I have a complicated long distance relationship. A few months in. I am very much in love and everything is perfect.
Except... he tells me quite often that his children are his priority and they come first always. Which is of course how it should be. I have DCs too.
But yesterday it reached a whole new level. And I was told, quite explicitedly, that being with his DCs will always be his favourite thing to do and nothing else comes close.
“I love spending time with my kids. I prefer it to anything else in the world”
“I don't have hobbies or go out with friends because I just want to be with them”
“I want to be with them, not other people”
I am not a demanding partner. I have my own life and plenty to be getting on with. I never ask for anything. If he’s free then great if he’s not then fine.
But somehow he always finds a way to remind me exactly where I stand.
Of course his young children should come first. I would never expect anything else.
So why do I feel so shit? And why do I have zero interest in spending time with someone as their 2nd choice.
I just need to suck this up, don’t I??