is porn ok?

[lucyellensmum]

following on from another thread where someone has made a point about her DP watching pay per view porn on the TV ( i didnt want to hijack the thread so starting a fresh one) behind her back. I just wondered how people felt about it. I personally do not have a problem with porn (nothing heavy - just waiting for the feminists to pounce), as long as it is of consenting adults and is shared. I would however have a huge problem if my DP watched it while i wasnt around. As for internet porn, that is a big no no and besides, DP doesnt get chance to go on the putor cos im always on MN Actually, i can't understand why a man (or woman) would want to sit alone watching, well you know

So really just a poll of peoples thoughts and ideas. Does it degrade women or can it be empowering?

I agree with Dr northerner.

i agree Dr northener, but i would expect DP to stick to his imagination and be thinking only of ME!!! Because of course, i do the same! lol hurrah for duracel

yeah thats a problem

but if you have a healthy sex life together then why isnt he intitled to have a go alone?

KM, I'd say problem, but I appear to be the thread prude, lol

I have a subscription to what could be classed as a porn site (though its not just that, its many things) and DP doesnt have a problem with tat,

on occasion he has logged on it and i couldn't care less.

Id rather him go on there at 2am then come upstars and try it on with me when im fast asleep!

But like KM said if its not in modertaion and its causing problems then its obviously not good.

Anything is OK until it becomes an addiction and puts barriers between couples.

"As for internet porn, that is a big no no and besides"

Wht, did a feminist ambush you on WWW?

God i love porn, watch by myself with rabbit and im in heaven. Dp on the other had doesnt like it, says its boring. He doesnt mind that i watch it without him, his glad that im sexually relieved and not bothering him for sex when he is too tired for it. It keeps us both happy.

Now you see I'm not keen at all. I can't get over the Industry side of it all. I can't quite cope with the fact that the people in it all being on crack and a bit fucked up. If I was a man, I don't think I could go to a prostitute for the same reason. Would make me sad. I just can't quite distance myself sufficiently.

Am now thread prude, prude with empathy overload.

Who says porn stars are all on crack?! I'm sure some are, but then it is prevalent in many industrys I guess.

If my dh was watching porn and NOT wanting sex with me then it would be a problem but as long as he still fancies me I can't say it bothers me.

Me! No honestly, is a horribly corrupt and powerful business and really isn't peopled with nymphomaniacs who lurve having sex on camera, I'm afraid. Because I know this, I could never really suspend sufficient disbelief.
Might be true of most industries, but nothing like this one, I promise you.

But what about cyber sex (i ask again, lol)
Would it be ok for you or your oh to go to an adult chat room and have cybersex with some unknown stranger?

wants to fight with ahundredtimes to be thread prude

prude with empathy is a pretty good description. Even if they're not being exploited, it still just feels wrong to be watching someone else in flagrante.

Nobody has an opinion on cybersex??
Is it cheating? Is it the same as porn?

Suebaroo and I are settling down with improving novels and a nice box of chocolates. I'm afraid we know nothing of which you speak.

Agree with 100times.

If you can explain what cybersex is then maybe I can have a view!

Well, I am hoping to gain enlightenment too....

Mercy is a person of great perception. She can have a chocolate too.

cybersex= typing dirty?

If so codders would be the queen of deviant cybersex!

Happy Birthday.

Who is codders? Where is codders when we need enlightenment? Sample?

Cod. She isn't (I hasten to add) an expert of cybersex. Just, rather not and expert on typing!

Right..

Can I settle in and share the chocolate box then?

I have one if you have some hard centres left (fnar, fnar)

I'm anti porn btw, and I feel that exploits many women and has links to some nasty stuff.

But I am a well known MN 'prude'

Budge over, and give us a choc!