My partner is packing his bags because I said I was going out.

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Just that really.

Asked him what he wanted to do tonight, he said nothing. He's been at work all day. Fair enough.

Said I might go and meet my friends for a bit, he's told me I take the "piss out of him". And he's currently packing his bags.

I don't want to split up but surely I haven't done anything wrong here????!!!!

Shockingly enough I don't feel like going out anymore

Then his plan worked.

you have to go out otherwise is starts a terrible pattern even for a little bit.

I notice he hasnt gone

"Sitting there with his bags packed" ... Yeah, funny how he's not actually leaving.

What a prick.

I can understand why you don't feel like going out, he's spoilt your evening and you don't know what you'll return to. He has behaved really badly, why is he sitting upstairs with his bags packed, nowhere to go probably, book him into a hotel.

he is not going anywhere op

he's an arse

What a cock. I think you should go out, you'll enjoy your catch up while you're there. Then you can talk to him (or not) when he's had a chance to reflect on what the fuck he thinks he's playing at.

Yes, call his bluff. This can only get worse if you don't 
A friend's boyfriend (as teenagers) used to knock himself out by headbutting the wall if she was going out without him, it's such manipulation.

Yep all designed to put you in your place...

You need to go out on principle tbh.

OP go out and tell your friends. You will need them in the coming months. This guy is a twat. You are worth more.

The slippery slope beckons OP. Go out.

I know this is difficult but I think you should go out. If you stay in he has manipulated you into staying in and controlled your behaviour. He's learned this works and will do it again, you will end up isolated from friends and family.

OP, doesn't matter if you just go out for a walk. Just go out, call his bluff.

Just say "Bye, I'm going out now. Lock when you leave and put keys through letterbox." Then you go.

You don't want to go out anymore, he's got what he wanted and probably end up staying in the house.

oh dear lord do not stay in OP.

Show him that his mantrum hasn't worked.

Even if you go out to the cinema, local drive thru mcdonalds and sit in the car park for an hour, anything. Just don't give in to this ridiculous manipulation.

Sounds like he never really got over the terrible twos..

Seriously though noone should ever be called names by their partners simply because they wanted a night with friends.

He's only going to get worse. Tell him to fuck the fuck off. Sorry.

Grab a milkshake from maccie d's or something if you don't fancy going out out now. Don't let him grind you down.

Just go anywhere, he has to realise he can't control you

*Called me a few names
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For wanting to spend a few hours with friends??

Call him a taxi! Twat.

Is this the kind of home you want your baby raised in?

Go out.even if you don’t want too. You have to NOT humour this behavior or it will get worse. .He thinks pregnant women or mothers aren’t supposed to want to socialize, go out, leave the home, have a career,anything. Then it will be you’re a burden and lazy, need to get a part time (poorly paid) job around the kids. But still do everything around the house.

And go out. Tell your friends about this arseholes behaviour.

I agree, tell your friends. They may tell you things you didn't know.

He called you names when you went to talk to him? He's trying to stop you going to see your friends? You do get what's going on here, right? This is domestic violence. It's controlling behaviour. Stats show this often starts during pregnancy. Go and see your friends and tell them whats just happened. Don't keep it secret. Lots of luck and strength OP

go out like the others have said

even if its to grab a coffee and sit in the car,he dosent have to know

stay in and you will be doing what he wants

plenty of supermarkets you can waste time in

Go out, tell your friends. They will want to help.