop because he'll probably do it as some dramatic gesture.

No kids, but I am pregnant. Which is why I never go out, we were trying for a long time so no drinking for 18 months for me (and obviously not tonight). I'm a self confessed bore, I'd be out for 2 hours max and then want my bed. It's not as if I have previous for, flirting, cheating, overspending, or anything that could remotely offend???

Sounds like he's been looking for an excuse to flee then...

Ask him for his keys. Refuse to play this game. Do NOT beg him to stay. You don't need this crap in your life.

Hmm, this is a little overdramatic - could it be that he's trying to find an excuse to leave his pregnant girlfriend so has grabbed at the first thing you've done "wrong" to make it your fault rather than his?

Wave him off. Ask him to leave the key. Dont contact him first.

I'll bet money he's waiting for you to change your plans, apologize, and ask him to stay.

DON'T.

If any bloke is daft enough to leave over this, you have to call his bluff.
Or he'll be controlling you.

This might be the end, this might be a power play.
Either way, don't give in to a mantrum.
It only encourages them.

mantrum

wow.. you go enjoy your night with your friends OP... and let him get on with packing...

Let him go, if you cave then you set yourself up for the rest of this relationship. He sounds awful.

wtf he doesnt want to go out but youre not allowed

has he always been like this

Let him go, sounds like a prime arsehole

Tell him to fuck right off and then fuck off some more. What a man baby xx

No, don't tell him to fuck off. You're pregnant and vulnerable and he's trying to control you.

When his packing and leaving doesn't work he might do worse - so just go out and get yourself somewhere safe.

I think you're on the right track with asking for the keys. Let him go, what a drama llama. Perhaps the others are right on this thread and he was just looking for an excuse to run away, even though the pregnancy was planned could he have changed his mind/taking the cowards way out?

I think he needs to tell you why he feels you take the piss out of him. In what way?

It sounds to me that your relationship isn't brilliant if you're sitting in separate rooms of an evening and not communicating or spending time together.

OMG what a drama queen. As he leaves his keys, shout “bye then, make sure the door doesn’t hit you on the arse on the way out”, then go get ready and visit your friends x

The ONLY possible justification for that kind of behaviour is if he is seriously mentally ill or has just finished a hugely
distressing medic shift or similar

NO,NO,NO

Let’s be clear as arduous health and/or social care is it’s never a justification for being a petulant git
I’ve never got home after an arduous day and demanded dp become ‘im indoors

And let’s not be pejorative about MH, folk with mental health issues don’t routinely demand that everyone stay in...just because

Even if you don't think this is fully over (it should be imo) don't stop him going tonight. A few nights away from you will focus his mind about maybe it being time to grow up, but I'd rather hope it focuses more yours to realise you're better off without this controlling twat.

He wants attention, don’t give it to him

He’s going to get worse with a child on the scene, sorry !

I have acted completely out of character when having a mental health crisis so I speak from experience there. I said some weird things for fear of being left alone when in crisis, as is common to people in crisis...

Ditto when I've seen hideous awful things at work (not as a medic but a similar profession).

Can I reassure you I am not an abuser nor making excuses for this person's behaviour. It's well out of order in all probability, but just including 'in the unlikely event....' scenarios because we can never be sure on an anonymous forum...

Make sure he leaves before you go out and take his keys from him otherwise he'll be back before you get home, ready to 'forgive' you.......

Putting all the hyperbole and doors hitting arses to one side, that’s mn froth
On practical level you need to consider
Accommodation - joint names or solo name. Inevitably someone will rock up to suggest change locks If it’s joint names you can’t change locks etc.
Finances - joint or solo
Support. - any friends and or family to support you
Tell your MW and GP about strained relationship
If he knows passwords and settings change them

op what are you going to do?

was he like this before you got pregnant?

sitting in seperate rooms is not good

Hyperbole?? In the heat of the moment it does all feel a bit .... dramatic. It can be what galvanises people.into action.
Planning is important of course. But maybe not right now.