is porn ok?

[lucyellensmum]

following on from another thread where someone has made a point about her DP watching pay per view porn on the TV ( i didnt want to hijack the thread so starting a fresh one) behind her back. I just wondered how people felt about it. I personally do not have a problem with porn (nothing heavy - just waiting for the feminists to pounce), as long as it is of consenting adults and is shared. I would however have a huge problem if my DP watched it while i wasnt around. As for internet porn, that is a big no no and besides, DP doesnt get chance to go on the putor cos im always on MN Actually, i can't understand why a man (or woman) would want to sit alone watching, well you know

So really just a poll of peoples thoughts and ideas. Does it degrade women or can it be empowering?

interesting that no one has posted here, Has LEM gone too far? I sincerely hope i have not offended anyone, maybe i can get the thread deleted, seriously, if it has i mean

I can't see why it is offensive LEM.

No no
This discussion has been had many times in the past, maybe people just think they have already aired their views!

I don't have a problem with it personally (porn)

fair enough

Whether people have a problem with it depends on their experiences with it. For instance someone may be "fine" with a few pics etc, until they found out their DH was heavily into interactive internet porn and all that it can lead to. And then they might find that they are not "fine" with any porn.

absolutely
I agree
I am fine with porn in healthy moderation

If I found my dh was bad porno addict I would be very un fine indeed

I have no problem with porn - as long as those involved are consenting adults then it's no big deal. It wouldn't bother me if dh wanted to look at porn on his own, either - as long as it wasn't on the PC where our daughter could access it.

I think its fine, i look at it, Dp doesnt much alone, tho we do together!

this one has been done to death,im afraid,and tends to go round in circles.

Its ok I suppose. Actually, I enjoy a little dabble myself and to be honest the only reason I would say no it's not ok is because those 'ladies' have much nicer bodies than I will ever have and are vereeee bendeeee!!

I have heard it described by men as similar to looking a expensive sports cars in the car showroom. They can look, they can drool but they know they will never own one. Its pure fantasy and escaspism.

I come from t'other end of spectrum, I don't like porn at all, and I would be hugely offended if Dh had any. But he doesn't, so it's not an issue for us.

what Diva said as to why no-one's really responded, though, lol.

shiney, that is a good point.

I have no problem with porn, my dh looks at it on line I know he does and I'm fine with that. From conversations I've had with his male friends they all do to and they all think I'm so cool for not kicking off!

Men are very visual, and naked women in sexy poses turns them on. I have some erotic fiction and I like to read that.

However, I am very confident that our sex life is very healthy so don't feel neglected or paranoid.

Time, i dont think i should like DP looking at pretty ladies!! lol, we do like to watch grown up films together, although i have to be in the mood, otherwise i just either giggle or get bored. I think it is just because it is "naughty"

Why not kerrys mum?

so DP can wank - but only if its infront of you?

kitty, yes, that would be about right, i get quite offended if DP admits to having one off the wrist in the shower (i mean, what a waste!!!!). But seriously though, if it is not shared that implies that he is looking at porn because he thinks that his wife/partner isnt up to it? Of course there might be the women who, while they have not problem with it, have no interest, and then why should the poor wee souls miss out - lol

Well, I tried settling him down with a good sports car sales dvd but it didn't quite have the same effect

So much for that theory!

I dont mind of my husband goes on his own to "wank off with porn". He has a healthy sexual appetite, and so have I, and there isn nothing wrong in our sexual relationship. At the moment my libido is higher than his, so it is more ME skulking off for some "me time", though not with porn, but with a ladies "buzzy friend". ...

So where is the distinction between a "cyber fuck buddy" and "interactive porn" and just "porn"?

milk chocolate, a very good question, and makes me shift uncomfortably in my seat

Blimey, everyone should have the opportunity to masturbate in private surely?

There is nothing wrong with my sex life and I can dress up up in sexy undies and look just as good thank you very much.

I still reckon all men would look at porn given the opportunity, show me one who says he won't and I'll show you a liar.

Now see, to me, there wouldn't be a distinction. sighs I'm so strait-laced