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Being taken for a mug

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 11:04

Hi everyone
Just had a blazing row with my partner because I don't have enough petrol to take him home this afternoon. I don't get paid till tomorrow and I literally have 30 miles left which won't be enough to do the 50 round mile trip
I sent him a message saying he needs to find someone else to give him a lift or message his work saying he's got transport issues and I'll take him back tomorrow morning
He's just hung up on me, I'm currently at work and he's in my house in my bed and was fast asleep till I woke him up so he could deal with the situation.
Am I being unreasonable at being absolutely livid with his childish response?

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 30/10/2018 11:08

This is well and truly over. I would now make him your ex partner and someone else can take him back tomorrow morning. That is no longer your task. What is he doing in your house in your bed whilst you are at work?. He has indeed taken you for a complete mug here.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 30/10/2018 11:09

You also did not have to wake him up so he could deal with this situation. You're not his mother.

Angelcd · 30/10/2018 11:12

He should be paying u petrol money any way not just expecting to get a free ride when u dont have the money. He needs to grow up x

Blondebakingmumma · 30/10/2018 11:14

Can you not give you money for fuel?
He is behaving like a brat

Aprilislonggone · 30/10/2018 11:16

Tbh it would be worth borrowing a tenner to load him +his stuff into your car and dump the lot.......
*will lend you the tenner...

Trinity66 · 30/10/2018 11:19

Yeah why would he not give you money for fuel?

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 11:25

He hasn't got any money either...I'm furious and feel like leaving work to go and remove him from my house now.
I said I felt bad about it but nothing I can do when I don't get paid till the morning!

He acts like a spoilt brat and his response is to hang up on me

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poglets · 30/10/2018 11:35

Geez, he sounds vile and a dead weight on your shoulders.

Ask him to leave when you get home and give yourself room to find someone who isn't like this. He isn't your problem.

Shoxfordian · 30/10/2018 12:10

Why are you dating a 16year old? What's the point of this relationship? He should be getting himself home

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 12:27

He's got a lift and now everything is fine 😒😒🙄 just phoned me asking how I am is work okay etc
Fsake

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ZestyMaximus · 30/10/2018 12:46

Does that mean you're going to stay with him then?

ZestyMaximus · 30/10/2018 12:47

Sorry, that was a bit blunt. How do you feel about him / your relationship after today's hissy fit and unfair expectations from him?

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 13:40

That's okay, ive asked him to post my key and I don't intend on going back till he's left. Its not acceptable behaviour so it will be a few days before I make any effort to go and see him...as it's me that drives I always have to go to his house which like I said is a 50 mile round trip.
It gets a bit exhausting when the effort is all one way

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Aprilislonggone · 30/10/2018 14:17

Why bother going to see him at all op?

YelenaSabra · 30/10/2018 14:21

OP, make a note of this behaviour with the date. If he carries on behaving like this, note it down. It will be good for you to see if there is a pattern to this. I say this because it sounds like you want to stay and it can be useful to see how frequently the behaviour crops up. I used to write in my diary whenever an ex and I argued. Only when I saw how OFTEN we fought in black and white did it hit me how wrong it was.

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 16:48

So I get home and he's lying in bed, house a mess not lifted a finger! My heating on full blast watching my Netflix
I'm absolutely livid!! He says I'm looking for an argument and that I can't just kick him out.
I said I wanted him out and he won't go until his mate is picking him up as he has nowhere to go so I'm sitting in silence in my own house fighting back tears and shaking with anger

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Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 30/10/2018 16:51

Tell him to go or you'll be calling the police. That should work.

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 16:53

I've done that before a couple of years ago and apparently 'I like throwing him out'
I said I haven't done it in years and to be fair the last time I asked him to leave he had been texting OW and I found it at 4am and told him to do one and he wouldn't so I rang the police
I feel trapped until he goes in twenty minutes

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 16:54

He won't be treating my house like an all expenses hotel any other time

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Aprilislonggone · 30/10/2018 16:54

Open the door and start piling his stuff outside. He gets shitty you ring the police.
Seriously get him out now.

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 16:55

He will get violent probably which is something I want to avoid. I'm stood in the kitchen and he's on my sofa with his arms crossed above his head
I'm shaking

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PolkaDoting · 30/10/2018 16:55

Course you can kick him out ITS YOUR FUCKING HOUSE!!!

Gingerlover2 · 30/10/2018 16:56

Make sure you get the key. Be patient, sit it out and then when he's gone block and delete. This guy is a brat and as you're clearly livid, you know it's over.

PolkaDoting · 30/10/2018 16:56

Why are you allowing him to treat you like a mug?

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onemoresmartie · 30/10/2018 16:57

I just don't want any drama or kicking off im upset enough as it is and apparently it's all my fault.
My kitchen was like a bomb site and he's eaten all my food knowing it's all I had left for my dc for school tomorrow
I'm so upset

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