is porn ok?

[lucyellensmum]

following on from another thread where someone has made a point about her DP watching pay per view porn on the TV ( i didnt want to hijack the thread so starting a fresh one) behind her back. I just wondered how people felt about it. I personally do not have a problem with porn (nothing heavy - just waiting for the feminists to pounce), as long as it is of consenting adults and is shared. I would however have a huge problem if my DP watched it while i wasnt around. As for internet porn, that is a big no no and besides, DP doesnt get chance to go on the putor cos im always on MN Actually, i can't understand why a man (or woman) would want to sit alone watching, well you know

So really just a poll of peoples thoughts and ideas. Does it degrade women or can it be empowering?

matianbishop can have the whole of the upper tray, but milkchocolate I'm not so sure about you. You haven't really proved your prude credentials, nor your concern for abused sex workers and porn actors.
You've been jumping up and down insistently posting about cyber sex.

Hmm, cybersex is an odd one, because a lot of people who cyber use it as interactive erotica and have no intention of meeting up or even exchanging real names. However in my experience, given half a chance a lot of men will try to turn it into a real event which IS obviously cheating.

Generally my rule on cheating is it's anything that you wouldn't feel comfortable doing if your partner was sitting next to you.

I don't mind my dp looking at porn, but I would have a problem with him cybering. Luckily he's not interested in that, just likes looking at boobies!

as a couple we have watched it together occasionally not sayin we ever get to end!
I dont find porn does anything for me its the affection, wanting i then get from dp!
I prefer to joing in when dp masturbating, i would rather sort myself by myself (no rabbit/batteries!!!!!!)
If porn become i regular occurance i would have issues with that!

lol, MB

Am not comfortable with porn - saw a documentary on it a while ago and it was truly, truly ghastly.

I love coffee cremes

charming, milkchocolate.

ahundredtimes, I'll have you know I don't read improving novels. But I'll have the chocolate.

Cybersex, cheating? yes, if it's not with you dh while he's at work. But I'm being ignored for some reason so I shall slink off to a thread where I'm also offered chocolate...

Yeah but come on, not everybody in the porn or even sex industry is in it to fund a drug habit (some are, obviously) and most love the attention and the money they get from baring what nature gave them!

As long as the actors in porn look as if they're there of their own free will and having fun doing something safe, sane and legal, what's the harm?

I am still here, and you are a friend for life Huw, as I hate coffee creams.

If there is someone here who likes strawberry creams, you can move in with me!

I feel a bit naive about porn, never watched any,unless you count a very wanky (quite literally) art series of short films called Restricted Really interesting but hard to watch film by Larry Clark about porn. Oh and i saw that pammy and tommy video - but that was just comedy, they spent the whole time in cars and boats saying 'hey, like, where are we?', and then doing it a bit.

I don't agree with the idea though that if your dh is masturbating there's something wrong with your relationship - people still deserve their own privacy and to get off on whatever they choose (unless illegal or dangerous or really really freaky), i wouldn't demand rights over anyones ...um...habits.

Agreed Boco, masturbation is everyone's right (just not when I'm lying in bed next to you trying to sleep. I hate shaky beds!!!)

If they didn't want us to play with it, they wouldn't have put it so close to our hands, imho!

Waaah, no no! Not keen on that playing with things near your hand stuff there. Keep busy banana, take up embroidery - keep your hands above your head dammit!

LOL, I have NO prude credentials, but love chocolate!

I am sure bananabump would love some, too, lol

Sorry Suebaroo, I have apparently no chocolate, and I am sorry but I didnt mean to ignore you, only your prude battle with 100 times. Forgive me, I can offer a lollipop!

I love all the soft centres - strawberry, orange, coffee.

Always leave the toffees

I like hard centres. hint hint.

The thing with porn is that its just plain misleading....the men last for hours, the women have perfectly maintained fanjos, dont get friction burn and have multiple orgasms....

Should be done under the trade descriptions act imo!!!

I don't think it's meant to look like real life though - what would be the fun in that? - is fantasy which is why Bananabump has the fantasty idea that everyone is there of their own free will, showing off and having a lovely time.

Don't have a prob with it.
Think it can be quite educational when used in a loving relationship.
Hope my mum doesn't read this
As for the whole so called feminist view.These women are not forced or coerced into porn and they are actually well paid.Many use it to pay for a career etc. so don't get how it could be bad for feminism.I always thought feminism was about to chose what we do either with our minds or bodies not about doing it only when we are told by others that it's ok

I think its exploitation and degrading to women but that's a whole other thread and prob one in which Xenia would come in and say well, working full time as a porn star and earning money is better than being a SAHM!!

Xenia - if you see this, am teasing XXXX

ahhh that's sweet singingmum. Is it feminist then? I just thought I was being overly empathetic really. Do you think prostitutes are the same? I mean using their own free body and will to do what they want?

sorry haven't got time to get into a detailed discussion butI think you are being rather naive, singingmum.

Highly paid porn stars are few and far between.

LOL, sorry boco! I guess I'll just speak for myself then!

Yeah agreed that most porn is very very staged, I wish it would be a bit more realistic in terms of showing real foreplay (in effective amounts) which would show men that no, it isn't just us who require a bit of a warm up!

Because they sort of are, is just a job really, so they can put their kids through school or fund a drug habit or whatever. Is fine. But a bit embarassing to get all hot and sweaty over no?